How old were you when you got married?

[Northerner]

I was 21, nearly 22. Am 30 now and been married for 8 years, mostly happily

Chatting about it at work, and I looked at the single 22/23 year olds and thought, christ I was married at that age, and how young they seem.

They all say I was far to young to be married. I've never even thought about it like that tbh.

How about you?

[80sMum]

20

[cece]

Met DH when I was 19. Got married when I was 32.

[CorpseBride]

Married at 31. DD1 at 32. DS at 34. DD2 at 35. Might squeeze another in before I'm 40!

Hi dancinggirl, welcome aboard.

[theunknownrebelbang]

22, DH was 29.

Been married 18 years.

[Molton]

Thombat

proud to have his name, be part of his family in a formal way, make a public statement to the world about how we feel about each other. Having a husband makes me feel happy inside and is an extra reminder that we have committed to be together, we're in it for the long term - and that I must look after him and him me.

To me, it made no other difference to the relationship (it's a piece of paper and a big party, at the end of the day. ) All the things above you can do / have without being married and you are the same people whether or not you are married.

You should do what's right for you. A lot of people are married but very unhappy so it's no guarantee of anything, really, rather than initial intentions.

But it works for me

[schneeblysteinsmonster]

I was 24 and had been with DH for 2 years to the day. We have now been together 4 years and 8 months

[LaDiDaDi]

I was 21, nearly 22 and exh was 24. We'd been together for 6 years but split up after two and a half years of marriage. I don't think it was just because we were too young but because we simply shouldn't have got married. We were both quite emotionally needy/clingy people and although we were growing apart I think that we were both frightened of that and of facing the world without each other, as we had effectively grown up together, so we married in a vain attempt to hold on to what we had.

[MadamePlatypus]

34, but met DH when I was 25.

[MadamePlatypus]

Thombat, by the time we were married (last year) we had a house and DS, so we were pretty together. Getting married was a way to get alot of legal stuff tied up by having a big party.

[ThomBat]

Yes, can see legal side of things being a good reason to get married actually.

[Gobbledispook]

I was 27 and 3 days exactly

[DarkAlleyBongo]

27, had been together 10 years, married 2 now

[tallulah]

I was 20 he was 22. Just had (won't say celebrated because we both forgot ) our 23rd anniversary.

[liveagorybloodfilledlife]

20 - a week b4 my 21st. For me it was too young. I wasn't ready at all. h was 31, i was 7wks pg. went back to college next day! had 21st party at college with my mates not my h!

I lasted with it 16 years, 15 really but took another year to actually walk out of door. really sad it came to that but just can't be married to a 50 year old when i'm 39 (little bit more to it than that - am not actually that shallow!)

[tortoiseshell]

Just turned 22, still happily married!

[edam]

Thombat, I used to feel that I wasn't grown up enough to be married (like it was something Proper Adults like my aunts and uncles did and I was far too young). Surprised myself by deciding I did want to be married to dh - we were living together, had a joint mortgage, wanted to be with him forever and, I dunno, it just came as a blinding flash of revelation that I wanted to make a big public statement of love, belonging and committment. Very romantic wedding, fab party, (mainly) happy marriage. Still feels very odd when I have a reason to say 'my husband' though, so respectable and grown-up, not me at all.

[Emskilou]

I was 24 tosser face oh I mean exdh was 35, started divorce proceedings at age 25 nice huh! 26 now and never been happier, did just get asked for id when buying a bottle of wine though!