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The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Driving Through A Sober Winter Wonderland.

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Mouseface · 07/12/2014 01:56

Hello, I'm Mouse Xmas Smile

Welcome to the Bus, he's called Gerald.... he takes us up and down and this wondrous land, searching high and low for Babes in need of some support, a warm place to sit and chat, and to have someone to listen to them.

So, grab a seat as we swing by your way. There's lots of hot drinks, food and fleeces, places to just be and places to sit around and chat if that's what you want.

We don't judge, because we've all be in your shoes, be they stilettos, wellies or crocs!...

We're just us, we're just honest and we just do what we can to help, if we can, when we can. Let's try and have a Merry Christmas without getting off our faces this year. Xmas Smile

Here is the very first, emotional thread if you would like to see where this all started

And the last thread if you want to keep up!

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aliasjoey · 11/01/2015 15:41

Sorry, that was to mas "jump him" comment - I x-posted with everyone.

SweetLathyrus · 11/01/2015 15:43

D'argh, my typing this afternoon! In my defence, the cat was trying to bite my hand.

babyjane1 · 11/01/2015 18:03

sweet now remember I'm very easily confused, what did you mean to say?

joey how are you feeling now ma darlin???

And ma you were in my big long lost post, I was basically saying the first stone cold sober stage is seeing you life laid bare, all neglected and tatty featuring all the same issues that sent us hurtling towards the 3 for a £10 deals. The second part which is the game changer Is working out within the confines of your situation you can do to change it. Baby steps will give you the confidence to take bigger ones, think of things you always wanted to change but never had the time? Or motivation!!!

If we drink between 6 and 10 every evening (more at weekends ) that 28 hours a week, for me, 1 and a half bottles, 7000 calories and £50 per week!!!

That's 112 hours per months
28000 calories
And £250 per month
all based on a 4 week month

112 hours eh , no wonder we're all bored shitless!!!!!

Food for thought eh xxx

Fairenuff · 11/01/2015 18:08

Hey ma, I've just put a dye on my hair too. We are living parallel lives at the moment. Spooky.

SweetLathyrus · 11/01/2015 18:17

I am feeling like a bear of very little brain at the moment, Baby, so even I'm not sure! Loved your analysis of the boredom. I went back to my Done Drinking app and entered a more honest daily intake. It says since Jan 1st, I have not spent £129 (yep, that was quality wine I was necking), and not consumed 7830 calories. But the hours regain is, if anything, more sobering.

What colour are you going faire?

SweetLathyrus · 11/01/2015 18:28

Just about to serve dinner, contemplating what to drink, having run out of tonic Sad

dementedma · 11/01/2015 19:23

Had two Becks Blue. Day 11 pretty much done. Soon be bedtime and the weekend survived.

obrigada · 11/01/2015 19:25

Evening babes.Day 11 almost in the bag, today was the first day I really had to fight off the WW. Have changed into my pjs to stop me leaving the house.

Fairenuff · 11/01/2015 19:26

Mine is just one of those brown shades with a touch of red. Chestnut I think it's called.

I've had a productive day, completed and sent off my tax return, painted the bathroom ceiling and already made my sandwiches for tomorrow. Also found time to play my pc game - Civilisation. Anyone else play?

Dh and dd have nabbed the tv to watch the third part of the Alien trilogy that dd got for Christmas. Lots of noise in the background and those two jumping out of their seats every two minutes Grin

Wry how are you getting on. haven't seen you post for a while, everything ok with you my lovely?

Fairenuff · 11/01/2015 19:28

obrigada I'm in pjs too. Well done to you and ma and anyone else who made it through today. Woo hoo!!

dementedma · 11/01/2015 19:40

High fives obrigada
PJs here too. If I have any more baths I'll start growing scales and gills. But it passes half an hour of witching time.
Yeah wry where are you quine?
indie?
thurso
mouse

SweetLathyrus · 11/01/2015 19:53

Very 'Swish' Faire. I went from blonde highlight to very dark chestnut (kind of reddy conker!) just before Christmas, but had the hairdresser do it because of covering in the previous colour. Your day has been flippin' awesomely productive

PJs sound like a good idea.

I haven't felt like I've had to fight WW so much this time, but I have been obsessing with getting and staying sober. I have also stopped craving novel drinks

11 days for me too!

