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jesy · 16/11/2014 11:58

Can I start us ???'

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jesy · 18/11/2014 10:15

I wear short skirts in winter , black tights cover everything it's just same as leggings or tight jeans x

I will ignore her , it just seems she acts 20 years older lol just little comments like nail varnish a bit bright lol oh and better than short skirt one , at pizza hut Wed finished waitress asked if we wanted to take left overs , my mate no thank you me he'll yeah that breakfast lol

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DollyRocker1 · 18/11/2014 10:30

Hello, been away for a week in Cape Verde. Now refreshed and back on track. Got a date on Friday with a guy who went to same sixth form as me (but bit older so wasn't there at same time). Hope you're all well.

gottafindaman4yagirl · 18/11/2014 10:38

Definitely forget, should of text you earlier this week to confirm its still good for you. Common decency really, if he text you last minute its luke he thinks you have no life and can hang around waiting for him. That's one thing I am strict on when dating, hate being messed around.

SuperFlyHigh · 18/11/2014 11:08

gotta he's just texted me to say he'll be away for business in Midlands for 2 days and has got a 'don't think it's working out' text back from me. what an idiot.

SuperFlyHigh · 18/11/2014 11:33

gotta I find it strangely a relief (with a push from you!) that I've ended it with Jamie Theakston lookalike... I think I just needed my suspicions confirmed on that one.

Now Kent Lad next one down... probably not a goer either but stuff like the sex is good there! Grin

jesy · 18/11/2014 12:07

Just had classic message ,getting on well then he sent a pic of him naked, he was all very sorry about his actions it I said forget it him well his reaction you'd be lucky to have me

Lmao right now

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DollyDreamboat · 18/11/2014 12:24

Sorry King, missed this last night... no, I wasn't being sarcastic, I think it's a really good idea for a date. Christmas markets are ace!

Bant · 18/11/2014 13:18

Jesy - where do you find these blokes? One you think was nice who wanted to talk about your pubic hair during the first evening of conversation, another one who sends photos of himself naked after getting on well - presumably you haven't met these guys.

gottafindaman4yagirl · 18/11/2014 13:24

super Feeling relief is a good sign, he's just a waste of your time.

jesy Idiot men will keep repeating the same crap, at least it saved you the bother of finding out in person, not that he'd probably flash you in person. Wouldn't have the ballsGrin

SuperFlyHigh · 18/11/2014 13:26

gotta - I'm just wondering though - I know I stalled on ending it but he said something like "feeling's mutual" so I'm sort of thinking well why the hell didn't HE say something, the twat?!

gottafindaman4yagirl · 18/11/2014 13:39

Its impossible to understand why son men act like a brainless walking penis.
Hard to have faith when they tut out lol that.
I sent a brutal text to Mr Young Sunday, in hindsight I should not of done so. He's reaction was not to bite back but explain and sort things out. I still don't want to put too much faith in him but so far he's not messed me around.
I am happy with the sex which is very important to me. Had dismal sex with exH so makes a first in many years.

gottafindaman4yagirl · 18/11/2014 13:39

Some not son.

gottafindaman4yagirl · 18/11/2014 13:42

Faith when they act like that, Sorry multitasking.

SuperFlyHigh · 18/11/2014 13:44

gotta just got a text from Kent Lad saying "cash flow tighter than I thought it's going to be a tight few months".

This is the man who earns at least double what I earn, doesn't have massive outgoings apart from socialising, smoking etc... oh and he's probably going to get a job offer earning even more than he earns now - £10-£20 more....

I sent him a text saying "what do you want me to say? you may have a new job soon which will help. if it's going to impact on seeing me maybe we shouldn't bother". All very much ultimatum stuff but I'm sick of this... maybe it's a sign the writing is on the wall there too.

SuperFlyHigh · 18/11/2014 13:47

gotta I don't know the backstory to Mr Young - maybe the brutal text was what he needed. Explain and sort things out sounds good response from him rather than to bite back.

when I texted Jamie Theakston lookalike ages ago saying I wasn't sure (I wasn't) he was quite nasty saying I'd gone about my ex a lot when we spoke on the phone (I mentioned him for 5 minutes and we'd not long finished) and said something else cutting about me... can't think what but I recall it made me not secure with him.

oh I meant £10 to £20 K more!

