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[jesy]

Can I start us ???'

Blossom sorry about Mr Music not panning out....

if it helps my weekend is equally bleak, my friend cancelled on me for later and a few other friends are either broke and/or not looking for men.

I can't bring myself to do OLD dating yet as it's so much hard work.

super ah don't worry, I would rather find out early on that someone is a bit nutty, saves a lot of energy, I take is in my stride now, am already chatting to someone else who seems nice, shall call him MR Builder. Sorry you are lined up for a pants weekend too, think I will try and sort this messy house out and watch loads of crap TV. And come on here of course

Super Better to know he's a kinky guy now than after investing your time. Bloke I dated for a month was into hair pulling and hand over mouth sub stuff. Wouldn't of known this untill dtd, live and learn. That's why its difficult if you go on loads of dates and hold out on dtd, then find that its all off in the bedroom department.
I have a me weekend, cooking for one, drinking wine alone and a movie of my choice.
Have 3 men interested in setting up dates, guy I went on date with Wednesday is very sweet but no instant chemistry.
Another Is smothering me with flattery, he's the one I spotted at bar when on another date. He could be a burn fast kind of guy but I wont know till our date next week.
Don't know if I'm doing something wrong, is it just me or do some men come on strong. Maybe they think that I will be easy if they just flatter me. I'm not all about looks myself, I like a man with character.
Blossom l have a messy house to tidy up myself and going to get Xmas decs out of loft.

Blossom I totally agree - any nutty behaviour best to get it out of the way first off - from both sides!

gotta I agree re the kinky too but forget what I said?! I hate to say it and some have championed this but as I've got older I've DTD sooner than if I was younger... as then you do find out if you're sexually compatible (which my mum says is very important! )

See I generally go for looks first shallow but character 2nd - no good if they're attractive but you can't talk to them...

I have an Ikea trip planned for Sunday for my sins... that and walking and playing with kitten (7 months old) and tidying/Christmas stuff.

super your weekend sounds like mine, have 2 mental kittens to keep me busy.

I def agree with DTD sooner rather than later. Mr Italian who I was dating for a few months turned out to be such a disappointment in that dept. Things were great until then

"I suppose your net gets smaller as you age."

Yep, fishing tackle as well apparently.

My coffee date turned into a dog walk, I feel funny about him paying as I don't have money to return. But his mate had posted a pic of them in gym , not bad lol

The second date which was arranged yesterday with some one else Has done the typical disappearing act , what pisses off more than anything is I put petrol in today before I realised he'd buggarded off.
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To top it all that date I had weeks back texted asking if I'd ever had an std was a little mad to say the least

Tonight is curry night

"...things went all quiet with MR Music."

Another here with an unexciting weekend! I seem to be contacted by people from the other end of the country at the minute.

Good luck to those with dates.

"I seem to be contacted by people from the other end of the country at the minute."

There's been a few complaints on dating threads here about that sort of thing; I think Tinder is the main culprit for regional mismatching.

Doc

I know what you mean ,I havemessagesoff people who are miles away , I have a tight mile radius mainly as if we got on an d you want to see them more than once a week or so travelling miles isn't an option for me. Even if I was working .
Maybe I'm being fussy but I'm thinking of practical aspects,I have an elderly dad I don't want to be fifty mile away
I tend to go for my home town area as as well as if I get stood up I'm not in a strange town .

It does make me laugh when you get messages from miles away , you look at profile and they cant even drive lol
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Spoke to date guy on text yesterday, let's call him Mr Office. I replied to his text from last night this morning and he responded straight away, asked plenty of questions etc. Then I replied and haven't heard anything back yet. He's out tonight.

The thing is he may not have replied because he's busy, or he may not have replied because he's not interested (there's a bit of me that thinks if he was interested, he would have replied by now and maybe his other texts were him being polite), but there's no way of telling other than to wait and see. Which sounds fine and I've only met him once, but for some reason I feel really down about it. If he isn't interested, it's disappointing because I am, but also it's a rejection. And it's a reminder that these are the feelings you get when dating.

