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The Brave Babes Battle Bus - The Wheels On This Bus Go Around And Around, In Search Of Sobriety.

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Mouseface · 12/02/2015 09:52

Hello, I'm Mouse Smile

This is the brave babes bus, Gerald. He travels far and wide, to wherever he's needed to offer non judgemental support, advice and Opal Fruits!!

We can tell you about the kind of places that can help, your GP can be the first and easiest place to start, or you can look up you local community addiction centre, or even just come onto the thread and let it all out.

There are posters here who have been on the Bus from the start and those who have just joined us Smile

It doesn't matter how long you've been here, the fact that you have taken that first amazing step in acknowledging that maybe, just maybe, things aren't quite right with your drinking is truly MASSIVE!!

This is a safe place for you to just be and to be as honest as you like, or just to talk.

We'll listen Smile

And if you'd like to see our last thread, you can JUST HERE

Plus if you'd like to see where these threads all began, you can read all about that YOU CAN READ THIS VERY EMOTIONAL AND MOVING THREAD

See you soon,

Mouse xxx Smile

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dementedma · 21/03/2015 20:52

I think the word he used was "adorable" .......but I may have misheard.....

aliasjoey · 21/03/2015 22:05

Adorable? Like a puppy?

That's not very promising.... Grin

dementedma · 21/03/2015 23:00

Well, I may have misheard. He did have his mouth full at the time. Shocking manners.....

aliasjoey · 22/03/2015 00:14

His mouth full?! Shock

Rubyredlips · 22/03/2015 07:24

Morning Day 2 AF for me. Feel shattered.

Sounds like it was a good night Ma

Khalisi that builder has got a bit of a cheek hasn't he?

venusandmars · 22/03/2015 10:01

Morning Babes!

Sounds like you had a lovely time ma - in the midst of everything else that's been going on for you, I am glad to hear there are some sweet moments too. How are the house projects going? If selling your flat is still on your agenda then don't let it slip away. What can you declutter and sell? We used a cash for clothes project when we got new wardrobes, and also for dealing with my mum's clothes after she had died. It wasn't much money, but better than nothing and an incentive to clear things out (and better than chucking things in landfill).

I'm enjoying all the daffodils that are springing up everywhere. The brighter weather always makes me feel more hopeful about my life and more resolved to make changes.

Khalisi · 22/03/2015 10:21

Good morning, Babes!

ma adorable is rather sweet. I've been called that by People who were very obviously hot on me!Grin

Yes, Ruby, rather cheeky, really. Kept calling me a coward for not wanting to be his bit on the side! Hmm

Off to a run with!

Happy Sunday, Babes!

aliasjoey · 22/03/2015 10:53

ma sorry for blethering on last night - I'd been drinking - it's terrible the way it loosens the tongue Blush

It also made me snore apparently and DH is now pissed off with me.

Fairenuff · 22/03/2015 11:24

Ma was it a bit like

Grin

Some good ideas from venus there. You might be amazed what people will buy on ebay.

What's the job situation at the moment, things looking a bit more promising?

joey I snore too, even when not drinking (but especially if I have a cold) and dh occasionally decamps to the sofa Blush

But it's not something we can control, it's not like we do it on purpose. Hope your day gets better.

Hi to everyone and welcome to mojo, how is everyone today? Get are you out there lurkinng? Come and let us know how you're getting on, even if it's not good news it's still good to share x

Will be back later. The sun is shining here again, it's a beautiful spring morning, time to shake off the old and bring on the new I say. Oh and only two weeks til Easter so time to shift a couple of more lbs before chocolate day Easter Sunday. How are all the dietiing/exercising babes doing?

Rubyredlips · 22/03/2015 11:30

I have the 'fear' after drinking stupid amounts on Friday night, I am still feeling horrid. Why, why do I do it?

fevversbetterout · 22/03/2015 16:35

Ruby, I'll hold your sweaty hand. It's not easy, is it?

dementedma · 22/03/2015 16:57

Not quite like that, but still lovely Grin
Yes, Venus project flat sell has stalled a bit so I must get back on to it and keep the ball rolling. I know things will blow again so I need to make progress
The job is the big problem. I have put another application in today with a very heavy heart. I dont want to go but have to be realistic. I get paid this week but this will probably be the last one, unless a miracle happens. It make me so sad.
ruby you ok?

Crutched · 22/03/2015 19:29

babes, can you help me?

DH is leaving me. He is taking the kids.

I want to end it all.

I have tried the Samaritans. can't do much with a broken leg. But very serious about the intention.

dementedma · 22/03/2015 20:12

crutched breathe. Ok. What has he said? Where is he going?
Is there a timescale? Has he spoken to the dcs?
Can you two talk calmly bout options before any hasty decisions are made?

babyjane1 · 22/03/2015 20:25

crutched what had led to this??? Are you drinking?? Is dh still there?? If your mood is very low and you may harm yourself you must phone your out of hours GP and get someone out. You need help and support, your not thinking straight!!! Try and calm down and keep posting babe, nothing's ever as bad as it seems xxx

venusandmars · 22/03/2015 20:31

Your dh is reacting. What you have to show is that despite the happenings recently, you are serious about being and staying sober, and being a stable and responsible influence in your dcs lives.

I know it feels shocking and it feels shit, particularly when you are helpless / immobile but please use every resource you can find to get support. Call someone, a friend or someone on your family. Anyone who can come and be with you. And lean on us.

Fairenuff · 22/03/2015 20:36

Hey crutched, how are things? Come and talk to us and we'll help you put a plan into action.

dementedma · 22/03/2015 21:20

crutched are you ok. When Jesus started the first thread and got this bus rolling, she faced similar horrors. But she got through it and so will you. Where is dh and the dcs now? Can someone come round to sit with you and mediate for tonight?

Crutched · 22/03/2015 21:22

he bought a case of 12 bottles, I drank six in one night. I have no argument with the leaving, it is the being left.

Khalisi · 22/03/2015 21:23

Oh crutched, Sweetheart.
Hope you're breathing.
I'll be back tomorrow. Have to go now.
Flowers

Khalisi · 22/03/2015 21:25

Oh god, why would he buy alcohol when what you need is support to abstain?! It's not like you would have gone out to buy it.
I'm so sorry, crutched.

Crutched · 22/03/2015 21:31

his mum is visiting. I told him it would be a struggle. I think he wanted an excuse. my poor kids.

dementedma · 22/03/2015 21:32

Six bottles of wine or beer? Where was he and the dcs while you were doing this?
The leaving may be a temporary shock tactic to slap you I not sobriety. If he and the dcs move out to somewhere nearby while you get help, it may be a solution that works. You can show him and them that you are serious, and they are removed from the environment while you get yourself back together.
There was a Babe on here whose story we followed avidly as she fought everything the system threw at her in an attempt to win back access to her baby son, who was with the dh. Dh still loved her but couldn't handle the drinking and removed the baby from her care.(dammit, can't remember her name!). It was fought but she bloody did it and there wasnt a dry eye on the bus when they were all reconciled. She fought tooth and nail to get sober and keep her DC. You can too! You must!

Crutched · 22/03/2015 21:34

nah, he is done. He said he needed a reason to finish it forever. He tested me and I failed.

Crutched · 22/03/2015 21:35

wine, six bottles of wine.

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