Dating Thread 89

[Docmartensanddungarees]

Candle light and soul forever
A dream of you and me together
Say you believe it, say you believe it

Free your mind of doubt and danger
Be for real, don't be a stranger
We can achieve it, we can achieve it

Come a little bit closer
Baby, get it on, get it on
'Cause tonight is the night when 2 become 1

Apologies for garbled post!

Chilli well done for bullet dodge. Sounds definitely worth putting in a bit of work to check them out. I haven't really done that before but it would've rooted out a couple of dodgy ones I think, in hindsight.

Really hope you had a lovely dinner with Mr M .

Newto - yes, he might not be very texty. Hope the meeting goes well and he might step up the texting after. If he hasn't done OLD (as he's through a friend), he might not be in the habit of all the pre-meet texting and just be thinking "I don't know her so we'll meet then see...".

Jesy sorry you didn't get the job. Meal sounds lovely, I'm hungry!

super drinks date on Friday sounds nice. Glad the headache has gone. Hope you chance upon MOTS today .

newto that's good on blind date's text :). I'd keep everyone going for now and see who is the winner .

It was nice to see Mr Y last night. My body still likes him but I'm still unsure - he is just a bit awkward but very open, maybe a bit naive? Quite similar to me so maybe it is that i don't feel he offers anything complementary to me - I don't think he would bring anything new out in me but it would be very comfortable. I feel I'd bring out more independence in him and sort of challenge him a bit more than he would me. I'm just so undecided. Won't see him for a week now anyway. And we live 40 mins away from eachother, both have kids so each very rooted in where we live. I have a feeling (from things he says) that he fondly imagines DS and I will just up sticks and move in to his big house with him and his life would continue 100% as is but basically, I don't think I'd want to :(. I mean, obviously I def wouldn't want to yet (after 4 weeks!) but even looking into the future, I can't imagine ever wanting to. But he'd need to be living there as his 2 school age kids are really settled there (he kept the family home) and my DS hasn't started school yet (and Mr Y keeps going on about what a great preschool and school he has in his village ). I know moving in with eachother would be WAY down the line but it has to be a consideration now I think... Maybe I'm just looking for excuses!

rasp of course you have to think that far ahead when you have children involved.that is what concerns me-can't see how anyone else's life could combine with mine.
super good luck for fri date - I've explained since re the messaging (he thought he'd replied last night and hadnt -he messaged me today once he realised).yes I instigated the contact over weekend and yesterday but he did the initial texting.I think he's just a genuine straightforward guy.no game playing and no over-familiarising through streams of texts before meeting.
Managed to sort lunch with school guy today so we'll see how that goes. as for Mr Tinder still not sure.May be worth a meet and see.

Thank you Rasp we had a lovely dinner and then I came home as I feel like I haven't been home properly for ages.

Super good luck for Friday. Sometimes the one that you least expect to like surprises you.

jesy sorry about the job but sounded like you had a good night out

Newto sounds like you are keeping busy Hope all goes well.

Blossom have a fab time on your date

Raspberry I do think you have to at least consider things long term when you have children as a hasty decision has more impacting consequences. Enjoy the body for now, you are not doing any harm

Waves to all! off for lunch with Mr M ( I don't just eat out all the time!!)

really ooh have a lovely lunch.
Rasp you know it very early days, I would not over think things for now, just have a bit of fun
Mr Salior already been in touch with a funny message he always seem to be able to make me smile also saying he is looking forward to tonight, am getting a bit nervous, not like me. I just hope I am not disappointed

It's funny listening to all of you :) Makes me realise it's not just me confused and undecided! Glad I joined the thread. Dating not as easy as I expected but it's nice to see some happy and loved up moments unfolding....

Britney sometimes you wonder how it can be so dam difficult. I thought when I stated OLD, I meet a few people and then it would happen I would meet the one. Here I am a year later still going on date after date, meeting seemingly all sorts.

Newto good luck for lunch! I agree, it is hard to work out how you could combine lives when you have kids. I'd happily live with someone but couldn't move away from the local area really. I figure if it is really right, we'll both compromise a bit.

