My friends thirteen year old Son

[HistoryOfChildhoodVerbalAbuse]

Every single time I see him at my friends house or I am taking with her over the telephone and he happens to be there he will make some kind of rude comment about me. Today it was that I am lazy and old. I do have a history of my Father calling me names and his name calling brings it back to me.

What can I say to him or his Mother?

It really effects me even though I have had therapy about this.

I am a regular poster and have changed my name.

I feel better just typing about this but would really like to be able to control how I feel about this.

How about just talking to him

Say something like I fond those comments very hurtful...I know you didn't mean it to upset me but it did. Please don't say it again

I'm a mother of ADHD boy

Your friend is doing her son a great disservice OP. He is getting older and needs to learn before he says the wrong thing to the wrong person and gets a punch in the face.