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What would you spend it on????

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OneDayMySleepWillCome · 14/02/2015 10:02

My lovely DH gave me £100 and told me to spend it on a) something I want not something I need and b) not to just put it in my purse and dwindle it on paying for little bits of things here and there.

Bit of back story- we live comfortably. I am a SAHM, DH works full time. 2 little ones. They have everything they both need and want. We can afford to buy whatever we need within reason. We're by rolling it it my any means- we have o save to go on holiday or for a big purchase but we don't have to stress about money. Own our own home etc.

That said I would never have £100 to just go and spend on me! he says nothin practical- I immediately thought of new nursing bras! As that would be something we would just buy cos it was needed.

So what you all of you do with it???

Just a little wondering post really- incase anyone thinks I'm in a quandary as to what to do! I'm not! I'll go shopping and have not much trouble finding stuff probably! I was just wondering what everyone else would go for!

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DeliciousMonster · 14/02/2015 10:06

Bizarre.

I'd buy a new chainsaw chain, and some big plantpots.

If you need a new nursing bra, then get it out of the household account.

thisisnow · 14/02/2015 10:12

I'd have a massage, get my hair done or something nice and relaxing!

PastPerfect · 14/02/2015 10:12

I'm struggling to reconcile "We can afford to buy whatever we want within reason" and never having £100 to spend on yourself. And if that is true why on earth dont you have all the nursing bras that you need?

MishMooshAndMogwai · 14/02/2015 10:15

I'd buy myself a lovely pair of boots, really good quality ones that will last years.

And if there's any left over Id go to costa and sit and enjoy my me time admiring my new purchases Grin

Don't see why it's bizzare BTW, I think it's a nice thought rather than wasting the money on chocolates and flowers.

ShatnersBassoon · 14/02/2015 10:17

I'd buy chocolates and flowers.

nottonightjoesphine · 14/02/2015 10:23

Why is this bizzare?
She's saying they are comfortable but are not extravagant, hence why it feels like a rare indulgence.

I would definitely have a treatment of some sort, like reflexology or a facial. Then I would buy myself a book or some lovely cosmetics.
I know for me personally it became hard to splash cash on myself after I became a parent so I say go for it OP

HermioneGrangerHair · 14/02/2015 10:24

How come your husband can liberate £100 from the household budget for you to spend on something frivolous, when you don't feel you can justify something practical like nursing bras?

Anyway, I sort of know where you're coming from. I rarely spend money specifically on me. I'm not that bothered about new clothes, and the things that give me greatest pleasure are things for the house: A picture, a pair of candlesticks, a beautiful set of cutlery... It's taken my husband years to understand that those are the things that really bring me joy, and if the rest of the household enjoy them too, that's just an added bonus!

So think about what you would really enjoy, unfettered by what other people think you should enjoy. But if it's nursing bras, buy them out of the essentials pot, and save your fun-money for when you can think of something non-essential Wink

DontKillMyVibe · 14/02/2015 10:26

Perfume, make-up, manicure, facial? Handbag? Shoes? New dress?

What would make you feel frivolous and happy buying rather than practical and sensible?

APlaceInTheWinter · 14/02/2015 10:28

PastPerfect yy I struggled with those points too. Confused

So OP don't buy nursing bras from your 'gift of £100'.

I guess if I was going to spend £100 and make it an 'event' purchase then I'd put it towards a teeny tiny painting by a local artist.

DontKillMyVibe · 14/02/2015 10:30

Ooh yes, painting is a good idea if that's your thing. Plus it's something you'll be able to keep for years

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OneDayMySleepWillCome · 14/02/2015 10:34

Great ideas! I hadn't though of a treatment style thing!!

Re the nursing bras! It's not that I don't feel I can justify getting them. I Have quite a few already but they're all abit boring, I had thought I'd have stopped feeding by now- so a month or so ago when I saw some really nice ones I thought there's no point as I'll be stopping soon. Now however breastfeeding plans have changed so for some reason these nice bras popped into my head. So when dh gave it to me I immediately responded, 'ooh there was these lovely nursing bras' to which he replied 'don't you dare! If you need them buy it out of the house account!' Which to be fair, is exactly what I would have done anyway- it was just an impulse thought!