King1982 · 18/11/2014 13:59

Gotta - it's not that sad, It was casual (so she kept telling), I'm of the impression that you have one life so make it as easy and stress free as possible. It would have been easier if she was just straightforward and honest. Rather than saying one thing and demanding something completely different.
I classify myself as being open to a relationship, I don't need one, it's not my goal. I find that some people are so focused on having a relationship that they try and crowbar someone in to one. How can I say "I want a relationship" or "looking to find someone to marry", when I haven't met the women out there.
I don't agree that there are that bigger differences between men and women, not on a physiological level, I think maybe some people will comply and indulge in stereotypes and socialisation. I think there is as much variation between different men as there is between men and women. I think there are more women on this thread because the vast majority of subscribers are women on MN. Also, socialised factors like men should talk about feelings, society has led people to believe that marriage/monogamous relationships are the norm (you could easily put those norms in the same list as 'it's normal for women to wear high heals') where do these pressures really come from. It's complete socialisation.

So, I feel if I take these pressures for what they are then dating is very easy and fun. It's interesting.

Obviously, there are different pressures on women that want to have children. But society has been structured to follow a path to having kids. Monogamous relationship/marriage/children(then half the time divorce). If society was set up where children are had between friends for example, then that would be the 'norm'.
Another stumbling block is society is set up where women choose career vs child. This in a parallel universe could be very different.

Sorry for the ramble(most of it is probably nonsensical)

King1982 · 18/11/2014 14:02

*men shouldn't talk

gottafindaman4yagirl · 18/11/2014 15:18

Super I think you have Kent Lad sussed, so he's hinting that he wont have money to go on dates with you. Don't like the sound if that if he uses that as an excuse to take a break from seeing you.

Maybe you should pull back and see if he comes running.
If its a big effort for us all to get men to want to spend time with us then its forced. Why they want to keep us dangling is unknown to me.
kingYour welcome to ramble, we all do on here.

SuperFlyHigh · 18/11/2014 15:24

gotta - I am this close from telling him to fuck off to the far end of Fucksville. Honestly if I detailed everything about him here you probably would say ditch him. It's just pne more thing he does to piss me off.

Hey that'd be the 2nd guy this week I've killed off... but at least I'd be single and ready to meet new men... fresh meat! joke... Grin

gottafindaman4yagirl · 18/11/2014 16:30

Super You seem pretty strong, why we put up with some disrespectful treatment from flaky men is beyond me. If your not emotionally in too deep then fresh meat could be a good decision, not that I believe in treating men like pieces of meatGrin

SuperFlyHigh · 18/11/2014 17:10

gotta I was emotionally in too deep but from some very tardy behaviour over the summer I saw the light as it were.

For some reason he thinks I still love him (he apparently doesn't love me but i think has feelings for me).

I will just send text to him saying F off - he doesn't warrant a phone call, meeting or email.

It's just disappointing because he's talked the talk but not walked the walk these past 2 months or so.... but really I know what he's like so I wasn't really feeling upset and knew he'd do it anyway.

I am strong, not normally this tough but here I just feel like... another one bites the dust.

Fresh meat no, that was my leetle joke!

MadeMan · 18/11/2014 17:30

@Super - I thought you'd already got fed up with split with Kent Lad; because you'd been talking about that man you met during voluntary work?

gottafindaman4yagirl · 18/11/2014 17:33

Super Was Kent a good boy to begin with, some are over keen to start off but then get lazy or lose interest. Its hard not to let the rejection make a dent in confidence but it comes down to self respect and believing we are worth more.

I put up with total emotional BS from my exH for years until I realised I deserved better. I was in a 12 year relationship from 18 so dating new guy makes me anxious especially that he's 9 yrs younger.

Suppose that with all the failed relationships we learn a little more about ourselves and should learn about the types we need to avoid. Like to be positive and say that a better man may be out there and now you will be able to put your energy into finding him.

avocadogreen · 18/11/2014 17:51

Hello all- you may remember me from the last thread, the bloke I had been seeing for 5 months suddenly went from super intense to 'I'm confused and not sure if I love you after all'. Well we met up at the weekend for a walk, actually had a lovely time, didn't talk about stuff til right at the end. He said he still felt the same, so I said well maybe we should just call it a day. It felt like the most amicable break up I'd ever had... he didn't want to take his stuff as he said it gave him an excuse to see me again... All a bit sad and bittersweet. Then today I just decided to search his username on POF on a whim and he's bloody back on there again!! I'm a little shocked..I know we said it was over but in the space of 2 weeks he's gone from 'I love you' to 'I'm confused' to straight back into the dating game... Grrrrr....

jesy · 18/11/2014 17:52

Bant

Not met either , they obviously after sex .

Had a nice date this afternoon , he older than my usual type but maybe that good , be lives a bit further than I thought tho .
First hour a bit odd at times but we met at 2 and he was on time but worried I chatted to much x
He gone shopping now so we will see x

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