depressed about sex life after talking to friends

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We were having a conversation about Valentines day and they ended up sharing details of their sex life which quite frankly is much more adventurous than mine. I was quite happy with how things are with me and DH but now I feel quite depressed. I think I would be mortified presenting DH with a cock ring etc. Am I a prude?

Yuk! Thank you for not typing www. in front of that in case anyone accidentally clicked on it!

I didn't mean you only do it because it's not ordinary. I meant the word kink describes the bits of sex which are unordinary. Missionary with the lights off is not kink. Blindfolds or handcuffs or eating an apple at the same time or whatever would be, though. Whether it's harmless/minor/bizarre/scary/tame/dangerous doesn't tell you whether it's kink or not. The fact that it's outside what most people would think of as "ordinary" sex is. By definition, it's not the stuff everyone does. It's a small or big thing that you do with your partner around sex because you enjoy it or it makes the sex better.

My point was probably a lot if not all people have a kink of some kind, but even if everyone had one it doesn't mean everyone has several, or that most people have extreme kinks like advanced gymnastics or extreme pain or houdini type restraints. "Vanilla" ie non kinky sex is still the overwhelming norm.

My curiosity has got the better of me. It always does. Offs I go to Google.
Slightly flagging dick. Speak soon

No such site

"BigSwingingDick.co.uk."

Would that be the Glenn Miller tribute show? I hear he's pretty good when in the mood.

We should stop taking the piss really. I have a feeling KOH no longer has the ability to respond to the ribbing he is getting. Not under that user name, anyways

I think that's because he's nursing a sore botty and sat on a child's blow up rubber ring to ease the pain

Some phrases genuinely make me feel as depressed as a pub car park on a Monday morning.
" Spice up your sex life" is one of them.

Poor Kingofhearts, he fell into the old MN trap of responding honestly, but with with a view that doesn't accord with the mainstream of MN prudishness so now he's getting criticised.

Tsk, call the police from behind the net curtains darlings!

Here is another dickswinger to call us all prudes. You in need of a bit of mummy-bashing to spice up the bishop-bashing, eek ?

This nob was just nasty to a 21yo girl in a dire situation on another thread

your opinion is valueless, eek

OP the only people who matter to your sexy life are you and whoever you are having sex with, if you enjoy it, it doesn't matter what your friends are doing. Keep on doing what you're doing.
If you aren't enjoying it, then We can't say, 'oh well bagpiping really turned our sex life around, try it!' because that's ridiculous. Suggesting things to spice up your sex life (I hate that phrase too) isn't going to help you and your husband. You need to sit and have an honest chat about what's not working and how to fix it.

KOH, dude, over share. This isn't the place and it was also probably exactly what her friends were saying, like, 'oh we do such and such it's so amazing you should try it! Be more adventurous!' Really unhelpful.

Can this also not decend into kink shaming either though. You don't like it, fair enough but that's no need to be rude about "plastic tat" and such.

This thread has some comedy gold.

(FTR, Eekaman, being prudish has very little to do with whether or not you enjoy reading made up tales of up the bum fun, or your preferred choice of window coverings.)

Do what is good for you and sod everyone else! If you wanted cock rings, surely you'd have obtained one yourself. If your DH wanted cock rings, surely he'd have told you if your relationship is good?

As it happens, I have a bloody wonderful vibrator and DH enjoys being part of playing with it, but we would also be perfectly happy if vibrators had never been invented because, you know, we actually really like having sex with each other (always a bonus if you happen to be married to each other).

Anyfucker - insinuating I'm an onanist eh? Surely personal attacks are against the T's & C's of MN?

Ahem

So report me then, eek. Let's make it reciprocal.

Thank you Olivia.

Anyfucker, no, I won't bother reporting, I'll leave your position for others to judge.

Hearts - no, I don'[t think there is anything at all wrong with the act of masturbation. I do think it's wrong to be used as a form of an insult - don't you?

I walked passed the Butchers shop yesterday, & in the window was a pigs head, with a large Apple stuck in its mouth, I am now wondering if that poor pig was indulging, in spicing up its time alone in the sty with its partner, when interrupted by Mr Butcher.
Mr Butcher probably thought," pervy pigs" !!! End of......

People who need to discuss it normally tend to elaborate a lot.

Never judge your life by others judge it by how happy you feel and whether your expectations and needs are better being met.

OH and I have a good sex life which we are both happy with.

Our first valentines day physically together and seeing each other. Valentine's Day consisted of having 5 of our own kids plus 3 extra teens, friend came round in the evening having a hard time OH and I plied her with vodka, she left at 2am when when finally got to bed OH then was then sick several times.

The romance