The Brave Babes Battle Bus - The Wheels On This Bus Go Around And Around, In Search Of Sobriety.

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Hello, I'm Mouse

This is the brave babes bus, Gerald. He travels far and wide, to wherever he's needed to offer non judgemental support, advice and Opal Fruits!!

We can tell you about the kind of places that can help, your GP can be the first and easiest place to start, or you can look up you local community addiction centre, or even just come onto the thread and let it all out.

There are posters here who have been on the Bus from the start and those who have just joined us

It doesn't matter how long you've been here, the fact that you have taken that first amazing step in acknowledging that maybe, just maybe, things aren't quite right with your drinking is truly MASSIVE!!

This is a safe place for you to just be and to be as honest as you like, or just to talk.

We'll listen

And if you'd like to see our last thread, you can JUST HERE

Plus if you'd like to see where these threads all began, you can read all about that YOU CAN READ THIS VERY EMOTIONAL AND MOVING THREAD

See you soon,

Mouse xxx

Fevvers, moderation is good - but in my experience, more difficult to maintain. Well done though.

Have PM'd you in answer to your question yesterday

Ma, I hope they stayed and comforted him? He will get a proper assessment in hospital, and it will be a weight off your mind for a few days at least?

I suppose they couldn't move him in case he'd broken a bone ma? They may well step up the home care now.

Sweet will you be handling the erection yourself, or will you be getting a hand with it?

Erections are Dh's department Faire

Though, I do help him with them, of course

ma that sounds like the best place for him. They will sort out any underlying infections (which might be causing him to fall), and get him properly hydrated. He will be clean and warm. And the hospital will be able to assess him properly.

Whatever happens, do not let them discharge him without the right level of support. And do not take on the supporting role yourself - you already have a job and a son to look after. Of course he may well hate being in hospital but not as much as he would have hated laying on the floor.

Greenhouse didn't arrive , should be here tomorrow.

Delayed gratification, Sweet

The very definition of gardening Small

Just checking in, and out. Time for bed. Been at the hospital, dad kept in and very confused.
Waves to all.

Evening, tis me, Mouse

How lovely to see so many posters :)

I've just got to put a new feeding tube into my super star of a boy (Nemo) - I went to parents evening, he's at the second to last stage of his literacy which blew me away. There was him and one other child in this category!

GOOD BOY!! We've had a rough time of things lately... he's not wanted to go to school, so you go through the usual stuff, bullying, not happy, finding things that he's keeping to himself etc, but nope. Nothing.

The problem was rather simple - he'd not been in school for over a week. For genuine illness and also because I kept him off because of his behaviour.

To explain, with Nemo, he goes one step forward and 200 back so you are always, always on your guard.... The school, (thank Jeff) are super understanding about this and support my choices and my decisions for him.

He went back for his first day (4 hours clear of D&V) and he begged me, sobbed in my arms, gave me every reason sun not to make him go.

I even told him that if he didn't go to school, that the Headmaster would come and take him to school..... And the thing is, the Head would because he knows how Nemo works!

So, tonight was Parent's Evening and Nemo had done a sponsored read and managed 484 hours of reading! He raised £85 for the school!! I am so uber proud of him.... he is 5!!

They said that he is at the top of his class in terms of literacy, he's one step away from jumping to Yr 2 work! This is the boy who was so far behind that we never thought that he's go to school, never mind a mainstream school.

I AM A PROUD MUMMY! :) :) :)

If I was drinking, I know for a fact that I wouldn't have been able to go through the process that I/we just have in just such a calm and calculated, piece by piece way.

I was able to get to the bottom of things, Nemo had just lost his confidence and was scared to go back to school, and as I stood in the playground this morning, him sobbing into my hood, his snot everywhere, I looked at his face, all small and pure and thought, 'come on superstar, you can nail this!'

And do you know what? Instead of coming home and thinking 'fuck it, I have got to have a drink', I came home and thought I got through that! I didn't lose it, I didn't breakdown in front of him or show that I was scared and sad for him too.

He's so easy to love because of how kind he is, his heart is such a huge part of his life, and ours....

Anyway.

I'm shutting up know about my child!!

How are we all, I'm ashamed to say that I've not read back, sorry....

How are we all?

Ma - how's work?

IsinDe - how are those gals of yours?

Venus - I think of you often in the darkest of times..... I hope you are okay.

Sorry not to name you all, I just want you all, anyone to reply and let me know how you are? xxx

Mouse your message made me cry - I am so, so happy for you and your wonderful Nemo. He has been through so much, but he is such a lucky boy to have you for a mummy. Just amazing.

All good here. Day 70. Been watching the People's Strictly and feeling a bit wobbly - it is faintly manipulative and features way too many Journeys, but still, some extraordinary people. DP has disappeared upstairs in disgust to listen to Important Music instead. I am such a disappointment to him .