TheJingleMumsRush · 11/01/2015 20:09

Sad I need the side car tonight. So sorry babes, only had two glasses and I will stop there. FIL bought a bottle of red around for us. Sad

dementedma · 11/01/2015 20:14

Well done for stopping at two glasses jingle. Always room in the sidecar to regroup and get back on it.

SweetLathyrus · 11/01/2015 20:20

Meant to say, I'm not craving novel drinks so much, water seems to do the job.

SweetLathyrus · 11/01/2015 20:22

Stopping was a victory in itself, Jingle. Deciding to try again is even more important.

TheJingleMumsRush · 11/01/2015 20:26

Now where's the big rainbow button?

aliasjoey · 11/01/2015 20:27

Feeling a bit better, but a sore tooth has been bothering me. It's kind of good to pinpoint the problem, rather than think 'there's something niggling me, but I can't be bothered to figure it out - so I'll just have a drink instead' Perhaps I'll even make a appointment with the dentist...

DH and I are racing through the 2nd series of Game of Thrones. I wish they wouldn't kill off people quite so suddenly ...

Anneisnotmyname · 11/01/2015 20:54

Day 11 done, plan to go to the gym tomorrow and focus on eating better. I need to get away from constantly picking at food all the time, I can see why I drink on an evening, it's a break from eating! If I end up gaining weight during dry January I'll feel like I've failed somewhat...

dementedma · 11/01/2015 21:10

Lots of babes not around at the mo. Hope everyone OK and just busy with life and all its joys. Am tucked up in bed with a mug of tea at this time of night. As weekends go, this one has been right up there for excitement! But still AF!
Blowing up a hooley outside again...

babyjane1 · 11/01/2015 23:23

Night guys,

It's been a toughie but we made it. Tomorrow there will be BOING, I can feel it clipping at our heels xxxx

beachestoexplore · 12/01/2015 01:34

Hey babes, still sober here. Feel like the habit of sitting on the sofa with a large glass of red has been broken, or at least feels a lot less alien! it is feeling more normal to have a cup of tea instead, even though I still just watch tv/play on iPad (patiently waiting for a little boing)

I am in a weird place where I seem to fantasize about not drinking again and my next bottle of red in equal amounts depending on mood/time of day. Hmm

Still taking lots of support from reading all your posts, keep going babes xx

SweetLathyrus · 12/01/2015 08:31

Morning All.

I'm sat in my office, had a desperately bad nights sleep - cold sweats, bad dreams, anxiety - and now, at my desk feeling like I want to cry. At work I put on an act of being happy and engaged, but the emotional effort of it means as soon as I shut my door or get home, I collapse and can't do anything, Unfortunately, at home and alone is when most of my actual work needs to get done Sad. I am hugely behind, fortunately, no one is going to come and ask me about it; unfortunately, no one is going to come and ask me about it! I work in a hugely selfish and supportive department (which wasn't like this when I ran it).

But, I don't want to drink (I know it's only 8.30, but it has been known), I also know that I need to pull myself together and get to the Dr, before I am too deep down the hole to manage it.

So, Babes, I hope you all have a good day. Will check in this evening.

Rubyredlips · 12/01/2015 09:30

Morning

Sweet you sound like you're really struggling. You need to be nice to yourself, you must be shattered after such a rough night? Have you arranged the doctor's appointment? Can you arrange something else for yourself- facial, reflexology or similar for later? Think you had arranged to meet with someone at work- was it your mentor - is that still happening?

I'm here if you need a chat and Cake

SweetLathyrus · 12/01/2015 09:45

Thanks Ruby, I know I am struggling because I'm no longer anesthetizing myself. I rang the Drs and have an appt for . . . Jan 28th Hmm. I can ring tomorrow for an emergency appointment, which I think I may do - last week I didn't feel like I was an emergency, this week I am certain that I will be if I don't see someone.

My treat will be just getting home this evening and going to bed - not very good at pampering myself (on my wedding day, I spent so much time doing my DMs hair and make-up, I didn't leave enough time to do my own properly!) But I did buy myself a lovely new glass mug yesterday to go with my new Tea Pig obsession!

I've got a meeting on Thursday with the course leader of the course I didn't make it to last week, and my friend/mentor gets back from a field trip at the end of the week, so we will meet early next week

Thanks for being there, I'd better put my head back down and read some more exam scripts Sad.