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[jesy]

Can I start us ???'

Hey jesy not as old as me and I still have not given up hope. My DM remarried in her late 60's.

Blossom

Never even lived with a bf let alone marriage x

Scrambled pleased to hear your date went well!

Gotta good luck!

Jesy you seem to be really down on yourself.. you don't need a date to get out and enjoy yourself at the weekend. I often spend weekends alone.. Great, time to please myself. Get yourself out for a walk with your dog, you never know you might get chatting to someone and make a new friend.

scrambled that date sounds good.

jesy anyone who puts fake pics up is a bit of an idiot. why do they do that?!

Blossom agree with what you say - watching Greys or other is preferable to dating/communicating with tossers!

super I suspect people putting up fake pictures happens more than we suspect, Or very out of date ones. So many men I have met seem to be shocked/relieved I look like my profile pic, so seems not just men doing it sadly

She no good with people so do t go out often.

If it wasn't for her I'd end it

jesy you sound very low today, is there someone in RL just to meet up for a coffee?

jesy - I've only lived with a few people - engaged once...

Trust me I sometimes think - am I destined to be celibate forever or is it just that I'm no good at relationships...

Have let a few men go who were probably keepers...

if you're lonely then OLD will appeal more. I'm only so so about OLD now as I've got a job and friends etc.

But I've got at least 2 friends who are/were rubbish at dating and one (Korean lady) is now internet dating like mad.

Blossom

No one I'm afraid, I do try but no one ever seems to want to

Huni I thought I was invited to a former work thing recently and when I turned up ( after borrowing money to go) turned out I wasn't it was a group text and I shouldn't have been there.
It was the comment of oh are you meeting some one here

Well date 2 last night went really well... We are meeting again at the weekend it's all very natural and very nice.. I'm trying not to get carried away with it all tho.
For the last few weeks I had been messaging another guy , but due to work and kids we never met... He still texts , I haven't really been replying.... do I say that I have met someone or do I not reply... He seems a really nice guy but I think it could all be quite boring... hence I call him Mr nice to my friend. Whereas lasts nights date has me laughing with texts and in reality. ...

jesy I think you need to get your self esteem sorted... quit trying to date until you feel good about yourself. A guy is not the bee all of life. Yes it is hard being alone all the time , but better to be alone than with a twat. Can you go visit family ?

I live with them

But still alone ,being alone with ppl around is even worse

Dipping

That won't ever happen 25 years of depression and eating disorder not going away .

Jesy Dippin is right you need to work on you before Dating, especially OLD, is hard enough when feeling good.

totally different issues to you jesy but the difference in me dating before my divorce and me since divorce is amazing. My friends all say I'm a different person since the day my divorce came through... All the crap was behind me... I can handle the twats better. .. even when a guy I liked turned out to be married ... I moved on. Your own head being straight is a must for dating I think. Do you go to counselling or anything ?

Just having a bad few weeks guys.
No counselling was offered it but what's the point it not going to change anything , I used to be happy and well old has sorta helped made me feel a little pretty as nd I made an effort with looks , but in last few weeks been basically used or lied to by ppl old and in real life.

My so called friend won't even let me see her baby as she knows I'd love one but she being funny.

I'll be fine guys glad I have you lot x

jesy you should not dismiss counselling, what have you to loose, sounds to me that it could really help. OLD is tough place. You seem to project an awful lot, re your friend and baby has she actually said she won't let you see her baby or something you feel?

You really should go to counselling jesy it can make such a difference to your life.

She has said , I sent a card it was returned and when I refresher said no I don't want you to see him

Let me get this right, you sent a card to a friend to congratulating on the the birth of her baby and she returned it?

Jesy I agree with the others, I think you should give counselling ago. I don't think you should look for friendships from your exes, they don't sound like they have much respect for others from what you say. There are free activities out there, could you join a book club or something? Just as a way of meeting new people.

Yeah blossom
I was so pleased for her.

She on fB under a false name she must think I'm stupid not to notice it lol
Tbh she can go to he'll but all I wanted to say congratulations

jesy I know this might sound daft as I don't know a lot about you, but I know you have dogs.

why don't you see if you can volunteer with something to do with them? an animal rescue centre or something? If you'd like to do that.

Also the eating disorder and depression has anyone besides your GP actually tried to get this sorted out? Are you on meds for your depression?

I'm not magically trying to find a solution to your problems and I get how OLD makes you feel good about yourself, attractive etc. New friends would be a start.

I know if I didn't have my job, friends, family and other interests (not a huge amount but enough) I'd be unhappy.

You sound such a nice person, educated, with a degree etc. That's the thing with threads like these, when all goes well it's hearts and flowers yet when it doesn't the singles can feel so lonely, but at least we support each other here!

Super

Thank you for your kind words ,

I'd volunteer but the restriction of the job centre rules make it so hard. Even if I get work I need regular work each week but agency can't guarantee it.
With the eating Mr IT actually helped lol as he never made me feel ashamed of it and encouraged me to eat.
My gp is hopeless ,and I'm not on medication I don't want to end up like my mum.

I'm feeling better now my dog home x

jesy the person with the baby is not a friend then. One of your X's girlfriend with an X to grind ??