Husband gets annoyed if I don't want sex

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I have this issue constantly. Basically, if I say I'm not up for it, he throws himself around in a huff and sighs and will be in a foul mood with me and the kids.

I have a 7 year old and 3 year old twins. I worry about things like money (we all do) and I'm a stay at home mum. I find it hard to want sex. Sometimes I get on with it and end up enjoying it. Often, I feel cheapened.

We have sex roughly once or twice per week, but this changes when he's gone in a huff, because that's just a massive passion-killer.

His reaction in itself puts me off. I've been completely honest with him. Even telling him that sometimes I have sex with him when I don't want to. He just says he can't help his reaction.

I love him, he's a good Dad and husband and I fantasise about us going away for a weekend, no kids...and having sex.

What can I say/do to help him realise his behaviour is unfair. Do I need to take up drinking to get through it?!

Is it possible his reaction although misguided may stem from feeling rejected often? Just trying to see from both sides as you say you often don't want it?

Tell him that if he wants to have sex with you. He has to put you in the mood and make you want to do it. If you are doing it to prevent him from throwing a temper tantrum, you're just going to think of it as a chore and start to hate it.

It's His job to put you in the mood. If he compliments you and makes you feel loved, you would probably want to do it.

You've told him that you have sex when you don't feel like it.
Ask him how it feels to be a rapist.

EIGHT YEARS later they’re probably not together…ZOMBIE thread !

He sounds so selfish and immature. Does he help you with the twins in the evening as you must be exhausted and does he pull his weight around the house also. Is he nice to you on a daily basis. Nothing that turns a person off more is when there is pressure on you to do something or it is expected. It would be different if you spent time on the sofa him giving you a nice foot rub. Cooking dinner for you both now and again and just being nice and tender and caring but it sounds like he just wants to climb on top and just selfish. Correct me if I am wrong. Does he spend time with foreplay and giving you some tender loving, neck rub or just nice kissing and hugs thoughout the evening or is it just he wants sex and that is it. I would talk to him and tell him how you are feeling and tell him to stop being sarcastic and disrespectful or he can sleep in the spare room. Stand up for yourself and do not let him bully you as we are not in the 1950's where women were treated as 2nd class. Look after yourself and do not have sex if you do not want to just to please him.