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[jesy]

Can I start us ???'

Now what do I wait to text

Jesy that sounds promising... I would wait for him to text you though

I texted already just to say I enjoyed the afternoon x

Stupid I know

Doubt be another dste he don't like to kiss

Oh well maybe it's me

Who said he doesn't like kissing? Him?

Hi, long time lurker here - I've been OLD for the past nine months or so, with various ups and downs and a couple of short relationships during that time. The wisdom and vicarious venting here has helped a lot!

avocado, I've been prompted to delurk by your post. I remember you from previous threads. Sorry it looks like it hasn't worked out with this guy, although it's good the breakup was amicable and you got some explanation at least.

I just wanted to say - don't feel bad that he immediately logged back on to POF. My last OLD relationship ended about 6 weeks ago, after around 4 months. More or less a mutual decision - he had a lot going on in his personal life, was very hot and cold with me, and I had to walk away as it was making me so anxious. I reactivated my OKC account within about 2 hours - not because I wasn't upset. I think a) OLD is addictive, and b) I wanted to reassure myself that although it had messed up with him, there were other people out there. I don't think he's necessarily 'back in the game' - we sometimes log on for various complicated reasons.

I hope you're okay - and that now I've jumped on I can some of my various dilemmas past you guys!

jesy I'm sure it's not you - you sound absolutely lovely. You get lots of dates - it just takes time for most of us to find someone who 'clicks' (or so I keep telling myself - I have had around 30 first dates )

Dolly

He does he said he thought I was going to kiss me but I went for a hug and he kissed my cheek.

He said he don't like to kiss, so now unsure what to do plus he doesn't live as local as I thought.

Donna
I guess I was thinking it would have been like with my first bf , met on pof and within a week of sleeping together we were practicaly living together most of the week.

Jesy It would be a big no from me if a bloke didn't like to kiss, that's passion out the window.
Don't settle, a kiss is normally the first connection and important.
Rioix Its rare to get a smile from strangers so if a Woman smiles at you then that's a good sign. Had a guy smiling at me for months, even sat next to me in the coffee shop. He never had the courage to say hello. I was giving him all the signals too. Anyway I would advise men to say hello because most women wont go up to men first, like myself.

Meeting Mr Young for coffee later, hopefully wont be awkward after my wobble at the weekend.

Hello everyone. Reading all your messages just confirms to me how complex and hard it is to meet people that you like/like you and that you want to date. It's much easier not to bother.,which is what I have decided.,having tried quite an array of dating sites- Muddy Matches ( photo of man with oversized carp seems to be compulsory on this site!)
Plenty of Fish ( renamed Plenty of Twats and Perverts)-Ii had messages from a 29 year old man(I'm 49),who was asking for a threesome with HIS MOTHER !! Reported him. Disgusting!
Then there was The Guardian dating site -a more high brow class of twat was generally on offer. I had a renowned artist who was so pretentious that he just texted me photos of his paintings, rather than having a conversation. They were awful ,abstract blobs of Barbie pink paint. When I asked him why they were so pink, he said' it's not about the colour, it's about the space in between.' Bollocks!! Then he really shot himself in the foot, he texted me a photo of him exercising in the gym! For God's sake! I nearly threw up!
Then there was Encounters Dating ( The Times, don't you know, but it still had an epidemic of idiots!)
Uniform Dating and Match.com proved very similar. I have stopped it all. hurrah!!
My problem is that I can't seem to stop my Plenty of Fish subscription, despite emailing them to cancel it, cancelling my membership and my profile. Does anyone have any ideas please?
I am resigned to being single and happy with my 3 girls and my animals.
I'm sure there are nice, decent , attractive and interesting men on these sites. But it's like looking for a needle in a haystack. Exhausting.

Doughnut No advice how to get of POF, but just wanted to say your post did make me smile, at least you have not lost your sense of humour. I too feel totally exhausted by the whole OLD. OKCupid probably the worse I too am 49 and constantly messaged by 20 somethings proposing something pervy.

Then there was The Guardian dating site -a more high brow class of twat was generally on offer

This really made me LOL!

I've also done a lot of OLD but have now given up. I agree its a needle in a haystack job.

(^ when I was typing that I originally typed "needle in a hackstack". Very freudian I'm sure.)

Gotta
I know what you mean,

I saw some for a few months last year, we'd been texting for ages but finally met and attraction was amazing in fact never kissed like that in public lol

@gotta - what signals were you giving the man in coffee shop; why didn't you say 'hello' to him?

Mademan - I was seeing Kent Lad (casually) on the side and he gradually reeled me in again (I didn't really believe his crap anyway). I did meet a lovely man through voluntary work but no way of contacting him and I'm not really into asking probing questions of people who may know him about him!

gotta Kent Lad was a good boy to start off with with a few problems... that were really fundamental. I think the crux of it is he's very scared of rejection and this stems from him being adopted (he's never met birth mother), I had a ton of straight talking on other threads here... I just can't deal with that now and told him so... the lack of money just seems yet another excuse... what how much is £60 per month (minimum 2 drinks, 1 x meeting) going to set you/him back?! and for the next few months... so this means he will be poor until start of March. He doesn't even have anyone apart from his son, and ex-SO's DSs to buy presents for at Christmas!

anyway moving on now!

Has anyone got any ideas on how to meet men in person?

I've got a friend who's quite shy (she won't approach men when we're out) and though she does internet dating she doesn't seem to have much success with it.

I've got another newly single friend who likes bands, gigs, bars etc.... she won't necessarily be wanting to meet a new man but likes going out...

So any ideas for us? I've done speed dating in past. To be honest though I got dates from it I wasn't really sold on the SD idea....

I was thinking maybe sports events etc.... I know this is a real shot in the dark and I'm not doing it for serious motives just to have a laugh. And encourage the shy friend!

mademan I'm replying on behalf of gotta (sorry gotta!) - it's really hard for lots of women to say hi to men anywhere even coffee shops....

It just doesn't seem to be the done thing to do, unless you're super confident or in a bar and tipsy!

Hello all, just coming on for a moan, maybe I am deluded buy why is it most of the men on OLD that are my age, look so well old. Surely there must be some err slight bit of fibbing going on.

Super

I know what you mean , I bumped into a guy a few years back who was stunning big blue eyes , cute smile liked my dog she liked him and God I wished I'd tried to keep conversation going , even did that classic thing of both of us looking back.

I went back same time for weeks but he wasn't there again but I didn't know how to keep him chatting ,
Just some time real life is harder

jesy I was even worse - met this man at a picnic to do with volunteer work i did this and last year (he wasn't anything to do with the project) he was there with a married couple and their dog (their friend) - we did a tour of a historical site then the picnic. I spoke to his friends but not him and only to him briefly at the picnic because I was too shy otherwise (I'd had a few plastic glasses of white wine though!).

why we like someone we just clam up?!

Blossom I get that too - often when I was on dating sites I'd get men my age and unfairly maybe I'd think - either you aren't your real age (mine) or you've aged REALLY BADLY!

Blossom I think lots of people lie on OD. Men fib about their height and their age, women fib about their weight and their age.

Or so I've found anyway. Some people lie about more things, some about none.

Super - it's actually quite intimidating for us to start a conversation with a random stranger in a coffee shop too. I'm always aware that I may be seen either as a friendly bloke, a romantic stranger, a nuisance, or a potential attacker. And to avoid being seen as the latter two, I'll often just not bother
trying for the first two.

It all seems to be lies. Every man I have met has always said I look like me profile pics and even better sometimes. Wish blokes could be as honest, def met couple who have shrunk.