Dating Thread 89

[Docmartensanddungarees]

Candle light and soul forever
A dream of you and me together
Say you believe it, say you believe it

Free your mind of doubt and danger
Be for real, don't be a stranger
We can achieve it, we can achieve it

Come a little bit closer
Baby, get it on, get it on
'Cause tonight is the night when 2 become 1

That's a great idea to change settings so as not to be found with your mobile number! It freaked me out a bit...especially reading chillis post.

I quite like the idea of adding someone on FB before meeting them though because it makes me feel more secure meeting a stranger if I have their identity.

I can also tell a lot from their posts, rapport with friends etc. and it's a way to get to grips with the type of person they are rather than the image they try and put across.

Totally Britney, you get a glimpse of how they interact with the world if they use it much. Also how people interact with them. It can tell you a lot.

doc sorry to hear things are quiet. Yes great about my son, let us hope he has learnt a lesson. I am very excited about MR Sailor which is slightly worrying as normally I have zero expectations. He is calling me tonight again

Lurking I hear you - I am going to take a step back, however someone who's just joined POF and found it nuts has started to email me... he wants kids though and I said well at my age etc... that may not happen... eek!

Doc yes I will ensure I bump into MOTS. I'm seeing an agency this Friday and taking some time off in April to job hunt so I won't give up on OLD just it gets all too much sometimes.

jesy up to you if you just want a starter.

britney wouldn't do 30 minute slots but would do 45 mins or 1 hour with each.

doc sorry no LMN (is that right acronym?) action. Facebook to me is strange as I don't use it anymore though I have a spare profile for spying and messaging one or two old friends.

I'm going to disagree with Britney. Psycho man invited me to check out his facebook which I did. It was cleverly staged to make him look like the perfect family man. There was little interaction between him and others.
He has a famous namesake and he put Sir before his name, I thought it was humorous at the time.
Facebook allows people to find out where you live and work, don't go there.

He's sent another message today. I've ignored it.

Super

I'm starving big meal lol
Well wish me luck I'm due to meet my ex date lol at six she seems nice weirded I know but I spoke to Mr post and he say she look his type xxx
Ill up date

Really scary stuff Chilli. Did he have friends that were normal and normal interactions? My facebook does not say where I live or work!

Quick story here about how awful men (and women I am sure!) in online dating can be.

The very first person I was chatting to on POF several month ago that I liked quite a bit and the only person I have slept with, I was put off the relationship because I noticed he was very frequently logging onto POF. I flt it was too often to be "just checking" and I felt like it gave me a bad feeling. I ended things and felt terrible for a long time because I did really like him. Actually even cried a bit because he was indignant at the accusation he was shopping around, but my gut just told me it was a bit "off".

Six months on and he's dating someone else. He'd met me lots of times, had a weekend away with me and even met my DC and we actually have mutual friends in real life so we stayed FB friends.

New GF seems very lovely...young DC too. And on FB the last month it's all been very sweet...him taking her for birthday treats, valentines day and even a holiday booked together!

So anyway, I logged on today and he'd updated his profile TODAY...new headline, changed his location to the place he is travelling to for work.

What a SHIT! So glad I listened to my gut! He was a super nice guy and I still enjoy spending time with him but so many of these men meet you and spend so long convincing you that they are being honest and the want a wife / kids and to settle down but they just CANNOT break the addiction of looking for more.

Really I think I do need to end it with Mr Y but ummm... my body seems to really like him . I feel like I keep going "oh, OK - one more date to see..." .

Super good plan to meet Mr Geek. Hope you got some good flirting in with MOTS. Glad you're sticking with OLD, maybe just scale back chatting/get super picky if it is taking up too much time.

Newto - sounds positive on tinder date and blind date too :). I think texting on the morning of the date to confirm plans sounds good. I'm not sure on the sexual stuff, I don't mind a little but i tend to just bat it away and act a bit coy till we've at least met. It really just depends on how I see them and how the momentum seems to be.

Britney - glad you have lots of texters. Maybe try not to compare with Mr AWOL as you had so many texts with him that builds a lot of feelings? I agree I have to know a bit about a man before I get feelings for them or even attraction. I reckon get a few meetings in place, they may surprise you? I've had some surprises - sometimes for better and sometimes for worse so I meet if I think I could fancy them. Haha, love Really's idea of a date with 8 men. That'd save time . It'd be great if you could just speed date a load of men you'd selected from OLD, that would be super time efficient! I think it'd be really hard to fix up in practice though - and very stressful! I've managed 4 in a weekend before though, 2 on Fri night, 1 Sat morning, 1 Sunday evening. i like supers idea of an hr each - if you can get a babysitter for a day you could do 1 elevenses coffee, 1 lunch, 1 mid aft coffee/tea, 1 teatime and cake, 1 early evening drink, 1 later drink. I think I'd keel over if I had to do any more than that!

Raven ah, sounds like the best plan if you weren't feeling it. "I don't want to waste your time..." is a good gentle let down.

Blossom glad things are looking up for your DS and that he was sweet yesterday.

