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jesy · 16/11/2014 11:58

Can I start us ???'

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jesy · 08/12/2014 13:05

Blossom

He admitted to me , I asked where His pic had gone and he said they aren't me,
Part of me had an odd feeling as this bloke was hot lol but carried on chatting .

I guess loneliness clouds judgement x

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Blossomflowers · 08/12/2014 13:09

How odd isn't it did he say why he put up a fake photo. Either married or horrible looking.

IMNOTYOURBABES · 08/12/2014 13:41

Hi, I'm a bit Hmm about a guy I am messaging. His photo not very clear so I asked him to send me one.
He's got a bit 'off' about it & said he has never had to do that before.
He DID seem like a sweet guy until now. I have explained that I am just being careful etc & I didnt mean to offend.
But it seems he is offended...
Am I being paranoid?

Blossomflowers · 08/12/2014 13:45

imno think he has something to hide. Same as people wearing sunglasses. Sorry would not touch with a barge pole, but I am getting very brutal these days Smile

IMNOTYOURBABES · 08/12/2014 14:13

Thanks blossom I think you are right Smile

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jesy · 08/12/2014 14:16

He emailed me a pic and was ok

But I'm thinking married as was only on between 9-4

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IMNOTYOURBABES · 08/12/2014 14:22

I'm crap at this.
Viking guy is 'in an open relationship' with his wife.
20/20 (aka God) is bloody hot but I am just not that into him. I didn't mind the shakes & facial twitch (his) my friend said he must have caught sight of my cleavage Blush
I am beginning to think they are all a waste of time.

Tis one of those days. Hope everyone else fairing better.

gottafindaman4yagirl · 08/12/2014 14:32

Imnot I would say no thanks to a man in a open relationship, had a guy message me who is in one and said he's wife is on site too. I don't see the point in open relationships, some people are so greedy.
I was called a milf and the guy said he fancies older women...either you laugh or cry at the way men behave.
Its obviously not me who thinks its a gross thing to say to a woman you want a second date with.
I hope they are not all a waste of time, I'm still not sure about Major Tom. I fancy him and could easily dtd but should I risk it. I mean if we get to date 5 and dtd and that's all he wanted, I want to be prepared and not waste time or get emotionally involved.

Blossomflowers · 08/12/2014 15:21

imno He claims to be in an open relationship with his wife, yea righty oh then. Sorry I am very mistrusting these days.
Gotta I personally do not like to leave to long before DTD but is that is rubbish /no chemistry it is over for me.

gottafindaman4yagirl · 08/12/2014 19:34

Blossom I too am becoming mistrusting, I cant help but wonder if Major Tom is hiding something. He's way too keen , sending text messages saying he would love to kiss me or he would love to be sitting with me , run me a bath. Nothing creepy but he's only been on two dates with me and he's acting like a love sick puppy.
On paper he's only two years older Than me, attractive and hard worker, good father and a gentleman, wants to please me and is done having children.
My Dads not well and he's offered to drive me to hospital, I don't drive.
I'm just don't want to get carried away.

DollyRocker1 · 08/12/2014 19:39

OMG worst date ever. Lasted 40 mins. Stayed for one drink but got out asap.

gottafindaman4yagirl · 08/12/2014 19:42

Dolly Was it just no chemistry or was something wrong with the guy?

DollyRocker1 · 08/12/2014 20:20

Gotta I can deal with no chemistry. I can pleasantly sit with someone for 2 hours without chemistry and still relatively enjoy the evening.

This guy was just strange and social awkward. He'd say something and then snigger. He's the sort of guy you want to get away from at the Xmas party.

This sort of date has the potential to stop me wanting to go on any more. So I'm setting up a date with another guy to get me straight back out there.

gottafindaman4yagirl · 08/12/2014 20:28

Dolly Good idea to get back out there. I'm lucky that so far my dates have been enjoyable even without chemistry.

NoRoomAtTheGin · 08/12/2014 23:27

Funny, good looking, but awful in bed. Or, on my wavelength, gets my jokes and intelligent but not sure about any chemistry.

Which one would you choose, and why??

Blossomflowers · 09/12/2014 09:18

NoRoom Neither why settle for second best.

gotta I know what you mean about all the smoochy stuff with Major Tom but maybe give him a chance. Mind you Mr Italian was like that when eventually we DTD it was dreadful and it was all for nothing.

