depressed about sex life after talking to friends

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We were having a conversation about Valentines day and they ended up sharing details of their sex life which quite frankly is much more adventurous than mine. I was quite happy with how things are with me and DH but now I feel quite depressed. I think I would be mortified presenting DH with a cock ring etc. Am I a prude?

I'm absolutely not against vanilla sex. Each to her/his own. I would never judge anyone. It's just there's so much to explore and enjoy.

And we all have our preferences. The queenofhearts likes sex in public places, with a chance of getting caught. She also likes being tied up and teased, with a little rough sex along the way. Neither of them float my boat but I do them for her because they give her pleasure - which gives me pleasure.

I like being spanked over her knee, followed by the slipper and the strap. She's not into that but indulges me because she knows I like it. I really get off on having my prostate massaged and though she's not fond of bottom play the she gets pleasure from giving me pleasure.

We like variety. We get bored easily. We don't like routines. Vanilla is part of the mix but we need more. Sorry if this is TMI - and not intended to boast or bore.

If you're happy with your sex life - stay happy. It's not a competition.

Oh do shut up, KOH. We don't care about your adventurous sex life. There are places where you can wank away with like minded people who give a tiny shit.

AF.

Totally agree. OP asked if she was a prude, she didn't ask to regaled with explicit details of other people's imaginary sex lives.

People going into detail about their sex lives and the toys they use is the modern equivalent of an 80s couple getting out the slides of their holiday in Madeira. I'm glad you had a lovely time but I don't need to know the details of you taking Karen up the funicular.

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Sukie!

Team vanilla here. Not indulging in sex now because I'm heavily pregnant and will knock him out if he comes near me but we have sex, both get something out of it, makes us feel closer. That's good sex, not tying yourself up like the last chicken in the butchers window in order to make someone happy.

I I totally agree with the posters who say if you have to keep talking about it,50 per cent is probably a lie!

Honestly OP I don't go in for all those things either. I've had enough of little bits of plastic after tidying up my toddler's toys each evening to want to find lots in my bed. In all honestly though the old ways are the best.

I agree with heartisaspade.

I feel a bit sorry for KOH he is just posting his views & experiences of sex on a thread that specifically asks for that.

It does sound a bit like boasting nothing too bad!

Like you op I am quite vanilla, quite like the idea of spicing it up but I think when it came to it that it would probably be overrated (and weird)

But jigsawlady OP didn't ask for details of other people's sex lives. She asked if she's a prude, and then later asked 'is everyone spicing it up?'. She didn't ask for specifics, and she actually said in her OP that she felt depressed after hearing details of her friend's sex lives.
So KOH coming along with his input helps her how?
His post at 08.59 may have been helpful if he'd restricted it to the final 2 paragraphs.

Has it become a fashion? I never came across it in the late 70s and 80s. Seems to be discussed everywhere now.

Absolutely no interest in using sex toys or getting up to anything too weird and wonderful

Very happy with a "vanilla" sex life of regular, loving and fairly "normal" sex thanks v much. I think we are probably among the majority tbh op!

People who brag about their use of cock rings or whatever comes across a bit cringe or desperate. Shame if they dont really do it for each other any more without the help of some plastic tat.

It does read as though a lot of people on here are either jealous or offended by KOH adventures in the bedroom. Or out of it for that matter.

Or maybe just not interested?

No really, wd. You carry on thinking that though. I am sure KOH would be in agreement with you. And the Queen of Hearts too, whose sexlife he has detailed for all to see.

Or perhaps they are both furiously fapping away at the thought of it < shrug >

KOH you're right it's not a competition. You're just making it sound like one! Enjoy your spanking

"You can use whatever comes to hand for bondage or spanking."

Frying pans in the kitchen... a crook lock if you're stuck in a Nissan on the M25 layby... rolled up magazine at the doctors surgery waiting room...

Worried dad, no not jealous at all. More like relieved that Im not married to someone as tedious and cringeworthy as king of hearts :)