Remember ChuckTheFuckleBrothers?

[IveBeenADick]

Well it turns out you were all right.

I am utterly destroyed & in need of some hand-holding - can I come back please?

I can understand the reactions I'm getting here. I really thought it was over for good & was looking for support while I got over him. This was not the plan, but things change.

Can I please ask some advice if there is anyone reading who hasn't completely lost patience with me? I got a message back from the ex/partner last night saying 'ok chuck, what's on your mind?' Do I reply? Seems rude not to but is it cruel to drag her into this? When I sent it, I thought it was over for good & thought finding out from her if they were still involved would give me some peace of mind (and yes, there was part of me that didn't want him to get away with lying - if he had been - and I thought if I was her, I'd want to know). What if they're not involved but she still loves him? What if she lies? I would imagine that she will tell him at some point & I think he will be (rightly) pissed off. Should I tell him what I've done? Delete & deny all knowledge? (That doesn't appeal - I don't do lies) I still really want to know for certain - if he's still with her I WILL cut all contact, I would never do that to a fellow woman & mother.

I would never do that to a fellow woman & mother.

Bollocks you would. All this crap with the ex is just more drama. I'm not going to advise you anything to be honest as the only sensible advice is to end this.

I get that I sound like a drama queen. With so many people saying it, I'm starting to wonder if maybe I do seek it out, but I certainly don't enjoy it. I just want to be happy.

I think that this is the first time I've seen MNers stop engaging with someone.

Wow. I must be a despicable person then. Guess I'll work this out on my own.

Ultimately, you are right - only you can work this out. So don't say that sulkily, but as a the first positive step of the day.

You can still sort out emergency contraception (next positive step).

I've been a dick...I don't think you are a despicable person, you just seem a bit immature/unstable? You are pinning your happiness on someone you don't really know and after grovelling to MN seem to play the martyr card when you don't hear something you like.

As you've asked for advice, mine is: block and delete on all phones social media etc. The dickwad, the dickwad's ex, the ex's granny's chickens.

Removes the drama.

Get on with your life. If you want to be happy, I gently suggest you seek some sort of help to become happy as an independent woman who does not need drama or validation from wankers.

Get the map sorted or emergency contraception....

It's the flouncy "oh no-one cares, I'll have to go it alone" shit that is pissing people off.
You sound totally unstable. And wanting people to beg you to stay. You won't get that. You'll get wonderful patient people who will welcome you back time and time again to give advice. But you don't get so many happy to just feed the drama.

You DO seek drama, on here and in your life. That you don't like the outcome doesn't mean it isn't true that you seek it. That is exactly why you were told to see your GP and a therapist - because you are engaging in dangerous and destructive drama.

Forget him, forget his ex, go to your GP and tell them you're not coping.

And think about your "I don't do lies". You do - you're lying to yourself. You need help.

I used to have a friend like you, reading this crap has made me realise why I stopped being friends with her.

Ridiculous. Absolutely ridiculous. If you have even the tiniest worry that you could be pregnant to this arse wipe bloke then why the hell wouldn't you at least try and sort out contraception?? You're saying you're worried about the trauma... it might be slightly more traumatic having to deal with a pregnancy to someone who clearly doesn't really give a shit about you.

What a joke. Your poor bloody kids.

But not taking the emergency contraception will add to the drama I guess which you appear to be fuelled by. Your life must be exhausting.

"You sound totally unstable"

IIRC from earlier threads (now deleted), OP has significant MH issues.

So a third positive step would be to get hold of your care team and see what they can do for you. Difficult on a public holiday, but do you have any emergency numbers?

Some wise words here Chuck. Truth spoken from the heart.

Are you ready to hear it Chuck?

Truth hurts!

You decide!

Just to be clear - when I called the OP mentally unstable, it wasn't an insult, just an assessment of her current state.

My last post was deleted by mnhq I assume it was seen as a 'personal attack', I will leave this thread as clearly op is getting right under my skin. I hope to god you sort your shit out pretty damn sharpish op, for the sake of everyone involved.