Oh. My. God.
I cannot believe that some of you have sex even when you don't feel like it to please your DH.
Perhaps I'm just terribly niave, but I personally would feel hideously violated if that happened to me. My body isn't my husbands property to be used at his whim!
Sometimes DH does get a little grumpy when I turn him down, but that's his problem. There's no way I'm going to let the dynamic in our relationship be perverted that way, and I think my DH agrees with me because when I press him about stopping his pouting he always apologises.
This makes me think of Ida Craddock , a woman who in the early 1900's was campaigning for womens sexual freedoms (albeit in a rather odd way) who recounted a story told to her by a midwife about the horrors of sexual relations between married couples in her time-
"The patient had been greatly lacerated in delivery. On the second day after delivery, while the nurse was attending to the baby, the husband entered, and requested the nurse to leave the room. "For God's sake, nurse, don't leave me!" exclaimed the sick woman. But a look from the husband caused the nurse to obey him, nevertheless. Shortly after, she heard her patient scream, "Oh, he'll murder me!" Whereupon the nurse found the husband in the act of committing rape upon his wife. The nurse seized his arm and endeavoured to pull him away; but he did not yield until he was ready, when he allowed himself, sullenly, to be led from the room, covered with blood. The wife meanwhile had fainted. When she recovered, she cried, "Oh God, would tht my baby girl and I would die! That man promised me on our wedding day to honour, love and protect me; but every night since then he has used my poor body!"
OK, it's not as extreme a situation, but the power imbalance is the same, i.e. the premise that my wife's body is my property and I'll use it when I want. I thought things had moved on a bit in this country and I'm saddened to hear otherwise.