Sadly MR Builder seems to have disappeared, all that talk about how hot I was and how he hoped I would not be going on the site again. Ho hum I done my bit I think so will leave ball in his court.

SuperFlyHigh · 09/12/2014 09:53

NoRoom - certainly 2nd option - forget about first. and why? well he gets your jokes... if the first was better in bed then I'd take...

Dolly - well done about getting back in the saddle...

I had this with Kent Lad (why do we ignore our spidey senses sometimes) - first date was good - coffee bar then bar at South Bank and nice and brief about an hour total. Second date we went for a drink in Cov Garden when I met him I was like hmmm re what he was wearing (you have to fancy someone right?) and all the way through the date I kept thinking I just don't fancy you, he was trying his hardest... but somehow we got to the kissing stage and then arranged to meet next. I blame alcohol!

SearchingForSomething · 09/12/2014 10:39

Hi everyone,

Can I join in? I've not posted much before (I'm not a mum, so always felt a bit out of place!) but I suddenly find myself in the dating game for the first time in my life and could do with somewhere to pick up some tips!

A bit of background: I'm 34 and my husband and I split up in June. We were together for just under 10 years, and before him I'd had a few relationships but always with people I'd got to know socially, rather than through dating.

I can safely say that I'm definitely not ready for a relationship, but I have been asked out by someone who asked for my number on Friday night and I thought 'why the hell not?'. It is Christmas after all, I'm kinda sick of putting my life on hold on the off-chance my husband decides he wants to explore making things work, so why shouldn't I go for dinner with a nice man? Well, I hope he's nice, all I know at the moment is his first name and where he lives..!

So, while I certainly don't expect a second date to follow, I'm sure it'll do me good to see that there is a whole world out there and that maybe in 2015 I'll be in the right frame of mind to give dating and the single life a go.

All hints and tips greatly appreciated, the date is still a week away and I'm already beginning to feel a bit nervous..!

gottafindaman4yagirl · 09/12/2014 11:00

Blossom I would like to believe Major Tom is just sweet and really into me but he's sickly sweet. I'm learning that men are either blunt that they are only after seeing you naked and sex or kill you with compliment and sweet talk you to bed.

Not comfortable with being told I'm perfect, no one is perfect and after just two dates there's no way Major Tom can state that about me. What happens when I'm not perfect, will that burst his bubble.
Sends text saying he wishes he could kiss me now, be with me, missing me, wants to make me happy.
Said I was photogenic and could be a model and he could look at me all day long.
I am left wondering if he's got a book on all the right things to say to women. Unlucky for him I don't have insecurities about my looks and don't need texting that I'm georgous and beautiful everyday.
If something is too good to be true, if he was for real then I would be so very surprised.
Have read threads on MN of men being like Major Tom, the women falling for all the charm just for the man to suddenly go cold.
I don't suppose I will find out unless I keep dating him.
Am I being cynical?

Blossomflowers · 09/12/2014 11:33

gotta cynical yes but you have every right to be. Maybe he is really really into you and cannot believe his luck, I would give it a bit more time and see how it pans out but keep my guard well and truly up.

My love life is non existent right now Sad really nothing on the horizon. Cooked to X last night and had a lovely normal evening except he went home, just weird we are.

MadeMan · 09/12/2014 11:47

"Have read threads on MN of men being like Major Tom, the women falling for all the charm just for the man to suddenly go cold."

It's not really charm though is it; it's like you said in your first line about being sickly sweet. He probably wants to twirl around with you in his arms and gaze into your eyes forever and ever and ever...

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jesy · 09/12/2014 11:51

What do ppl think of accidental meetings

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MadeMan · 09/12/2014 11:54

"What do ppl think of accidental meetings"

You mean like bumping into sombody and spilling their coffee?

Blossomflowers · 09/12/2014 12:06

made You do make me laugh

gottafindaman4yagirl · 09/12/2014 12:08

Accidental or chance meeting, like its a small world?

Blossom My ex and I can still have long telephone conversation about DC and generally have alot in common. I still lend a caring ear to his health problems but that's one way. If I got into a relationship I don't know if it would go down well with ex or new man. My ex was a friend first, it was love at first sight for me. I still miss him sometimes.