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[jesy]

Can I start us ???'

Meh. Someone I met last year told me I didn't look like my photos, but they were about 2 months old. Someone else told me I looked better.

Someone else told me I couldn't actually be the same age as I'd said I was, and insisted on seeing my photo ID to prove I was. That was unflattering, but I didn't ask her out for a second date anyway

What's currently annoying me is the ridiculous number of profiles with no photo, and the only profile text is 'ask me to find out more'..

Why should I bother? It's not like there aren't a thousand other profiles with photos and text, where I'd have some idea who I was messaging.

Numpties.

Bant bless you - yes I get it's quite intimidating for men to start convos with random strangers in coffee shops too!

It was really weird about 2 years ago I was at my connecting train station, waiting for a train in ice and snow and I was in a crowd and saw a seat so sat down... I got chatting to the man next to me about the trains, how cold it was etc... I think he was so shocked that I was being friendly... anyway... the train was more and more delayed so he suggested a coffee at the local Caffe Nero, we both went and swapped numbers. I wasn't that interested after the coffee but it was refreshing to get random interest.

I've been told I look like my photos, better generally... the photos are at least 5 years old and I'm much blonder... and my hair is longer... I've put recent ones up too though.

I have to admit I've been lucky with most men, their photos are very much what they look like in real life. Kent Lad was/is fatter by a good 2-3 stone than his profile pic though which was slightly but it was him.

i also find a few men can tend to either be greyer/balder than their pics but then that's what happens when you age. And I wouldn't say that's lying or anything at all, it can just happen quicker.

Bant I agree with you re the no photo profiles. do they really think you'll take pot luck on what someone looks like?!

What would you think about someone who lied about smoking on their profile? I also have a feeling he's lied about his height too but short of getting a measuring tape out on a date I can't be totally sure.

Well, I have just been 'talking' to what I thought was a very well preserved 40yo....or so it said on profile. He's 21. That freaked me out a tad. The beards made him look older.

Hasn't put me off beards though.
I have a date with Mr Beard on Sat. What to wear??? Will he look like his photo?? I like this bit

Beards!!? He only had one

He doesn't think we compatible I've text back and . Asked why lol

Answer back your out going lmao
Plus your broke wtf I'm so angry now I had a coke bought my own wine whilst out
I'm no scrounger.I had comments that I have anew car I fone which I sacrifice to pay for but best of it is if I get this job I'll earn more than him
He texted saying it wasn't bye but what free thing could we do , even a trip up hills would cost , I wasn't asking for a free ride

"Hasn't put me off beards though."

Made I saw the guy same time once a week for months, we exchanged looks and smiles with loads of eye contact. I don't normally do this normally so it was the most I could do. I am not confident enough to go up to a guy and think its just something that's not the norm. woman feel it would be too desperate to go after the man. Men are suppose be the ones to go after the woman. In society and not something I think should be the way.
I don't think a woman would keep giving eye contact or smile at a man more than a few times if she didn't like him. No woman wants to give a man the wrong signals. If I catch the eye of a man and I don't like his look, I look away and avoid eye contact.

He might not have been interested then gotta and just being friendly; I'll still be polite and nice to women if I'm not interested in them.

"I'm always aware that I may be seen either as a friendly bloke, a romantic stranger, a nuisance, or a potential attacker. And to avoid being seen as the latter two, I'll often just not bother trying for the first two."

Yep, I agree and threads like this one don't exactly inspire confidence to just go up to women in day to day life and start talking to them.

I always remember the old and what a load of old rubbish they were/are. Now you'd probably get a rape alarm in your earhole and a can of Mace spray in the face for your flowers.

Me too

Yes, exactly made a crotchet hat would make it more obvious

Rioux I am a year out of a 13 yr relationship so I have found dating hard, my confidence still needs alot of work. I often feel like I have been thrown in the deep end.
I started out old very green and my first date was at my house, it was day time and the guy was ok but I wouldn't do that again for obvious reasons.
When I last dated at 18, I don't remember it being so confusing or stressful.
Had coffee with Mr Young but not sure I'm able to tell if he's genuinely interested or if age gap is too big.With my ex it was instant attraction and we worked together, no texting in those olden days and I didn't feel like I needed to over analyse everything either. Mr young often tells me I'm georgous but I can't help but feel I'm too old for him even if I probably have less experience in dating than him.

Rioux - hope it's okay to ask, but why don't you feel you 'have the guts' for OLD? There are lots of lovely women here who I'm sure would be happy to give you profile advice!

The age thing - for me, max age gap is 10 yrs younger (than me) & 5 yrs older. I'm 43.
I was married to someone 20 yrs older than me, first husband was same age. Maybe the issue wasn't due to age, maybe more to do with the fact they were/are really shitty individuals?

What do I know? The 20yr old messaged me to say 'age is just a number' after I told him he was cute but far too young for me

Rioux Imnot 24 making him 9 yrs younger, maturity wise not much difference and I look young for my age. But with youth comes different attitudes to sex, texting and he's bound to want children, I had my DC very young. But it seems that from others experience, I best wait and see what happens at the 3 month mark.

I think old is helpful to gain some confidence and I personally found it hard to find RL dating, its hard in RL because I worry I will read signals wrong. With a date you know they are single and at the end of the date you learn from the experience and get practice socialising with different personalities.

imno oh the young boys pretending to be men, lol.

Another one bites the dust, was messaging a bloke yesterday, general chit chat as you do, then asked how he is thus morning and reply, am feeling really horny. Am a prude? but this type of comment really puts me off

in a moment of drunkenness ive agree to meet for a drink with mr v2 , he is the oddish one who likes his words not mine women to not look like little girls down there. ie lady area!!!

I think I may have over reacted , I spoke to my ex about it and he always said preferred it when it was more covered lol. and tbh this bloke seems fun, seems to understand about money issues as well.

any way after being told that im too out going doubt be a second date with the man from Tuesday.

before depression I was more out going , love to be able to have a drink and a dance, watch scary films , wear short skirtsz if I want !
I want to be able to do silly stuff ie
last year I went on a date with the most lovely man and we had gone walking up the hills near by and well I needed a wee so ended up going in a secluded spot , my date didn't bat an eye lid even held my bag lol

( pity I cant have him try as I might)

like people on here keep telling me I need to look after me !

imno

no your not , if you are so am I !

I get the same thing of an ex most weeks and I just laugh it off now by saying well you have a nice left hand babe,

but when your newly messaging some one I think its a bit off putting if its jokey sense maybe forgiveable but if they expecting you to help then no!