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[jesy]

Can I start us ???'

Great first date today with the guy I met on POF. We met during my lunch hour and we got on really well, the conversation flowed easily and there were no awkward pauses. Within a couple of minutes of me leaving he had text to say what a lovely time he had had and to ask if I would like to meet up again . We have been in text contact all afternoon which is nice. We are going to co-ordinate babysitting (he is a single dad) and arrange a date ASAP. We were thinking the cinema possibly

Evening all!

I was on the previous dating thread under a different name. Just briefly, I met a guy on POF, had 3 dates (sex on the 3rd) and they guy cooled off completely and told me he wasn't interested anymore as I got a bit shitty the day after because he didn't get in touch. He knew I wasn't after a ONS and I really really really liked him.

Since then we've text a handful of times - just hi, how are you kind of thing.

So yesterday he started messaging me, and we've been having a chat. He says he'd like to see me again. Then he mentioned a works Xmas do, would I go, he can book a room, we can just cuddle and wake up together etc.

So out of the blue, I'm seriously suspicious as to why all of a sudden he's back. I spent 2 weeks moping around after things didn't work out last time, do t want to feel like that again.

I should tell him to do one right!

Gotta

I don't have his number , he was just playing me I guess should have known better .
If I wasn't so lonely I'd not bother with OLD

Very suspicious Anon, as much as you like him I would steer well clear. I mean it could turn into a FWB situation and if you're both happy with that then great but if not then it will be really crap.

jesy Your not alone feeling lonely, I kept dating Mr Young because I liked not being on my own but he was doing stuff that was making me anxious. My exh was my first boyfriend from 18 to 32 so I am muddling my way through dating and dealing with my mixed up emotions and insecurities.
Anon I had a bloke get all weird after we dtd and sending me mixed messages. I ignored him after he said he didn't want us to be FBuddies and wanted to be friends. A few months later he tried to start up contact again. I ignored him, I think you should. Just cuddling, ya right.

I'm a bit nervous about my date tomorrow, he's only got one pictures on profile. This might sound silly but I keep imagining turning up and there's an imposter. Meeting outside a pub on busy high st, maybe I will hide across the road and wait for him to arrive and do a runner if he looks nothing like picture.

"...and do a runner if he looks nothing like picture."

If he looks nothing like his picture, how will you know it is him?

Anon - tell him to feck off!!! Cheeky beggar.

Sounds good scrambled

I have noticed tis the season to grab a date for the works Christmas meal, anon

Scrambled can you try and meet for dinner before the cinema. I often do this with a male friend and it's a nice mix of chatting and then chilling. Otherwise you won't be talking to each other much.

Sounds like a plan Dolly, may suggest that

Good point Made, Meeting at lunch outside pub so probably a few smokers lingering outside. He's suppose to have a beard, says he's 5ft 8 so probably only a few inches talker than my 5ft 4.
He text me tonight saying he's very nervous and hopes I like him. Have to see what happens.

Hey daters

I'm going on a date tomorrow night and I'm so nervous! It's only the 3rd date I've been on since splitting with ex 2 and a half years ago, and the last date was over a year ago. I haven't met this guy before, we've just spoken on text - he's a friend of a friend.

Any advice on how to stop being so nervous would be great. I've almost cancelled a few times but he sounds nice and I figure if I don't face the fear, I'm never going to meet anyone.

Hi Tortillas. Do you think there's a chance you could speak to the guy on the phone today? That can sometimes break the ice. Remember, everyone's favourite topic is themselves, so if you can't think of anything to say then just ask him something about himself. Just the chatting should help you to relax. Make sure you look lovely so you feel confident. I usually like to get to the place about 10 mins early so I can be the person waiting rather than having to look around for them. I will often text and say what colour jacket I'm wearing so they can look out for me. Makes it less awkward all round if you spot each other easily.

Above all, have a great time and make sure to report back.

Apparently his pic wasn't him ie Mr builder

Oh well I guess, still a bit hurt that some one lie , what did he think I'd not notice .
Little white lie I can cope with but this hurt my feelings.
I asked if any of the pictures were him and he replied No.

I'd look forward to the weekend as now I'm on my own again ,

Not sure how much more I can take , the job fell thru as well and Mr carpet I very much doubt will happen.

jesy I had a bloke do the same to me. These kind of people are not right in the head and just mess with yours. Move on swiftly and we are better off alone at the weekend than with some toss pot. I think we need to be more selective, I tend to get odd men.
Got my date today, not sure what I have let myself in for, he's only got a artsy head shot picture on profile. Text seem ok except for calling me hun and gorgeous, he's not met me in flesh yet.

You never know what's round the corner jesy so keep looking and step over the time wasters like Mr Builder.

Gotta

Personality was great tho that what the kick in the teeth

Jesy did you meet Mr Builder? or has he just fessed up about fake pics. These people are really not worth head space either way, as Gotta better spend the weekend alone then with a total tosser.

He confessed about the pictures.
But it yet another weekend alone , it was my birthday the other week and well I was alone

@gotta - I like to at least see how a woman chews her food before I start with the 'hun' and 'gorgeous' pet name stuff.

jesy look you know how easy it is to get a date, but what is the point if with the wrong, seriously I would rather spend a weekend on my own watching endless episodes of Grey Anatomy ( my latest fad) than waste it on tossers

Blossom

When it every weekend that your alone , waiting for someone to text it gets a bit much.

I know jesy I really do but mr Right will appear one day, just don't sell yourself short.

I am messaging a few atm but am being very cautious as when I next go out on a date hope it will be worth it.

X being a knob with money and making me feel guilty to asking, sent me a horrid text last nigh, he 26 days late in paying me grrrr, sorry for rant

Blossom

Wish you were right but I'm to old , wasted to much time looking after others