depressed about sex life after talking to friends

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We were having a conversation about Valentines day and they ended up sharing details of their sex life which quite frankly is much more adventurous than mine. I was quite happy with how things are with me and DH but now I feel quite depressed. I think I would be mortified presenting DH with a cock ring etc. Am I a prude?

maybe he is just very open & honest, but in type looks very different than if spoken. Something which is often pointed out on here.

AF does not speak for the whole of MN. "We don't care"??? Who is this " we" and who appointed AF the official spokesperson?

OP don't be depressed about it. You were happy before these people over shared! The primary purpose of a cock ring is to make the wearer "last longer" I think. Either that or there are vibrating ones that are supposed to give both parties pleasure. So why don't you think of it as a remedial item rather than a necessary/spicy item. You and your dh don't need a piece of plastic to have sex. Neither do the majority of people IMO. Oh and a man can do himself a serious mischief wearing a cock ring. Not what nature intended.

Bottom play KOH? Do you mean A Midsummer Night's Dream?

I just find it a little creepy when male posters overshare about their sex life on mumsnet, a predominantly female space. I think it's poor netiquette.

Nobody, but nobody, talks to me about their sex life - except the mad ones.

I don't go into detail about sex life and im not interested in other peoples.

Isn't the whole point of "kinky" stuff that it's, you know, a bit outside the norm. ie, most people don't like it. I haven't surveyed anyone or anything but I reckon that most people wouldn't get off on pain, or being restrained, or "danger" or having random body parts fiddled with. If you do happen to like one or more of those things, then fine. But how bloody boring to go down a list of "adventurous sexual things" trying out each one diligently. IME the best bits are discovered entirely by accident. (And I think that there are so many possible "kinks" that it can appear that "everyone is into it" whereas in reality they probably like one small slightly-outside-the-box thing).

Totally agree with you BOFster Not sure why any man would want to wade through pages of women discussing their relationships intimately. Anyone would think such a man wasn't quite as self-assured and (excuse the pun) cock sure of himself as his cringe-inducing posts might imply. If you want advice about women, just ask love.

There was a vote HerefordMum.. weren't you invited?

Yes, it's quite invasive to involuntarily be put in the situation of mentally picturing somebody inserting things into their rectum, and it's especially jarring on here, with the general atmosphere of women empathising with each other and sharing their experiences quite freely, to be confronted with a man posting in an explicitly sexual way. Personally, I find it rude and rather aggressive, whatever their actual intention.

If you're happy with how things are OP but feel you must add some excitement why not change your username to daffodildo?

Or alternatively stick with what you're doing if it suits.

Tbh it doesn't sound like KOH is having that great sex if half the time he's doing things he doesn't like and the other half he's doing things his wife doesn't like.

I'd rather do the same old stuff knowing we both like it. Which is exactly what it sounds like OP is doing.

It just makes me think of Victoria Wood & '"smack me on the bottom with the woman's weekly"

I think people either have sex, or talk about it. Don't bother comparing yourself to others.

HerefordMum Sat 14-Feb-15 21:03:25

AF does not speak for the whole of MN. "We don't care"??? Who is this " we" and who appointed AF the official spokesperson?

You mean you want to share KOH's love of having things placed up his rectum ? There's a pm function for that, love. Go for your life.

Indeed. This primarily a support site. For parents.

Not BigSwingingDick.co.uk.

Good heavens OP it's like people boasting about any gadgets in the home. Don't worry -- you're definitely doing it right.

Also it sounds like a lot of your friends have got into acting out 'porny' situations. Do they really get a kick out of it -- or just out of telling people about it? Sounds grim to me. Give me an old fashioned roll in the hay any day.

This'll give you a laugh OP: www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-london-31428072

AnyFucker it seems like dick has less and less to do with it as the perviness increases. I literally cannot think of anything worse than someone resentfully tying me up in public and then posting about it on Mumsnet!!

Isn't the whole point of "kinky" stuff that it's, you know, a bit outside the norm. ie, most people don't like it

Er no. It's about doing what you enjoy.

SlightlyFlaggingDick.co.uk ?