Struggling with his ED

[instantflop]

Its a new ish relationship of about 6 months.

The first few times he had had a tiny bit of viagra, so i was none the wiser to the situation, then, when it became obvious there was a problem, he told me that he has a ' few issues' with it, but that if i was patient it would all sort its self out and would be ok.

I thought it sort of got better for a while, But if anything now we are going backwards.

He is very reserved in bed, its either missionary, while he can hold it, maybe 2 or 3 minutes, which does nothing for me at all and he just looks pained, or, me on top, bouncing on something semi flacid.

He has never orgasamed through sex, he can through oral, but again, his penis is in a semi flacid state and not hard enough for intercourse.

Ive tried to spice things up with various things, stockings, oil, handcuffs, toys. He isnt interested, says he doesnt know what to do, or just says ' thats nice'.

He cant do any other position as he loses it before he is in.

I like this guy, and, all things other than this are good, but my self esteem is starting to take a battering and im so frustrated. I brought it up friday, for the first time, and said that i was feeling frustrated and asked what we could do. He just said that i know he has issues.
I know he wanks daily, sometimes twice a day, and i know he is reluctant to take viagra, and it sort of feels like im not allowed any pleasure.

I was wondering if anyone had any experience of this sort of thing, or if they had any advice.

[GilbertBlytheWouldGetIt]

UGH.

He's a total non-starter. Well done on dumping him. Do ensure he stays dumped, won't you? You don't owe him anything.

[instantflop]

He is staying dumped.

The attitude he has shown is way worse than anything else, and its that that is the problem, totally.

When you meet someone, you dont know about them, takes a while for things to come out. Cant just dump someone over a bathroom. But i just reached the point afew weeks back and i did tell him and its sort of limped on, but now ive ended it.

[GilbertBlytheWouldGetIt]

"limped on"

seriously though, you're on the right track. Onwards and upwards.

[instantflop]

ha, un intentional pun :)