On the one hand I really want to meet and be with someone. On the other hand, I have really enjoyed not having the ups and downs of dating the last year or so, and being on more of an even keel.

Apologies for sounding a bit psycho!!

Tortillas, who instigated the text chat last night, he or you?

If it was him I would take it he is just busy, if you then, who knows, just wait and see.

Tortilla Texting is the part of dating I find most frustrating. Its hard to judge a persons feelings, sincerity or even true interest. Some people fill in boredom with texting, I am one of those people who is not good at texting.
My experience has been that in the beginning the men are very eager to text, when they think they have you hooked they wont text so much.
Dating was better without texting, less anxiety.

I agree. I liked dating when they phoned my landline!

Yes but I remember the days before 1471 and waiting in for the call that never came .

Any ladies who in the Worcestershire area?

Oddest chat up line of the year

Name Santas reindeer lol

Hello folks, I've been offline for a few weeks - can't believe how quick this thing moves.

I've finally got round to having two dates land in my lap all of a sudden in the last week!

MrStudent was a great date - he was interesting/interested, funny, had loads to talk about etc. Didn't fancy him at all (sigh) but have agreed to a second date next week

MrPizza was lovely but a bit more shy/reserved, sounds like he's just finding his dating feet after a few years dealing with marriage breakup. Totally fancied him. He asked me out again (yay!) and I'm now moving into the tired and tested paranoia/stress phase where I'm waiting for him to get in touch (he needs to check his work shifts) and hoping that he is feeling as excited about a second date as I am. I hate this bit arrrrgh. It taps into all my insecurities and makes me feel a bit mental.

Right, will try and catch up on all your news!!

Dolly I agree I like the guided communication with eHarmony. I liked the fact I was sent 'matches' and didn't have to trawl around. I liked the fact people had real names on there so you were being shown 'David' and not 'partyboy67'. And I like the fact if you didn't reply to their message they were automatically blocked from sending any more, I just felt quite protected by the whole thing.
I might also be biased because I met 2 men on that site. One was a nice bloke and we had a pleasant lunch. The other is now my fiancé .
The thing is though, from day one there were NO GAMES. It was straightforward. It was easy. It was enjoyable. We both have 'baggage' but who doesn't? Probably because of said 'baggage' we knew we were on to a good thing. I've had a glass of prosecco while watching tv and mumsnetting so not really bringing much to the table here but I guess I'm trying to say that there ARE good men and good relationships to be found OL. But if it's difficult or stressful or you get that gut feeling it's not right then don't tie yourself up in knots. Just move on, life's too short.
(Ps obviously there are the normal wobbles! But - in my varied experience of relationships now - if it takes a LOT of agonising or stressing then it's probably not right).
Ok I'm off to get more prosecco. But good luck to you all and I hope you have good stories like me at the end of it!

I have a date tonight with Leonard Cohen, mozzarella and wine. So far so good :)
juju I cant bear the waiting game, be strong and remember your worth.
Sadly there is no booklet on dating, that's why were on here :)

Leonard Cohen not my idea of a fun date! Can you find someone a bit more upbeat?

I'm glad we are here for each other ,

I haven't a clue what I'm doing ,still have feeling for Mr IT but contact getting less on my behalf , his new gf seems great and his happy and I'd be a crap mate if didn't support that.

Chatting to a few ppl Mr builder obviously got bricked up some where I sent a stripping ass email after he'd won me over but lied again and basically told him be was a kid playing with emotions and that was cruel

I'm sorry Jesy but I can never understand your posts?

Little mouse thanks for sharing your experience. The only frustrating thing I've found with Eharmony is that some people give up half way through guided communication. But I guess this just means they may have met someone else or have spotted a red flag in one my responses. Early today a guy with 2 cats started guided communication but I had to send him an EH mail to explain that I have a bad allergy to cats so we're not well suited.