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[jesy]

Can I start us ???'

No we were close mates , spent all our time together , I'd pick her up from work , went to college so she wasn't alone

Helped her plan a party but I wasn't invited to it apparently not my thing according to her then we lost touch.
Got back in touch a few years back , but your right she not a friend

Jesy could you talk to the Job Centre about volunteering? I'm sure they'd see that as a worthwhile pursuit and may even help facilitate it? Obviously you can still job hunt while spending a couple of days a week volunteering.

Doc

I wish they would thay you should do full time hours job searching which is stupid .
I have even had trouble getting travel money back , so them helping with volunteer work doubtful.
Trust me job centre no real use tbh maybe I'm doing something wrong but others seem to get stuff I don't even have a warm coat this year

I'm sorry to every one on thread I been so needy

What a pain the job centre is... I haven't had to use them much apart from when I was 19 for a short period and then about 5 years ago for 2 months. Never again!

Could you volunteer at weekends or evenings? another thing I've always wondered about - WI (Women's Institute) this has got really trendy in past few years first visit is free then you pay. Just an idea to get you out.

I personally don't like book clubs (bad experience with a man from one years ago!).

Can you change your GP or see another one in same practice? Good on you for not being like your mum (on medication?). I know a few people a good friend who was on meds for depression a few years back, I don't speak to her now but I know she manages a card shop. i think it was more someone helped her out though as well.

Worry that depression ext will go against me wen go for nhs job Sorry this us not right on this t thread sorry

Sorry to derail thread jesy if you want to pm me then pls do

Had a good date today, loads to talk about but no instant attraction. He texted me straight after and said he had a good time and should do it again soon.
While in pub I saw a guy from pof that I exchanged a few messages in the summer. We instantly recognised each other and he looks very handsome in person. He texted me a few hours later to say he recognised me and that I looked beautiful. We're now messaging, small world. Lets just hope he doesn't start getting sleazy with messages.

Also my date was shorter than he had put on his profile and I had heels on. Wish men would put tea height, I do like a man to be taller.

I get that gotta my guy I've had two dates with is same height as me ! But I can cope with it , as he has great personality etc . shorter than me I can't do

Thanks for the advice Scrambled.

Just got back from my date. It was really nice. Went for drinks then got some dinner. Plenty to talk about. Not my usual type but he was really nice and would definitely be up for seeing him again - just need to see if he feels the same. I'm so relieved. The date drought is over!

Gotta - that's really cool. Let us know how that goes. That's almost the exact same way one of my friends ended up with her husband.

Tortilla Glad your date went well, I find second dates are better because you both will be even more relaxed in each others company.
I will call the pof guy Mr Smiley, he was messaging me last night and said he was late for a meeting because he was trying to find me on Pof. It was awkward being on a date and spotting him at bar, I fancy him so at least i can tick that box. But still i don't know him and he could still turn out to be sext pest, i hope not.
Has your date contacted you yet?

Dippin I know what you're saying about height. Nearly didn't respond to someone on Eharmony because they are 5ft 7 so same height as me. It would feel a bit off dating a shorter guy especially as my ex is 6ft5 but in the long run things like height are irrelevant. One of my friends from uni is 5ft8 and she married a guy who is 5ft4.

I have a date tonight with a civil servant. We haven't texted or messaged much which I think is helping me keep an open mind and not imagine what he's like. Going for dinner in Covent Garden.

Sorry meant odd not off above.

That sounds very promising gotta

I have a bit of a dilemma. Mr Beard. We have been texting a lot since the weekend. His DM has a terminal illness & is in hospital at the moment.
I think he needs more support than I can give him. There's no spark for me but I can't have that convo with him yet....

Gotta - wow what a coincidence is that with the man in the pub?! Hope he turns out to be as you say not sleazy...

IMNOT that sounds awkward. If not not when would you tell him there's no spark? His DM could be in hospital for ages...

Dolly - I think that sometimes helps not texting/messaging and building up pics in your head.

I am off to Flamenco display in SW London tonight and then off to a Brixton (sod it I'll say it!) I think Love Brixton Birthday Party tomorrow night. I think sometimes you do something you enjoy you may meet someone. Doesn't help I feel pants today and tired...

Coffee and Hot Peperami's might help your tiredness, Super.

Super, that sounds like a great Thursday night. Maybe you'll feel more awake later.

I haven't heard from him today yet (bad sign right?) and not sure whether to text or wait and see if he does. Any advice would be welcome.

MadeMan - is that your failsafe tiredness remedy coffee and hot peperamis?! Is that pizza in that latter?!

I've got a cold and for some reason was very warm probably temperature!

Tortillas - thanks looking forward to it...

I'd wait for now. sometimes men aren't texters sometimes they are busy.

Hot Peperami but pizza is good too, Super. If you have a cold now it means you're less likely to have one for xmas, which is good. I was ill one christmas and I couldn't eat my roast potatoes.

Super I take flamenco dance lessons. Have a brilliant time.

Tortilla I would wait , I know its tempting to send a text. If a guy is interested he will be in touch, he will be wanting to see you again.
Imnot Would a spark happen if you got to know beard more. The guy I had a date with yesterday was very nice and easy to talk to but not my type and he's 26 and living with parents, could be a mate but I was not attracted to him.
Annoying when you feel attraction for the guy but he's got a crap personality. I don't want some fit very good looking man but chemistry and sexual attraction.

Made In your male opinion, the guy I saw at the bar yesterday is messaging me which is good but he seems too eager with compliments and addressing me as gorgeous. I don't feel comfortable with this "Hello Gorgeous" and last night he said he would be thinking of me. Should I be cautious because its like he's saying stuff to flatter me. Maybe a players move, he's seen me in the flesh but he's not sat in front of me and spoken to me. Its all about looks which worries me its just sexual attraction. I did say I found him Handsome but I am not going on about it too much in messages.

Dolly AFAIK it's just an expo of dance (flamenco) eg we're not doing it... looks fun tho

Gotta - spidey senses? if they seem a bit off cos he's paying compliments/saying stuff you wouldn't be keen on then just keep that in your head. But it could may well be how he works/what he thinks women like to hear and that's ok too, as long as you're cool with it.

Super Over the last 6 months of old I am slowly learning. Even if I go on a date with him and find him very tempting, I will be taking it slow and will not be dtd. If that's all he's after then it should become evident.
My exh was never complimentary, not romantic and never told me that I was beautiful. Mr Smiley said he thought I was beautiful and couldn't take he's eyes off me at the bar, couldn't stop thinking about me untill he found my profile. Death by flattery, its not Tha I have no confidence just not use to this level if compliments.
Mr young soul text me gorgeous, sexy, madam (not sure what he meant by that) and I'm sure he just saw me as a sexual person.