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AddToBasket · 14/02/2015 10:36

Some weird responses here. It really doesn't matter if you can't 'reconcile' the Ops situation.

OP, how lovely! Do you like make up? If it was me I'd treat myself to a Tom Ford or Chanel palette and also buy Aromatherapy Associates Deep Relax bath oil (super spendy, super relaxing).

lilacunicorn · 14/02/2015 10:38

YY to the treatment followed by a new book & coffee & cake in lovely coffee shop to enjoy the new book in peace.

BerylStreep · 14/02/2015 10:38

I'd buy make up and get a pedicure.

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OneDayMySleepWillCome · 14/02/2015 10:39

And pastperfect it's not that I would never have £100 to spend on myself as such...more that if I needed or particularly wanted something I would go and get it but I wouldn't think 'right, I'm going to go and spend some money on myself' if that makes any sense at all?! If we did say find £100 on our doorstep, we'd probably be really boring and put it aside for a night out or buy the kids a haul of clothes or just generally save it? That's what we do with whatever's left over at the end of the month atm.

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PastPerfect · 14/02/2015 10:49

Well in my world being handed cash to "go treat yourself" is actually only a treat if it's a sum of money that is extravagant (whether it be ten pound or ten thousand). If you can treat yourself by buying yourself whatever you want then receiving £100 would strike me a a lazy can't be arsed to give you any consideration type gift

PastPerfect · 14/02/2015 10:50

And really I'm not trying to be shitty but I thought given this was posted in relationships it was either a joke or you were actually testing the water to understand how weird your DHs behaviour was

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OneDayMySleepWillCome · 14/02/2015 10:53

Oh gosh, well that me told! Its an extravagant sum for me to just go and spend on myself and I think it was lovely of DH. I actually got a few other little lovely things with the money- which I didn't mention as it wasn't about valentines that I was posting, was just meant to be a general chat about what you would buy yourself rather than a critique of my husbands thoughtfulness which imo is totally untrue anyway! Each to their own anyway!

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OneDayMySleepWillCome · 14/02/2015 10:54

Nope. It was meant as neither a joke or testing the water! I literally meant what I wrote?!

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DeliciousMonster · 14/02/2015 10:56

If you are married, and have a shared pot, then he is just giving you your own money dressed up as 'go treat yourself'...

nottheOP · 14/02/2015 11:01

Go shopping on your own or with a girlfriend and buy what you want. It's bliss when you don't get much me time.

A great pair of jeans is what I'd get at the moment. I hate all mine!

GinSoakedBitchyPony · 14/02/2015 11:03

I think this would have been more appropriate in Chat, than Relationships.

eg "Just a little wondering post really- incase anyone thinks I'm in a quandary as to what to do! I'm not! I'll go shopping and have not much trouble finding stuff probably! I was just wondering what everyone else would go for!"
It seems like OP's looking just to have a chatty thread about what others would buy with it?

I wasn't sure if it was a Valentine's Day 'gift' and there was some issue with the relationship, so didn't reply when I first read the thread.

APlaceInTheWinter · 14/02/2015 11:05

OneDay I think it's because you posted in relationships that some posters (myslef included) automatically looked at the dynamic of the relationship rather than the question of what would we spend £100 on iyswim

APlaceInTheWinter · 14/02/2015 11:07

Oops x-post with Gin

Flingingmelon · 14/02/2015 11:08

Blimey, some of you lot need to chill. The world will not end cos it's not in the topic you want it to be in.

And OP is comfortably off but feels guilty spending cash on fun stuff for herself, is that so bizarre?

If I were you OP I'd go to my favourite clothes shop and marvel over the fact that when I'd got some cash there was nothing in the shop I liked enough to spend it on. (In my opinion the best bit of having some money), then I'd spend it on afternoon tea with my mates Grin