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[jesy]

Can I start us ???'

It ridiculous how low I am feeling.
I think he was a player just on the hunt.. maybe i should have acted like I didnt give a toss.. I keep thinking he will text in a min and say sorry he didnt mean it !!! wish i could just feel numb..

New allow yourself a duvet day today & a bit of a wallow (but you MUST eat!) then get back out there - work can be v.useful for taking yr mind off it and there are people to talk to/distract you. Treat yourself too - buy yourself a little present or book a pamper session e.g. a massage. Exercise & fresh air can also give you a boost.
It will pass

New, this is NOT about you. It's just part of the process. You let yourself be vulnerable and the rejection is bringing up stuff about your marriage breaking down. I've been there and it's horrible but you said yourself it's not about him per se, it's the feeling of loss of having someone interested in you.

Bear in mind as well that you don't know what is going on with him - he could be a player, he could have a broken heart and an ex dangling a cherry which he wanted to bite etc (shit metaphor but you get me), he could be feeling vulnerable too and suddenly scared of commitment.

Chin up, lick your wounds and regroup. This too shall pass.

Jinx x-post Ocelot!

Great minds Juju :)

This is just a little rant non dating

A nanny job today , was meant to be till four pm which meant if hospital had any shifts I could do a half day
Bloody parents just texted sorry we forgot to say but won't be home untill at leSt nine

Yes I get paid ( minimum wage) but with the other shift it would have been 20 an hour so miss out now .

New Sorry you are feeling so sad, rejection is horrid. This is not about you, you can't help what you feel but as others have said better to find out sooner rather than later. Have a lovely Duvet day, shite TV and some crappy food. Hope there is someone in RL that could pop round later for a bit of distraction.

For me weekend quiet spent most of it with X, don't ask. Have have limited communication with MR Builder, I suggested we meet up early this weekend and he said great but get the impression he is really is not that interested. I have sent a short message this morning saying hope you had a good weekend but unless he starts to step up I am not going to bother. Shame as I really fancied him and that is so rare. Ho hum onwards an upwards

ocelot I really cant eat at the moment. Of course I will eat but just not now.
It will pass I know that as have been here before but its just bloody bloody awful right now!

New

You still have us rabble x

new if it makes you feel any better last Feb (after about 4 months) I had same experience as you only there were reasons - he wanted to meet his birth mother, felt insecure about that - he's adopted...

Someone somewhere has written down the rules eg don't get too invested too soon.

I think for those of us who're 30 and over with/without kids etc sometimes you're not the same as eg in 20's where you didn't care so much if things ended, picked yourself up easily etc. I don't know if men sense this too. Its weird though if you want to settle down, like them etc then they seem to get the brakes on after the magic number seems to be 3 months!

Can't recall what else you said apart from crap sex, maybe he thought that too but didn't say?

Just take it easy today, indulge and know you'll meet someone nice in future.

new - maybe you should keep in mind for next time that if you tried to stop seeing someone there was a reason for it... and blow them initiating the contact.

I just saw the other guy (Kent Lad) the one I mentioned originally, adoption etc recently despite him still being a wuss. He totally puts his son (14) first (which is natural) but expected me to fit in, eg if his son wanted to go to college in USA I'd have to come too (ok, possible) but when I wanted kids which he'd been open to before it was no, they cry etc... so all on his terms not meeting me half way at all.

My last straw was when he texted me he was too broke to see me over next few months, he earns at least double what I earn and I know for a fact he'll buy gifts for his son's half brothers (expensive gifts, like £150 upwards). I mean if you can't afford £20 a week for drinks with me at least then you've got a problem. rant over!

Blossom Shame about Mr Builder, I get what you mean about a man suddenly not so interested or getting lazy. Its often rare for me to fancy someone I worry about letting myself get attracted. Incase I'm being played and get hurt. I know life is about taking chances but when I comes to emotions its hard.
Super Rant away, you have good reason to. I got the same thing happen to me and it put me right off the man. Just seems like a lame excuse, if a man wants to spend time with me then he will find a way with or without money.

ha gotta that makes me feel better... that I can rant and that someone's been through the same as I have...

I've already listed (partly) the stuff that made me mad about Kent Lad (emphasis on the Lad part there!).

It's even more galling as he was punching above his weight with me, looks etc wise... and he knew it!

Yeah so annoying that Kent Lad had to make some excuse to me - it wasn't even like he said anything just a series of pity me texts I've got no money what do I do?! - this is taking into account he was probably going to be offered a job paying £10-20K more any week now.

Ah shouldn't rant so much...

Super,

You rant away !

gotta I know is a shame, all the dates I have been on a probably about 2 I have really fancied, maybe my selection process is off. Did have a reply from Mr Builder but was short and sweet, maybe I am reading to much into this, I hate stupid texting it feels so teeneagerish

Super The younger bloke I dated was a bit overweight and not as physically in shape as me. He had no money for a quick drink once, he also made little remarks about me being older. He had grey hairs, I don't yet and I get asked ID for alcohol. Blossom he also went from texting me during day and after work to one text late at night probably when he wasn't on FB or bored. I got rid of him because i felt I was worth more Tha the value he put on me.
Young guy I had one date with called me a miltf, did he think I would find that appealing.
I think its great when a man lets you know he finds you attractive, Major Tom said he could not stop having a peek at my boobs nut didn't want to offend me. I was hoping he wouldn't focus on my body so much. I was wearing top and skinny jeans so not trying hard to look sexy. Just seems that men are very into looks initially. I wish I could go with the attraction and dtd without feeling like its going to steer a possible relationship into just sex.

That was my rant with spelling mistakes. :)

gotta rant away. Dating as likely to send us around the twist. Sorry if I sound stupid but what actually is a miltf?

Mother I'd like to f@#k which I crude, I'm not looking for younger men who use that expression. I'm a grown-up woman who has children, I don't want to be called a miltf. Glad Major Tom is 2 yrs older than me.

Yuk, how horrid, think I would actually slap some who said that to me. I hate it when boys contact me, it just seems so wrong.

Blossom

It's like when guys ask size of boobs in a message I said to one over weekend would he do that in a pub , he said no my reply yeah if u did I'd slap you now go back to your youth club lol

I get the impression men are bit obsessed by size of breasts, very off putting when you date cannot keep his eyes of them

Lol my Mr builder back on site with the fake pics

I don't even have big boobs, breast fed both kids. I told him not to expect big boobs and I wont expect any big from him ;) I didn't actually notice him looking, I was checking his figure out though :) I just don't like the pressure that goes with the flattery. He has told me that I'm interesting at least and texting is varied and good.
Told milf man to stop texting me. What a turn off.

How did you find out his pics were fake jesy