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The Brave Babes Battle Bus - The Wheels On This Bus Go Around And Around, In Search Of Sobriety.

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Mouseface · 12/02/2015 09:52

Hello, I'm Mouse Smile

This is the brave babes bus, Gerald. He travels far and wide, to wherever he's needed to offer non judgemental support, advice and Opal Fruits!!

We can tell you about the kind of places that can help, your GP can be the first and easiest place to start, or you can look up you local community addiction centre, or even just come onto the thread and let it all out.

There are posters here who have been on the Bus from the start and those who have just joined us Smile

It doesn't matter how long you've been here, the fact that you have taken that first amazing step in acknowledging that maybe, just maybe, things aren't quite right with your drinking is truly MASSIVE!!

This is a safe place for you to just be and to be as honest as you like, or just to talk.

We'll listen Smile

And if you'd like to see our last thread, you can JUST HERE

Plus if you'd like to see where these threads all began, you can read all about that YOU CAN READ THIS VERY EMOTIONAL AND MOVING THREAD

See you soon,

Mouse xxx Smile

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dementedma · 14/03/2015 21:59

Bus is quiet. Where is everyone?

aliasjoey · 14/03/2015 22:29

I'm in the sidecar ma

How are you doing today?

SmallFox · 14/03/2015 22:30

Hey Ma - just popping aboard to say hi as the bus is quiet tonight and don't want you lonely.

Hope you are ok - you have so much on your plate right now, with your dad and everything else going on. You so deserve a break. Hope you get a bit of time to yourself - here's some opal fruits to keep you going.

dementedma · 14/03/2015 23:12

Thanks joey and small
Where the heck IS everyone?
Just us sidecar riders tonight....

SweetLathyrus · 15/03/2015 08:02

Hello again.

Sorry not to be around, had a grim night. I was desperate to get to bed, but stayed up until 10 so that Pup would have a late wee. Was woken up at 11.30 by DS who had been massively sick all over his bed and was shaking. Cue having to strip the bed, find a duvet out of the attic, new pillows, trying to get all of the sicky bedclothes into the washing machine, and tucking DS up on his sofa because even the mattress was covered Sad. All whilst feeling shocking myself. I then had a wake up call again at 4ish because I hadn't shut the bedroom door properly, Puss had got in and was gently patting my face to check I was ok Hmm. And then up at 7 (bit late) to get Pup outside, get another load of washing on and wonder how on earth to dry a duvet when it is raining and none of us feel well enough to sit in a laundrette (if I even knew where there was one) whilst it tumble dries.

But at least I know that this virus will pass soon enough.

Venus, Pup is marvellously medicinal when he's asleep, but I have to admit that last night, he and I both found the house training a bit stressful. I lost it big time with DS who (wasn't ill at that point) was being lazy and unhelpful, and expecting to be waited on when both DH and I felt like crap and I was trying to follow pup around with paper towel and disinfectant spray.

Anyway, I hope you all have a good Mother's Day. I will be phoning Maman en France later on, I know we won't be going out today because I am a grumpy mare who doesn't do going out on nationally recognised days - don't do Valentine's, Mother's day or traveling on bank holidays Grin. And today I couldn't summon up the energy anyway.

dementedma · 15/03/2015 09:34

Hey sweet what a horrible night for you. Hope you feel better today. Can you struggle to a supermarket and buys cheap duvet for ds for tonight and leave the sixky one to be dealt with when you feel up to it?
I am all alone today, wonderful, so may just take a drive up the coast with mum for some fresh air. and to chase the hangover

lookingforhope · 15/03/2015 10:39

Morning babes. Sorry for those of you who are having a bad time. Sweet, do you have sleeping bags for the dcs? In which case pop ds in one till the duvet dries (speaking from past experience here) and use Mother's Day as justification to go back to bed yourself and take a nap!

Ma big hugs to you darling. Flowers. Your dad is in the right place for now, and good luck with getting him the care he needs. Enjoy your day today ... Sounds lovely.

Hope you are all being spoiled for Mother's Day. Always a bit sad for me as miss my lovely mum. Thinking of you too today Mouse Flowers. But dd has made me some gorgeous hand made gifts and did me a little video edit on her tablet with pictures of my favourite things (didn't realise she viewed me as being so eclectic, it was very unusual Grin ) and ds did the boy thing of presenting me with some soaps he dashed out to buy yesterday and a totally unsuitable shop bought card then going back to bed).