Doc thanks - I dunno why I'm being so indecisive on Mr Y! Your 7 week timescale could work out quite well for me to be dateless for - if I ditch him I'll keep you company , although I'm really hoping for you that you get to meet LMN sooner! Yes, Mr T has had his chance - I'm just not sure how to tell him I don't want to be his friend if/when he contacts again. Seems harder somehow than actually dumping someone!

britney Yep Mr N was like that - supposedly 'just checking notifications' on pof but on every day.Mr E too I can see is online most days.

i like supers idea of an hr each - if you can get a babysitter for a day you could do 1 elevenses coffee, 1 lunch, 1 mid aft coffee/tea, 1 teatime and cake, 1 early evening drink, 1 later drink. I think I'd keel over if I had to do any more than that!

I like that idea?! I might do that, because I hate missing time with DC multiple times in a week and waiting to go on a date with all of them could take months.

Newtodating from my perspective it feels very difficult to feel comfortable on a 4th or 5th date when you're opening up to them if you feel like they are still checking daily. It's a bit soul crushing.

Wow, Britney that's awful of your ex! His poor girlfriend, I hope she finds out what an arse he is before she is in too deep :(. Well done you for following your gut instinct, it is so hard to do when someone gives you all the excuses. It was the same with my Mr T, showing as online every day and the odd profile pic change but apparently he "wasn't talking to anyone else and only went on line to delete those auto messages about meet ups etc"(it was POF) . It is definitely something to be very aware of.

Still texting Mr New Man most of the day today. Haven't officially arranged the date yet but I'm keeping my fingers crossed that it will happen, will be very disappointed if it doesn't Still, as much as I fancy him, I'm not going to pin all my hopes on this one.

Two guys from speed dating have asked me out. I have turned one down as I only wanted to be friends with him. The other one I'm undecided. A third one has emailed but as I'm not sure I can't remember what he looks like I'm still thinking about whether to respond to that one!

raspberry I know! And the worst? He met her at work...she probably doesn't even KNOW he is on POF which is just so much worse.

That is so brazen of him britney, really hope it all blows up in his face :/. Re: dates, I sometimes squeeze in to the working day (lunch/coffee) or between work and home so I don't miss time with DS. I do have a pretty flexible job and can make up time from home though.

That's also a good idea...quick lunch or coffee at lunch

Dodged yet another bullet,
Nice sounding chap, great ( text) rapport has denied me information about the area he lives in, not answered my call when he was at hone ( texted to say dad was poorly?) Not told me where he works and such, too evasive. Guess he's married.

Chilli have you started messaging today to the new man? We are all conscious of not to give out too much info at first and he may be the same? I am not sure I would tell someone straightaway where I work?!

Rasp Well if your body likes him, where's the harm?

Britney you must do the dates and report back!!

Sorry missing loads out but needed an early night. Quick dinner with Mr M and home early.

Waves to everyone and wishes all the dates and messaging a success

Hmm caved and text Mr Blind Date,he replied,i replied then nothing-maybe he's just not that texty a person?i guess I'll just wait until date day now and message him in the afternoon to confirm time.

Second date arranged with Mr New Man for Friday, straight after work. Would have preferred it sometime over the weekend but we both have quite packed schedules plus from previous OD experiences, it's better to take the first few dates slowly anyway. So, I got some lovely shoes yesterday which I'm going to wear and will wear one of my nice work dresses. Looking forward to it a lot. There was a lot of texting going on last night which was good

Didn't get the job , but have put me forward for another.

Meal out was great had beer battered fish and chips lol plus half of Mr post onion rings ,

The girl who wanted my ex number turned up and the got on so well.
Really chuffed for him , he a twat at times but deep down he kind. Just don't show it x

Morning all - headache seems gone now! I think cat not scratching at my door at stupid o'clock (6am?!) has helped...

britney what a sod and I agree with you, lots of men on OLD seem to treat it as a candy/sweet shop!

jesy sorry about job but good you have another potential one lined up. Good news for your ex too!

Scrambled that sounds good re 2nd date and it's nice to look forward to a date a lot and plan your outfit (and buy new shoes!). The texting is a bonus!

I have a drinks date on Friday after work, he wouldn't normally be my type as 49, wrong star sign (I know!) but we are seeming to get on quite well, on the shorter side re height (5ft 8 or 10 I think), the chat over email is flowing nicely, he also reads - which I like to be able to talk about - but he seems normal and laughed... I put something on my profile recently about not being impressed and finding plenty of wet fish on POF, he found that funny so that's good!

NewTo - is Mr Blind Date a new option? I have to say sorry but if men want to make an effort they will text, in my experience. I could be totally reading that wrong but that's my experience. Men will also make an effort in other ways. Women will too.

Morning all.
super seems we have the same problems, my boy kitten decided to leap around the bed, have a fight with the beside lamp and stalked the Orchid my son bought me. Bloody hell tried to get some beauty sleep for tonights date, wish I had not bothered.

Drinks date sounds nice Friday, you never know until you meet.

Will catch up with thread in a bit - just had to come on to share my entertaining morning-so i had a text from Mr Blind Date-he'd sent a text last night but it had sat in his outbox and not sent, Mr Will catch up with thread in a bit - just had to come on to share my entertaining morning-so i had a text from Mr Blind Date-he'd sent a text last night but it had sat in his outbox and not sent so all good there. Mr Tinder has also just text and then guy from school who I bumped into last weekend. I seem to be in demand!School guy and Mr Blind Date seem genuine but Mr Tinder very sex orientated a lot of the time and also very active on Tinder.School guy very sweet but wouldn't be intellectually enough for me and has no kids,neither does Mr Tinder either actually.I'll probably delete my tinder account again today.I do get forgetful about who's said what sometimes-oops!