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[IveBeenADick]

Well it turns out you were all right.

I am utterly destroyed & in need of some hand-holding - can I come back please?

lovey, you mention happy pills etc so does that mean you are in contact with your gp ?

If not, I think you need to do it urgently as I don't think you sound at all well

He told you to stop taking the pills if my memory serves.

Have you sorted this with Dr now?

It was Boxing Day that he said 'sorry honey, not sure if I made it in time' - which would be right in the middle of my cycle... Not that withdrawal is known for being particularly effective in the first place!

No, not been to the dr, just started taking them again (sertraline). So does it sound like it was me then? Was it my fault?

ring family planning clinic...It may not be too late to have a coil fitted ( effectively arresting any possible pregnancy)

will you do that ?

You didn't consider taking the morning after pill?

How is being ill anyone's fault ?

the situation you have been in, and are still in is fucked up as you know

forget who is at fault and get your health sorted

He didn't tell me to stop taking them but he did encourage me to & said he would be there for me of I needed him. I told him if stopping didn't work out I'd basically need babysitting for a week or so (based on past experience). So where is he now??

Give the pills a chance to work. They can take up to 6 weeks to fully get into your system and you will probably feel worse before you feel better.

Are you planning on changing your number so the dick can't contact you again?

re the pregnancy - just hope AF shows up!

Go easy on yourself! We all make mistakes and hope people will change!

I did consider map, but thought I'd take my chances, it sounds pretty horrible. I can't even take the pill because artificial hormones send me loopy. It's more of a background worry, it'll probably be fine.

He's an idiot with abusive tendencies, he really isn't the issue right now. Have you taken any emergency contraceptives? Please contact your GP/local contraceptive services like ASAP, there may be something that can be done today.

Nope, not getting a coil fitted. Nope, not changing my number.

I meant was all the drama my fault AF? Was he not playing mind games at all, just unable to cope with me being weird?

Do you want a child with him?

He is a dick who took advantage of your bad place to entertain himself at your expense

leave it at that and take time to sort yourself out now

why no steps to halt a pregnancy. ..would this be a good thing for you right now ?

I really don't want to answer that Teeb.
It's much more likely that I'm NOT pregnant isn't it? So I don't really want to inflict any unnecessary trauma on myself.

I just want the pain to stop & to know for certain whether I was the OW

Nope, not getting a coil fitted. Nope, not changing my number

You love the drama, don't you? See you in a couple of weeks when you're back with him.

Thanks gobby... There is no way on earth I could cope with having a coil fitted - otherwise I'd already have one as contraception! And yes, despite it all I do hope I'm back with him in a couple of weeks - but not for the drama.

Tomorrow morning is a new year, don't let him be a part of it.

I really think dealing with the pregnancy issue is better done proactively than reactively, because it just feels like you are delaying another drama thunderstorm to erupt.

The pain is normal, all break ups are tough. You are allowed to feel sad and hurt, they are natural emotions to be feeling right now. You just need to realise they are a process of ending the relationship for you, and reconciling yourself with your feelings. It's nothing to do with him anymore, he's a part of your history.

Morning after pill is not traumatic. What on earth are you playing at? You want to be pregnant to manipulate this arsehole into staying with you? Because that's what it sounds like.

You cannot seriously believe that the situation will improve if you bring a child into the mix?

Please go and see your GP. At least then you can talk it through with a professional and have some options.

There is probably no child!! It's just a niggly worry at the back of my mind, I know everyone is jumping on it like it's the main issue, but it's not. If I have another night like last night but without kids in the house, I'm not sure I'll even be around on the 11th. No, that's not drama, I really did feel that desperate to make it stop.

Then you need to speak with the Samaritans or your GP/mental health team if you have suicidal tendencies.

I nearly did phone the Samaritans in the early hours of this morning but DS2 woke up.

Do you have any family / friends nearby that can give you a break?