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The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Driving Through A Sober Winter Wonderland.

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Mouseface · 07/12/2014 01:56

Hello, I'm Mouse Xmas Smile

Welcome to the Bus, he's called Gerald.... he takes us up and down and this wondrous land, searching high and low for Babes in need of some support, a warm place to sit and chat, and to have someone to listen to them.

So, grab a seat as we swing by your way. There's lots of hot drinks, food and fleeces, places to just be and places to sit around and chat if that's what you want.

We don't judge, because we've all be in your shoes, be they stilettos, wellies or crocs!...

We're just us, we're just honest and we just do what we can to help, if we can, when we can. Let's try and have a Merry Christmas without getting off our faces this year. Xmas Smile

Here is the very first, emotional thread if you would like to see where this all started

And the last thread if you want to keep up!

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Fairenuff · 22/12/2014 20:12

So glad you're ok and still with us x

lookingforhope · 22/12/2014 20:44

Hi babes. Quick post as watching TV with dd. Have been busy doing Xmas shopping, meals, get togethers, attempting not to think about work situation and ignoring the fact that WB has still not offered me one iota of support. Unlike you lovely lot.

DS and friends all upstairs on XBox - it's a teenage sleepover tonight Xmas Confused. I am watching Richard Ayoade's Christmas show and dd is about to attempt some Xmas nail art on me.

Tomorrow off to theatre with old schoolfriend, my dd and her ds. Plus still preparing, preparing for THE DAY (a tad resentfully)

Am drinking a bit but not much. Not every night and not loads, though the temptation always there. Went for meal with cousins last night that was miles away and after first non alcoholic drink it didn't seem strange not drinking, just enjoyed the company and food. Lime and soda is my non alcoholic tipple

However am also remembering this time last year when dcs were in bed (dd was still in primary and we were pretending we still believed in Santa) and I wrapped all the presents, filled the Santa bags, ate the mince pie and drank the wine, ate Rudolph's carrot - and did it all alone as wb was asleep on the couch after shouting at me for 'nagging' him to do something. Some of the smug marrieds I know on FB were posting about days out ice skating or at the panto with their 'wonderful, gorgeous' hubbies (bleurgh), and I was crying to myself. I have told WB that if this year is a repeat then I won't be here on Christmas morning. But not holding out much hope... Xmas Sad

One day, when the dcs leave home, I will be free (though hopefully not still unemployed)

Wanted to send supportive hugs to Baby and Guggs and to welcome Wry back - was starting to worry about you all. Sorry for self indulgent moan there, am feeling very bleak at the moment. Sick of carrying everyone at home and getting no support. WB told me I was selfish for not offering to entertain his family, the horrid in laws, on Boxing Day. I said when he treated me like a person I might consider myself one of their family but the ball was in his court. Am coasting on a cloud of Citalopram at the moment....

Pink well done, nice to hear about your journey. You are a star!

And Ma, I haven't been missing rehearsals, something went wrong with my angel harness and have been flying above you all crashing into things and willing you all to look up! Think I have the hang of it now (clears throat and starts practising warbling 'Hark the Herald Angels')

dementedma · 22/12/2014 21:16

hope you can share my mantra.."one day I will". You just need the right day. And then you will fly without a harness.

PopcornNuts · 22/12/2014 21:41

Evening babes, I'm here, ready for my super important nativity role.

Today we said goodbye to my best friend, I'm a bit of a wreck. Being brave and strong and all those things she was I have failed to do at all today. I'll stop being so self indulgent I promise but today was so bloody hard.

dementedma · 22/12/2014 22:10

popcorn well done you for getting through the day. Erm, remind me again what your super important part in the play is? Dh has presented me with my annual bottle of Tia Maria so I'm a bit pissed fuzzy on the details.

MaryMungoAndMidgies · 22/12/2014 22:15

Grin ma!!

It's okay lovely inde I will be the bum.

Might need a wax...

Just pleased I'm not a camel toe. Grin

The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Driving Through A Sober Winter Wonderland.
Fairenuff · 22/12/2014 22:20

I can varnish your camel toe wry if you'd like it to be sparkly for Christmas?

