What would you spend it on????

[OneDayMySleepWillCome]

My lovely DH gave me £100 and told me to spend it on a) something I want not something I need and b) not to just put it in my purse and dwindle it on paying for little bits of things here and there.

Bit of back story- we live comfortably. I am a SAHM, DH works full time. 2 little ones. They have everything they both need and want. We can afford to buy whatever we need within reason. We're by rolling it it my any means- we have o save to go on holiday or for a big purchase but we don't have to stress about money. Own our own home etc.

That said I would never have £100 to just go and spend on me! he says nothin practical- I immediately thought of new nursing bras! As that would be something we would just buy cos it was needed.

So what you all of you do with it???

Just a little wondering post really- incase anyone thinks I'm in a quandary as to what to do! I'm not! I'll go shopping and have not much trouble finding stuff probably! I was just wondering what everyone else would go for!

Perfect post Joysmum

Night away in a hotel somewhere? Such a nice decision to make :-)

Books/ boots / fancy stationery.

OP I think your DH sounds lovely. Really thoughtful presents, plus the money to get whatever you like. I'd get masses of tulips, a box of mint 'O's from L'Artisan du Chocolat, a True Grace candle, a great book, a DVD of a film I love, this month's Vogue, some Butter nail varnish and a Thai takeout and have a lovely time with them all!

I really don't think it is miserable to find it a bit sad that in 2015 a SAHM as an equal parent does not have equal access to family money.

Well so far I bought a pair of shoes that were in the sale from £55 to £12! But didn't look for much else as dc weren't very compliant! I quite fancy a blazer style jacket if I can find one and definitely some really good quality make up.

Although tyrann you plan sounds comprehensively brilliant!

......pastperfect I do have equal access. I have my own money, he has his own money, we have joint money. We are very transparent about what we do with our 'own' money although when I say that's our own it's really just split into different bank accounts, for all intents and purposes all money is joint really. All the savings are in my name as I manage the online banking. But they're just as much mine as his- they're joint. Out of his bank account he took the cash to give to me. As in, I know you would never just go and splash out on yourself just to get something unplanned, just because and I think it would be nice for you to do that, without the thought of, what else could we be using this money for! He's the most generous, kind, thoughtful man. There is no inequality.

I know exactly what you mean OP. I am in a similar position in that our finances mean that if I want something I can buy it (within reason of course). There.s something within me though that thinks it's wasteful to spend excessive amounts on face creams, shower gels candles etc and I always tend to buy off the supermarket shelves rather than luxury brands.

Last time I was given money to buy something I wouldn't normally buy I went to the Estée Lauder counter and treated myself to a bottle of their night time primer and a face cream suitable for my skin type. It's been a real treat to use and has definitely made a difference to my skin that has been noticed by others as well as myself.

Nip along to a big Boots store and look at the Vichy skin range. It's really lovely and you'll notice a huge difference over a few weeks.

I'm obviously living in the wrong area.....people are suggesting 'nights in hotels, pedicure, hair done and new dress, a pair of good boots that will last years'?? This is £100 we're talking about, not £500 or £1000.

Have I landed back in the 1970's?

I would buy some lovely face and eye cream, and some face serum. But then I do regularly spend over £100 on that stuff anyway, doing it guilt free would be a novelty. I buy it because I like it but as I'm paying i'm always thinking about other things i could spend the money on instead. I don't know why, were fairly comfortable and can afford it. Maybe It' s a woman thing, I always feel like I should spend everything on the kids.

There's only one thing for it when i get some cash lije that, which is once in a blue mon btw, call the girls, BIG night out on the piss, loads of vino, snog a random on the dancefloor, kebab, (avoid if poss.) fight, taxi, then mcdonalds breakfast next day, rejuvenates and makes you feel like a new person. Fab!

Sorry for the previous message, getting used to new phone and harder to type!

DH and I have joint finances but also have equal spending money so any presents come from our 'own' money. A genuine gift as we know each of us has thought about and budgeted for the gift (as you would for any other gift).

Suggesting that finances are not equal because OPs husband gives her a gift is ridiculous. I would hate to have a gift that came from a joint account despite the fact that in reality it all comes from one pot.

OP, I'm fining you £100 for exceeding the exclamation mark limit.

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And another £50 for all those question marks in the thread title.

For the love of god, why????

I would go to a fancy salon and get my hair and nails done. Some sort of nice hair product too if there is any £ left, Kerastese or similar that I wouldn't normally buy for myself.
I think it is a nice idea.

I don't know why you are getting so many rude responses OP. No matter how much money I had I would always discuss with my OH (and he me) before spending £1,200 (figure quoted by PP) on something. That money may benefit the whole family if spent differently even if it is classed as 'my' money. It wouldn't be because I didn't have access to money but because we are responsible for children now and because we are partners.
Anyway, I think it will be lovely spending it. I think I would get a dress or two, some books and some make up. Enjoy.

'snog a random on the dancefloor'?

PastPerfect where does it say she doesn't have equal access?! Equal access doesn't mean you can spend what you want when you want. I'm sure the OP and her husband have plenty of financial commitments which mean they can't blow £100 whenever they want (as do most people). Equal access to money doesn't mean unlimited access to money! Even if my finances were entirely separate to DH's (they're not as I'm a SAHM so id be pretty skint) I would still have financial commitments and still wouldn't be able to spend money on myself whenever I wanted, unless of course I was completely loaded (sounds like some on this thread must be if they can spend £1200 with no consultation/discussion regarding other things the family might need the money for).

Some people are so bloody rude. Bet you wish you hadn't started this thread don't you OP?

fairenuff yes i like to pull on a night out, is that that unusual? Not quite living up to the tolerance suggested by your name there? I like to let my hair down with my £100 not get it put up!

I ended up having a mini splurge yesterday (on my own so money is my own responsibility). Mine included:

• brunch out in a posh-ish cafe in the countryside
• a spontanteous decision to get my hair cut. Fortunately Toni & Guy had a slot available
• neck and chin wax (kind of necessary, but feels indulgent)
• a book I fancied
• 10 minute back rub

I tend to go for things that feel like treats rather than clothes or make up, although buying something like a fabulous winter coat or good boots would count for me as well.

A bottle of Amarone, some second hand tweed and a go on a steam engine.

Go for something tangible, so your DH can see it. Might encourage him to do it more often then!

I think it's a lovely, thoughtful gesture OP.

Sorry Clara, I thought that was what you were suggesting OP do