Like some have said above, my first one.
I was 17, he'd been one of my best friends through all senior school, then the Halloween school disco of our final year he made a move I was pleasantly surprised. We starting going out,it was fabulous, he'd been a great friend and was now a great boyfriend.
Even though we were young and as it happens not together very long, because we'd been so close it felt like we'd been together forever.
All my friends were envious. Us being friends as well as boy/girl friend, we were seen as being very grown up. Ha!
Seriously though, even our parents thought we were a long term thing. No pressure from them, I only found that out years later.
We had a lovely Dec 23rd together, he and his family went to visit family in the UK for 7 days, back on NYE morning, plan being he'd pick me up at 8:00 for friends New Years Eve Party.
8 came and went, 9 came and went 9:30, I'm frantic, he calls 'it's over' me: what's over what? We're over I don't want to see you again, and hung up.
I'm convinced he's lost the plot, go looking for him (small town) find him outside the party we were meant to be going to. He tells me to fuck off, he hates me, walks off
He never spoke to me again.
We went from speaking constantly to nothing.
At first I assumed that what ever had happened it would blow over once we started back to school seeing each other every day it would all be sorted out.
It didn't he blanked me, I managed a week and then I broke, I spent a week in bed ( my parents were not the type, oh you have a sniffle stay home, they were more the your leg will still be broken after school, we'll go to the hospital then ) so I must have been bad. The next month I spend at least one period a day in the guidance counsellor office, sobbing.
I lost well over half my friends, apparently he been nuts about me since first year, I didn't know, honestly, so their thoughts were there was no way he'd have just dumped me, I HAD to have done something.
Then the gossip started, I cheated on him, someone asked him outright, and he said no, I'd never do that.
That was the oddest thing, he still wouldn't hear a bad word against me. So the gossip got more and more extreme. And he always defended me, which seemed to give even more fuel to the gossip.
I'd had an abortion, rural Ireland, in the mid 80s. . .never mind that even if I'd slept with him on Halloween, I could have been only 6-8 weeks, barely long enough to realise I was pregnant, never mind be able to arrange an abortion, travel to UK, have an abortion all while never leaving town. . I'd been pregnant by someone else and when he refused to cover for me I'd aborted. See above. There was the speculation about who this mythical father could be. . .
I only heard most of this years later, I spent the following 6 months in a daze.
While I didn't fail my exams, I didn't get the grades I should have, 'everyone' agreed that maybe I should have a year out.
I did a year of volunteer work, ended up in a job that I never would have considered, but loved. Didn't get to uni till I was in my 30's
Hand on heart though I have never fully trusted another person since, I've been with DP, for over 10 years and 0.00001% of me is still waiting for him to screw me over. There are very few people that I'm still in touch with from my school days, I learnt that people prefer a good story to the truth.
I know reading this it might sound a bit teenage dramatic, I am one of the least drama lama type of person ever and was the same as a kid. While our 'romantic' relationship was silly short, we'd been joined at the hip for nearly 6 years. We were in and out of each other houses constantly. I didn't just lose a boyfriend, I lost one of my best friends, I was close to his Mum and sister, I couldn't cope with being around them.
Looking back I now wonder if something happened to him in those few days away. It was such a sudden turn, he'd called me on the 29th and all was great. The fact that he wouldn't hear a bad word said against me. All very odd.
It took me at least 2 years to even look at a man even as a friend, I think long term that's whats affected me the most. And then I so distrusted people I drove a lot of nice/ good people away.
I had several very bad relationships, and then met DP.
He's a good man and I trust him 99:99998%. . .
And I still don't like New Years Eve.
Sorry I don't think this is quite what you were wanting.