I've name changed for this as it's quite specific and will out me if anyone I know reads it.
My dd is 15 and has recently joined a kind of club where she has found a new hobby which she loves and is progressing extremely well with.
She has a kind of mentor there who is a man the same age as me. He was married, has a DS from a previous relationship and is in a relationship.
Dd has become quite close to him. He's training her so obviously they spend a lot of time together, and he has started giving her a lift home sometimes, as well as helping her with a subject she struggles with at school. This takes place at our house so I'm always around.
They chat on an instant messaging app too, and use a chat group related to the activity that they do.
I feel a little uneasy. I don't know if I'm being unreasonable. I feel that feeling uneasy about it sounds horrible because he's helping her. I'm grateful that he looks out for her and that he uses some of his spare time to help her.
She has self esteem issues and anxiety issues and feels able to talk to him about things that she can't talk to me about. I feel that this makes her vulnerable.
Once again, I don't know if this makes me unreasonable but if my husband was behaving like this with a 15yo girl I wouldn't like it.
The club that she goes to welcomes me, I have met and chatted with staff and I'm confident that she is well supervised there. It helps her calm down when she's anxious, helps build her confidence and makes her happy. I don't want to take that away from her.
Any thoughts appreciated, even if only to point me in the direction of my grip.