Can't name check all right now as about to spend time with dd over a nice breakfast, but just wanted to say hi to you all and also send love to Crutched. You did a brave thing being honest with dh and I am sorry things are hard for you right now. But please don't talk about yourself in such a negative way, we have all made mistakes on here, and the wine witch does her best to trip us all up. I have done things that utterly make me cringe and hate myself, but dwelling on that just makes it harder to move onwards. Keep talking to us. I think we all feel the booze patches over some deep awful, whether that is unresolved past issues, emotions we can't handle (my drinking accelerated when I lost my mum), or insecurities. Just handle what you can for now, one day at a time. You sound lovely, and please keep posting. Remember, you can check out but you can't ever leave the bus!

Right, am starving, see you all later xxx

SweetLathyrus · 15/03/2015 15:59

Thanks Ma, Hope. Everyone apart from me is asleep now. Poor DS can't keep anything down. Fortunately I have loads of spare duvets, the washing machine was big enough to wash it, but not to dry it, so it's hanging over the drying from next to a radiator.

Ma hope you've enjoyed your day to yourself, sometimes that is the only gift you need.

Hope, your DD sounds lovely, and your DS, exactly like mine!! Though I did get chocs - M&S exotic honey ones, which are actually gorgeous, which is amazing, because I can't generally bear the small of honey!

It's dull and grey here. So at least I don't feel like I have missed a day in the garden. I managed to get a tree planted before I got ill, but the greenhouse is on hold while DH is so poorly.

lookingforhope · 15/03/2015 16:00

Quiet today. Have I scared you all off, or are you all out having lovely Mother's Day? Hope it's the latter Smile

lookingforhope · 15/03/2015 16:17

Oops, xp there Sweet. Hope you all get better soon xxx

SweetLathyrus · 15/03/2015 16:28

I should tell you all that I have given myself a day off today, I got to day 73 yesterday, but today being Mother's Day and a bloody rough weekend I have had a glass of 51 Glacial - it's a pastis, with a menthol kick, and if anyone remembers liquafruita (sp?) cough syrup from the 70s, it tastes a bit like that, so, it must be medicinal.

So sitting in the sidecar, a pup asleep on one foot, tomorrow I will be back on the bus.

dementedma · 15/03/2015 17:53

Beach was lovely. I went to Elie which fellow East Coast Scots will know well. Had coffee and cake with mum and it was nice. Dd1 gve me daffodils, a book and a CD of Laurie Lee reading from his work. Very thoughtful gifts.
Visited dad in hospital. Will draw a veil over that. Its grim but he is safe and warm and being looked after while we,and social services figure out what the options are.
Hope you have all had lovely days.
Where, oh where, is wry? Do we have to drive this bus to Aberdeen to rescue her?

SweetLathyrus · 15/03/2015 18:44

So relieved you had a lovely day, Ma. Right, let's hitch up the wagons and go find wry, she can have a virtual puppy hug if it's not to soon.

SweetLathyrus · 15/03/2015 18:50

Bit of a break through, Pup has managed to go to the back door of his own accord for the last two wees!

Wry, come and give me your doggy wisdom.

dementedma · 15/03/2015 19:00

wry we are coming to get you

Isindethickofit · 15/03/2015 19:03

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aliasjoey · 15/03/2015 19:07

Oh isinde what happened?

SweetLathyrus · 15/03/2015 19:10

Isinde what's up?

dementedma · 15/03/2015 19:10

indie missing your mam? Sending hugs. Wassup?

Isindethickofit · 15/03/2015 19:16

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dementedma · 15/03/2015 19:21

indie my love. You dont need a slap. Barrie will give you a many tentacled hug. You miss your mum. Your dp is, at times a wankbadgeress. You are staying unbelievably sober while you hurt.
You fucking rock babe! Drive North. I feel a road trip coming on

SweetLathyrus · 15/03/2015 19:37

Isinde, the only thing you are getting from Barry is a squelchy, squidy, hug.

aliasjoey · 15/03/2015 19:45

isinde maybe you need to NOT pull yourself together (like you always do) because you'll get the same reaction (that you always get)

Instead you could let the feelings out, say what you're feeling - stop bottling it up... Are you worried about what will happen once you start? It's scary to confront those sober emotions

But maybe your DP is scared to mention your mum for fear of upsetting you, cause you're still grieving? But you won't know until you have The Talk...

Isindethickofit · 15/03/2015 20:34

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SweetLathyrus · 15/03/2015 20:42

Who has the wand? Abracadabra Jane Lynch in a clinch with Isinde