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jesy · 16/11/2014 11:58

Can I start us ???'

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gottafindaman4yagirl · 09/12/2014 19:27

Major Tom who wants to make me happy is still logging on to Pof daily.
I'm in a hate old mood.

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jesy · 09/12/2014 19:40

Juju

Not talked on fone he seems genuine I asked a mate if can use empty flat to kip in save taxi trip but seems reluctant.
If it wasnt nt so cold I'd have stayed night in my car

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jesy · 09/12/2014 19:44

Gotta

Just a thing I'm sure pof say profile active ext when not

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dippinmytoe · 09/12/2014 19:52

Jesus I'm not used to being told I give good advice Hmm .

Girls hang in there.. We all seem to meet idiots and have been badly let down, but there are nice guys out there... hiding.
My weekend date with my guy didn't go to plan... I ended up in hospital !! So the guy I'm seeing drove way out of his way to see me.. In my gorgeous hospital gown and just in time to be there to see me being swabbed for mrsa ... my nose and groin.. so unglamorous. But it hasn't fazed him at all... He seems genuine and it's all quite lovely... Smile

SuperFlyHigh · 09/12/2014 20:20

gotta yes POF can apparently flag up activity but not necessarily them doing anything

Anyway for a single London based 43 year old no kids which site should I join or rejoin? Already on POF but no photo etc

MadeMan · 09/12/2014 20:51

"Major Tom who wants to make me happy"

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DollyRocker1 · 09/12/2014 20:56

superflyhigh why no photo? I kept getting creepy messages on POF. I would have says Eharmony until my creepy date yesterday. I've had dates also from Match and Soulmates. Not finding either site that great. My friend likes a free sure called Smooch. She met a guy she quite likes through there.

SuperFlyHigh · 09/12/2014 21:22

Dolly no reason for no photo! I think the men i saw when on there didn't grab me so that's why no photo!

Done EHarmony really not for me! Done match Crapfinity - same as match? Gsm did a few years ago so Smooch it is!

gottafindaman4yagirl · 09/12/2014 22:12

I have been a idiot, Major Tom gone silent after I confronted him about his over the top compliments. He kept saying I was perfect which is crazy after only spending two dates with me. What's wrong with me, why do I keep getting odd men.
My exh is looking good in comparison to the online men I have encountered. Its sad but I'm glad my ex will be over on Xmas day.
Why when I need wine I don't have any.

gottafindaman4yagirl · 09/12/2014 22:19

Dippin Its uplifting to know you have found a nice man :)

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gottafindaman4yagirl · 10/12/2014 08:36

Rioux I wasn't harsh but just asked if he was genuine or saying things he thinks I want to hear and if he's a player because if he is, I'm not interested.
He said he wasn't a arsehole and was just being nice, he is genuine and felt out of my league.
Being told your perfect is odd because no one is and it puts pressure on someone.
He wanted me to meet him later so he can talk.

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jesy · 10/12/2014 09:01

Gotta

I think sometimes we need to know these things especially if not used to compliment.

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Blossomflowers · 10/12/2014 09:39

gotta when did you last hear from him. Don't worry about POF thing, I am always on there being nosy, even when I am seeing someone.

I have just had the most amazing message from someone, can't explain really, I was not really going to bother because he is older than me but looks so much younger, I have replied but the age thing really bothers me, am I being silly?

gottafindaman4yagirl · 10/12/2014 09:51

jesy I think I am ok in the looks department and look after myself and keep in shape but I don't like it when people are obsessed with looks. The packaging might look good but the contents could be horrible. I am more proud of the way I treat and care for others, always worked on being a better person instead of getting along in life with my looks and figure.
But since doing old its very obvious its looks driven and post date text is all about how I looked and my figure
Sorry for waffling on, I'm in one of those moods.

SuperFlyHigh · 10/12/2014 09:59

Gotta I agree with Rioux in a sense because if he's used to attractive women wanting compliments then that's what he'll think most women would like to hear...

also Gotta sadly I think OLD is very looks based - eg the ones who don't look great don't get asked on dates. I know a lot of people see me as a pretty blue eyed blonde (the blonde is mostly fake!) and that's why I can get lots of attention from OLD. You can't change that attention or how it drives OLD (most men are visual anyway) but a nicely written profile is always a plus point, for me anyway. You can then big up your nice side and plus points!

SuperFlyHigh · 10/12/2014 10:02

Blossom how much older? would it be worth meeting to see if he looks the same as in pic?

I'm starting to think for me if a younger man (by 10 years) is interested then he may be my best bet for what I want (father material - god that sounds predatory!). But I also find men my own age can be very jaded in OLD. I don't think I can cope with the baggage of dealing with ex-wives/girlfriends either, I've had 2 now in the background and of course the man always sides with them... so a younger man without kids seems the way to go for me.

gottafindaman4yagirl · 10/12/2014 10:11

Blossom Don't worry too much about him being older, if he looks youthful in his pictures and they were not taken years ago, he probably looks after himself. Investigate further I say :)

Not going to meet Major Tom, most advice is to avoid. If I don't meet up then I might wonder if I was too quick to get rid.
The snippets of info I got from his daily life seems normal, he seems like a good dad and he's got a interesting job.
Not sure and not in the right mood to decide.

Blossomflowers · 10/12/2014 10:11

super He is 10 years older. I am 49, he def looks a lot younger but then so do I.

Blossomflowers · 10/12/2014 10:13

gotta I say you should give a little more time with him, but then I am probably not the best person to take advise from, my life is a right mess, can't seem to meet the one and still seeing my X most days. We are off to but Xmas tree tonight

SuperFlyHigh · 10/12/2014 10:17

Blossom if him being 59 doesn't bother you then go for it!

Like gotta said if he looks after himself then all well and good rather that than some men I see considerably younger don't look after themselves

Blossomflowers · 10/12/2014 10:46

Super That is the problem being 59 sounds so old to me and this is probably my hang up. I look a lot younger then my years and agree many men in their 40's look a lot older than this man. Think I am being silly.

gottafindaman4yagirl · 10/12/2014 10:56

Blossom At 33 I have only had one one relationship with my exh from 18 yrs. My ex knows me very well, my good and bad points. Still too involved with him but no sexual chemistry.
Getting into a new relationship scares me a little because with exh I had to shut off my emotions.
Major Tom just seems too good to be true and you know the old saying.
I have to admit that I was ott when I met my exh, I wrote him poetry and got him gifts and was madly in love. Looking back it makes me laugh because I was 18 and I suppose its different when its a man in his 30s.
Either I go with it and see how it develops and find out more about him, he was offended when I suggested he was a player.