Really enjoy your lunch :)

A lovely story - my boss who has been internet dating for ages has got together with someone he has known for 20 years. She's lovely, I'm so happy for them! And I got to tell him "I told you so..." as I said when he met the right person he'd just know . Now I just need to take my own advice!

Just nipping in quickly to say good luck to all who have dates today/tonight!

Hope the sparks fly with Mr Sailor Blossom

I can tell you I work in the weddings industry and about half of the people who get married right now met online. Hence I thought it would be a bit easier.

I chatted to a lot of them about how it worked and a FAIR FEW of the women were "not too sure AT ALL" on the first date. If that helps!

Ha ha thank you rioux I will give an update later, could go one was or another.

blossom didn't realise Mr Sailor date tonight - can't wait for the update
really have a lovely lunch with Mr M not jealous much
rasp great story about your boss
rioux look forward to update on old flame part 2 tomorrow

Lunch ok but he's not for me-his life is just completely different to mine and not attracted to him.would happily stay in touch as friends though.just got to figure out how to let him down gently now.

May have had a cheeky FaceTime with Mr T earlier-breaking all the rules,fun though but can't figure out if I should be trusting him or not.if I knew he was trustworthy 100% it would be great.Hoping to meet soon.

Urgh, guys. Feel so awful. Can't believe how badly I've been played.

MR AWOL....7 weeks of contact and waiting for a date while I was away. "Can't wait to see you" and all this blather. Due to have a date this weekend. He suddenly went quiet. Photographed today all over Facebook with someone else and did not even have the DECENCY to tell me. Just ignored my messages.

britney so sorry, what an idiot! Do you think he was stringing you along and seeing her, hedging his bets? Just keep repeating "lucky escape", I wouldn't want to be in a relationship with a man who'd just disappear on soneone.

rioux I'm seeing it as longterm as I ideally would like another baby and am 35 so, while ill never force it (would only do it if things were 200% great), I don't really want a relationship where there'd be no progression. If it hasn't happened I a few yrs time I'll be thrilled with just DS though and may then take a different tactic if still single! The kids themselves aren't the issue, it's more that we are both fixed in terms of location. Also mr y is so full on in a long term way, I don't think it'd be right to do a "let's see what happens" with him as if be trying to have things on my terms and I'd end up having to push him away (as I'm already sort of doing :/).

In terms of kids meeting people, I've been pretty open about DS meeting people as he's only 3 and meets lots of my friends. He does have memory of an elephant though so freaks me out by reeling all their names off every now and then! But in terms of my opinion and based on experiences I think it can work well to explain and be honest with kids and say you're friends and seeing how things go (explanation age appropriate!). I think it teaches kids good things to see relationships in early stages and even that it's ok to finish a relationship if it isn't working. And that relationships don't have to be forever.

No idea what to make of this, but he just text me to say he couldn't wait to see me. Woman was a friend. Maybe I am completely paranoid...

Evening everyone

Britney I am sorry that you don't know what to think regarding Mr Awol. Perhaps it is still worth meeting up IF you really want to but be a little wary??

Blossom eagerly waiting your update!!

newto Glad the lunch went ok even if sparks didn't fly. If you are happy with Mr Tinder and facetime, then what's the harm?

And you wouldn't be jealous if you knew where we actually ate lunch

Thanks everyone, I did have a lovely time at lunchtime; Mr M away for a couple of days now...

Hope all dates went well tonight

Hello back home. Was a lovely first date, we had a lovely evening. I love his personality and quite fancy him. Had a bit if a heated moment in the car park, def think we will be meeting again.

Hope it's a very good sign that blossom hasn't docked yet (channeling rioux ).

britney hmmm, I think the AWOL-ness combined with fb woman would raise the red flags high but it's hard when you've invested a lot and want to give benefit of doubt. Could you meet and keep your guard up? Or do more digging?

really where did you have lunch?? (In bed...? )

Thanks rioux glad it makes sense (slightly wish I didn't want any more babies as life would be much easier... Maybe...!).

I have no idea what to make of it, but now I am back and he's back he wants a date tomorrow too...says he can't wait for Saturday, so that' two dates in a week. Not really sure what to make of he "no contact" for a week but I might just ask him face to face.

I did really like him but the confusing behavior was a turn off

I cant wait to hear about your date blossom