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innerstrength100 · 11/12/2014 13:40
Very recent hideous and heartrbreaking break up. Will not go into details here; but it is currently helping me hearing other people's stories of their worst ever break up. So. Please tell about your WORST ever, including:
It was incredibly devastating. I will never forget it.
He was beautiful. Truly beautiful. I wanted to spend the rest of my life with him. He was my absolute everything, but he was terribly insecure.
He never told me why he broke up with me. I remember it so well, so vividly. The way I felt and the look on his face as he left.
The day I lost my dignity was in the same week he had mentioned getting a place together. He came to mine and was meant to be staying over. I'd bought wine, lit candles and turned my shoddy, dirty, old fashioned bedsit into a complete, romantic dream. I'd even repainted and had the landlord replace the carpet. It was perfect.
He came in and sat down. I don't know if he was behaving strangely when he got there or not. I was too busy getting ready to, after nearly a year together, finally tell him that I was in love with him. It wasn't until I shut my face and actually looked at him I realised something was wrong. He was staring at my hand and stroking it. I had a beautiful, deep red nail varnish on. I remember it because it makes me feel sick to see it to this day. I asked him if he was OK. He refused to answer and the realisation that he was ending it hit me.
I was floored, literally. He got up to leave and I held on to him. He had to drag himself away. I clung onto his leg. He had to push me back through the door, rather forcefully, into my house.
I lost myself for the next 3 years. It took therapy and a lot of medication to get myself back.
He never actually said the words "I am leaving you". I asked him a few weeks later to give me closure and he refused.
I hope you are okay OP. My best advice would be to go with it, but surround yourself with people. 
God almighty, some of you have been through utter hell. This is seriously traumatic stuff. Being cheated on, having partners ditch you for no reason whatsoever, disappearing off the face of the earth.... 
Anyone who is even vaguely considering cheating on their partner should be made to read this thread 100 times
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Madness entirely understandable in the circumstances....
Pandora. I feel for you. A friend of mine's not so DH was jailed for child abuse. She was, of course, HORRIFIED on so many different levels. She tortured herself for ages: how could she not have known? You mean he was sleeping with her and abusing children during the same period in his life? Had he ever used her to gain access to a child? Was there anything she could have done to stop him if she had known? Horrible, horrible, horrible.
Lots of previous friends also assumed that she must have turned a blind eye or helped him in some way. She moved to another part of the country and changed her name.
It is AWFUL when someone you love turns out not to be the man you thought they were, but a million times worse if this has involved an actual crime against you or another person. And kids? Jesus wept... the pain the poor woman went through.
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