Sleep well, lovely Mouse.

Bloody fantastic, Mouse, you are entitled to BURST with pride, for yourself, and Nemo.

Night, night Ma and all the other babes.

Great news Mouse, what a little star he is. Tell him he made a lot of people smile today with all his effort and hard work. What a brave, clever boy he is

Yay Nemo (waves pompoms and does a cheery Nemo dance). That is some seriously impressive stuff for a five year old. My Ds is 14 and has probably not read that many hours ever . You must be so proud of your lovely little man, Mouse. And rightly so.

All a bit pants here in my world, am waiting to lose my job at the end of the month . But have had 14 AF days after a bit of a binge in February, and have spent the evening with dd drawing the female reproductive system for science homework

Small I didn't win the battle of the TV tonight and ended up with BBC4, but OH is away for a couple of nights tomorrow, so will be having a crap TV festival with dd. Waterloo Road, Great British Sewing Bee, Masterchef, Gogglebox and People's Strictly all lined up . Ds can sit upstairs with the football on TV and the Xbox.

Also, am doing a crochet course tomorrow evening. Living the dream

Yay for nemo. All his bus aunties are so very proud of him.

Morning All.

DS has given me a raging sore throat, blurgh. But the sun is shining, I have the French doors wide open and a warm furry bundle in my lap .

Morning all

Well done Nemo and Mouse

Ma poor you and your df my heart goes out to you.

Hope I can't understand why they haven't given you a date when your job ends? Surely that has come through the consultation?

Sweet Keep snuggling your furry mound it might take your mind off your sore throat . Apparently a disposable aspirin (is that what it's called?) with salt works wonders can't remember if you gargle or drink it .

All fine in Ruby towers at the moment and I feel quite well. Someone told me I looked glam yesterday

Ah the double entendre. Where would we be on this bus without it. Is today the day of the big erection?

Good morning, darling Babes!

Thirsty Thursday! (well, maybe for AF drinks on this bus but still worth an AF cocktail or two)!

Bummer, Sweet. Hope today is the day! Going to purposely avoid using that word but you know very well what I am avoiding!!!

To all the Babes working out, I just want to give a heads up. I knew at some point I'll actually see/feel the changes but still. Last night I managed my first mountain in one go with the running group. Very proud moment especially as later I got to run back to help the other slow runners.
It is a great feeling, I can tell you. Not so much smug as feeling good because I know what it means when others turned around to gather me.
Although I will be honest enough to add that I only did this after the mountain because I did not think I could do it twice!

Be good, my lovelies!

Oh Mouse Congrats, darling babe! You have every right to be proud! It is lovely that the post was so positive and great about Nemo! Please don't hold back!

Morning babes; slight sore head this morning, self inflicted so no sympathy required

Hey Indie. Looks like it. Fnar,fnar.....
obrigda none given! (Well maybe a wee bit!)

Hi lovelies,

It's a dreech day in Scotland as is my mood!

My 4 year old dd who is super smart and cute as a button BUT also very very stubborn and hates going to sleep is having tantrums about just about everything and they're excruciating!!! I feel selfish and petulant after mouse's beautiful post but it's really getting me down, my dd1 has important exams and needs time to study and dd2 is making it so difficult for her, well all of us really. I alternate from feeling anger and resentment at her constant naughtiness then feeling terrible that I feel hard done to when I have a beautiful, healthy child. I'm also resigned to sleeping on the couch due to dh's snoring and sleep with a cat on my head.

I know it's all minor and petty wee things but it's like every days the same, the same mess, the same teenage strops, little ones tantrums and dh works very hard but I know he thinks the girls play up because I'm do soft with them, I just can't bear conflict and haven't previously had the strength to stop the petty misdemeanours and now they are both very spoiled and have a sense of entitlement of all of my time and energy and I'm exhausted.

I'm just venting via you guys, I won't drink, I'm very mindful of my anxiety and that it won't always be this way, I'm not drinking, not smoking and following the SW plan, it's all a bit blah, thank god I have you guys to kept me sane (ish) xxx

Anyway much more importantly ma, I've kinda gone through your situation with my late Gran and infact when she was admitted to hospital with a broken ankle it prompted a complete review of her situation, kinda gets your dad "in the system" and that can only be a good thing for you, I admire you so much, I hate that life's giving you such a kicking, you deserve better xxx

mouse your awesome, it's a very lucky thing your beautiful boy got you for a Mum, your own strength and courage clearly has found it's way into the heart and soul of your precious Nemo. As I've said before I want to be just like you when I grow up, your are strength personified, your courage gives me courage and that's a very special gift xxxx

Right I'm off, will buck myself up and be back later xxxxx

Mouse, that's lovely news about Nemo.