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[jesy]

Can I start us ???'

Thanks for your positive post littlemouse

Have sorted dilemma with Mr Beard. I have told him I will be here to support him as a friend re: his mum's illness. We are both ok with how things are & still messaging each other loads

Met up with 20/20 tonight. Not sure what happened but I don't fancy him as much as I did. Basically, I've stopped thinking he is god & I didnt have that 'cor blimey get yer kit off' moment I always had when I saw him....Ho hum.....

Onwards & upwards ....

jesy Your doing the right thing with Mr IT, it should get easier over time. You need to support yourself and find your own happiness.
I don't allow myself to get too involved with online men, I don't spend weeks chatting, like to wait until a date before I invest anything.And if they disappear before date then I wont be upset.

Don't let anyone win you over especially if you have not even met them, take everything they say with a pinch of salt. Protect yourself emotionally and don't give too much time to digital chat, you don't know who's sitting behind the screen.

Little mouse quick question about Eharmony. Did you find that once you'd gotten through guided communication that the guys still wished to exchange several messages through EH mail before suggesting meeting up? The first guy I met I said to him I'd really enjoyed being pen pals but would be happy to meet up for a coffee to continue our chat in person. I'm now on round 3 of EH messages with another guy.

With Match they're keener to meet up so I haven't had to ask them out.
More generally is it best to wait for the guy to ask?

Gotta

I know what you mean, I thought a second chance wouldn't hurt but it did , learnt that lesson.
Chatted to three nice men yesterday both two disappeared lol there loss.
The other messaged me saying sorry have to work now, but next weekend if your free. We will see.

As for Mr IT , gets easier we still text and fB comments it this might sound daft it it helps me I can see he happy and I know I will be
He still there for support and the kick up ass

But messages less they days

Dollyrocker I came here to ask the same question.

I'm on eharmony and like to meet people quickly, see if there's a spark and move on if not. Never sure when to suggest meeting up though- are men waiting for the woman to suggest it?

Daters

That the thing you could spend ages texting and they dull as dishwater lol

Ok well don't do random things but did today .
Mr rig who was to be mY non date date if you get me was hung over today and to be honest so was we cancelled by joint agreement.

As I was passing his I stopped at his, for last 18 months he has said call by anytime so I did lol
But we had a great little chat , rearranged for next week and wow his pictures don't do him justice .

Sorry the I keep missing

Sorry guys xx

Good for you jesy, bloke i saw in bar looks way better in the flesh than his online pictures.He seems very keen to meet but I'm not going to get carried away.
Went Xmas shopping alone, couldn't help but notice couples, men carrying their women's bags :(
I don't vont to be alone, makes me feel like a reject. Its like when you want to be pregnant and all you notice are pregnant women, All I see are couples.

Hi Dolly and Daters123 - yes I think I did find that once out of the guided communication my matches (not that I conversed with many) liked to chat a bit more on the EH messenging before meeting up.
I was happy to do so as I was quite enjoying the emailing as at that point I wasn't really sure how ready I was to actually date, and (esp in the case of DP) we had really good email exchanges!
But I do think, on balance, it's quite good to meet up pretty soon or it really is a waste if you meet and there's nothing there. I don't think the man needs to wait and ask! If you'd like to then just casually suggest a quick coffee or lunch or wine etc - whatever you feel comfortable with. If he thinks that's odd then THAT'S odd! I mean you are both on a dating site...
Btw when I met DP it wasn't thunderbolt of lust etc. There was definitely something there but I also did mainly go along with a second date because I had liked him so much as a person...
And now I couldn't love him more in any possible way! I don't mean to be pukey but just to say sometimes don't rule someone out on a first date because you're not feeling electrified.

little I agree with not ruling someone out on first date because its not instant. Also I don't have a big list of what I want in a man either, think its good to keep a open mind.

Gotta

Wish you lived down road from me x it's like a mirror image.

I'd love kids and I've had years of smiling nice when ppl say they are pregnant , In the Summer I was at Mr IT when I had text I burst into tears despite it being a good mate who was pregnant, he was kind about it but when he'd gone sleep I cried lots.

And the Xmas couples well I just want to say you'll just get socks love lol

I've liked him from start but didn't think wow which is shallow of me
Plus his dog liked me and he calls him son

Must not get carried away

Tortillas - texting phase is the WORST bit of dating. I had the exact same situation yesterday, I was the last to text MrPizza on Friday night, agonised over him not replying all day yest but sat tight and he messaged today saying he was free to go out again, had just been waiting on work rota :)
Anyway, hope you hear back soon!! Keep busy and don't text him again!!

On the other hand MrStudent sent me a message via the dating site and then only a few minutes later texted, asking me out again and calling me darling. We have met once and it creeped me out a bit. Not sure what to do now.

Jesy date next week sounds promising!

Gotta, would you go out with someone again even if no physical attraction at all? Would you make it clear it's as friends first, then see if anything develops?

jesy Sure we would be good mates x you seem sincerely lovely.
juju For me attraction is not instant, I like character and a quirky personality. Plus most men on first dates with me are nervous and i like to dig deeper. I could never be friends with a man i liked romantically, I am a romantic at heart. For me its all about mental attraction more than physical, we all tick differently.

juju Saying that...My first love and ExH of 12 yrs was instant love/lust at first sight. But I am older and wiser now, I hope:)

Well I had date 3 yest.. It was fab
. ... dtd .. really good.. We have agreed to be exclusive

dippin that's great news. Really pleased for you.

Juju

I met some a few years ago, our first meet was at his work place and just a brief chat and I'll be honest didn't fancy him.
It took a,few dates for a physical attraction . I can remember telling a text friend that he was to skinny and her saying we'll feed him .

Sometimes attraction grows or we put initial lack of it in the way and don't give people I have!

That what I did with my date for the weekend.
We have texted for getting on 18 months and only just met as I wasn't keen on a photo

Excellent Dippin Lucky girl.

Brilliant dippin so pleased

Thanks guys... I'm hopeful it will work out. There are so many twats out there that it seems impossible to meet the right one !!

Dippin

Your right about the idiots out there

In last few weeks I've had a liar
The one who offered to pay me for sex

And the one I chatted to for a bit then realised I'd seen his wedding pics on fB only 6 month ago. Lol

i feel shit now... just seen a friend of an ex friend of mine is pregnant on FB. this was someone who wasn't expected to get pregnant.

I feel like what can I do right or wrong? This time last year I was with someone nice but he turned out to be an idiot got my hopes up and now I'm not with anyone not likely to be with anyone and no chance of kids.

Super

If I could buy us wine n tissues I'd join you right now.
I went to text an ex to see where to send his daughters Xmas gift and boom lo g of him and the fiancee. Bit of a smack in face now but been a grown up and asked her name so I can add her on to the Xmas card for him . He said it was sweet of me but me I cried as I texted it.
I understand how you feel sometimes it's a big thing about or a pregnancy or in my case a comment of us with out couple cups.
Anyway I don't know how old you are but last year was last year

, us lot on here marvellous bloody brilliant and Mr or miss right is out there and its a game we are playing x