I have borderline personality disorder, so it's safe to say that ANY breakup will make me lose the plot, but the worst one was my first boyfriend. We'd been together 5 years, I was 21, and (yes I know) I was cheating on him. Not at all proud of my behaviour, but I have sorted myself out now and would not do such a shitty things again. He found out by hacking my emails and found an email to my best friend about the affair I was having. (Looking back, the boyfriend was a controlling arse, but still, didn't deserve me cheating on him, obv.)
- How you felt and how you reacted, including any insane or random actions you took; how you behaved in the weeks following, both when you were alone and when you were with other people.
I fucking lost it. I started suffering from depersonalisation as soon as it happened and it was just awful. I begged him to take me back, I lost tons of weight, tried to kill myself and missed a final exam, resulting in me getting a 2.2 instead of the 2.1 I was desperate for. I moved abroad to try to get away from my feelings, but obviously it didn't really work. I had total depersonalisation for about a month (totally numb, didn't feel real) and it's been intermittent ever since tbh. This was 10 years ago, and I think I still feel to effects of that, cos it was such a massive shock. The thing is that literally a week later we found out my brother had cancer, so that just fucked me up even more.
- What helped? What didn't help?
Friends being nice helped. That was the best thing I think. And moving abroad at least took my mind off it. Bit drastic though. Starving myself and not sleeping did not help one bit.
- How long before you felt you had properly recovered?
At least a year, but obviously that was compounded by mental health problems and my brother's illness.