(((Hugs))) to hope and popcorn, difficult times x

MaryMungoAndMidgies · 22/12/2014 22:33

Sorry petal, looked so long for a suitable camel bum that I cross posted. Didn't mean to look so flippant with my post, honestly. You be as self indulgent as you like darling, nobody expects the people left behind to be strong and brave.

Grieving or shedding a tear for them shows they were loved. xx

PopcornNuts · 22/12/2014 22:50

I am a shepherd, bit not just any, oh no, I am a shepherd with a gps. With my super garmin I'll have us all there faster than the wisemen can learn to spell their bonkers gifts providing I don't stumble on an off licence on the way

Mn has kept me laughing tonight, not often you find folk who trawl the internet for a crack shot of a camel's arse!

MaryMungoAndMidgies · 22/12/2014 23:08

Though it can be done, faire it can be done...

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Fairenuff · 22/12/2014 23:43

You were brave googling that wry Xmas Grin

lookingforhope · 23/12/2014 01:13

Aw Wry, I have missed you Xmas Smile
Popcorn, sending you big hugs. Hope you are being supported by friends and family, funerals are so hard.
Still being kept awake by teenagers, have had to go in with a stern face, it is 1.00 am ffs Angry AngryAngry. I am going to brain them in a minute

dementedma · 23/12/2014 08:56

You guys are nuts!

soupey1 · 23/12/2014 09:57

Hope - don't worry it does get better. DS (23) is now capable of coming in, cooking a pizza and then coming to bed in the early hours without waking me Grin

soupey1 · 23/12/2014 09:58

Mind you I only know he at the pizza that was in the fridge for dinner later in the week because he left the packaging on the kitchen side!

soupey1 · 23/12/2014 09:58

ate not at

venusandmars · 23/12/2014 10:16

In true wise-(wo)man style, I turn up 6 days late! But I am bearing gifts - comfort for all of you, a bag of resolution to share, individual words of support and encouragement (all beautifully wrapped), and a big box of abundance for all.

Merry Christmas!

SoberSocFish · 23/12/2014 10:20

I can't remember who I am, but I bet I'm not Mary. I never was Mary. I'm still not over it. In fact, it's probably why I've got a drinking problem. I'll blame that.

Anyway, I'm here. When is the rehearsal?

I thought we were in the Maldives?

Or was it New York?

I'm so confused.

Sober and confused.

Maybe I can be Mary in the Maldives.

venusandmars · 23/12/2014 10:54

Soc that sounds too much like a sequel to 'Debbie does Dallas' Shock

SoberSocFish · 23/12/2014 11:15

Well that's a bit tempting actually venus. All this goodly sobriety over the festive season is boring as bat shit. I'll need to get my kicks somewhere else.

Fairenuff · 23/12/2014 11:56

Soc just remember you are not missing out on anything.

My cupboards are stuffed with the usual Christmas nonsense - nuts and crisps, chocolate, cake, sweet treats galore and all I wanted yesterday was a bowl of fresh salad.

Those 'goodies' that tempt us are just a load of salt and sugar and if we had them all the time we would be sick of them. Same goes for alcohol. Just a load of sugar which makes us fat, sluggish, lethargic, headachy, bloated and... well just add to the list.

No wonder you are bored if that is what everyone around you is doing. Can you get out and about, away from the same old, same old?

By the way, you're cast as a wise (wo)man with me and venus - way better than Mary. We get to travel in style and probably have a song all of our own...

dementedma · 23/12/2014 13:39

Ah good. All 3 wise women are here. We only have one and a half camels at the moment, so you will have to improvise. If you could just run through the presenting of the gifts and try to look regal.....

aliasjoey · 23/12/2014 15:40

I have decided to put aside my own feelings, for the good of the Bus Nativity, and embrace the role of Joseph, beard and all.

To this end I am attempting to grow my own beard. In trying to do 'method acting' I will be pacing the floor like an expectant father-to-be, muttering about having forgotten the camera batteries, and soothing my beloved with helpful things like "It can't be as bad as the time I fell off that donkey on my stag night!"

Have asked DH for advice on the beard, and he advises checking it for dropped food.

dementedma · 23/12/2014 17:19

Good man joey, its all coming together nicely. < ducks as hope swoops overhead, flashing her knickers to all and sundry>
indie are you OK babe?

lookingforhope · 23/12/2014 18:20

At least they are my best knickers Ma. I do have a sense of occasion

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