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[jesy]

Can I start us ???'

Dolly

He texted to send a job advert he'd seen in local paper he thought might be suitable for me on Thursday .

Good looking bloke asked me on a date said didn't ask me before as thought I was smart lol

Do I believe him

I'm not sure I understand, jesy. He didn't ask you on a date before because he thought you were intelligent, and now he's decided you're not, he's asked you out?

Is that right?

Bant

I told him not to be so daft just cause I have a,degree doesn't mean I'm intelligent.

It just what I had to do to get a job I wanted.
He seemed to think we'd have nothing in common as he a builder and I have a degree .

But we will see what happens as he had a date last night.

Can I ask a quick question please?

I have two dates this week, one tomorrow and one Tuesday. The Tuesday one I am really looking forward to and we have been chatting loads etc. The Monday one, not so much. He seems nice and has been messaging me on WhatsApp but I just don't really want to go. The last message was "I hope you don't cancel"

How do I let him down gently? I don't want to be a cow and hurt his feelings but also I don't want to waste my lunchtime.

To me the hope you don't cancel bit is a bit like emotional pressure , just like the guy with me a few weeks saying it my last chance and then blocked me as I had a babysitting job come up .

I'd say some thing about he is nice and enjoyed chatting but don't think it will go any further.

Ah dolly I know that feeling... but last night I had a date and it went really really well. We had messaged alot during the week , but in person we laughed and laughed as much. We agreed on the date to have a second date !!

Can I join this thread, please?! Haven't mumsnetted for a few years but loved it when I did ... and am just back into OLD.

46, 3 DC 6,8, 10, work full-time, all good with ex. 5'5" (no longer stretching for 5'6" after the advice - thank you!), blonde'ish, functional boobs. Tried OKC on Friday night but it was bonkers - lots of men saying Id liked them? No idea what I did! So clearly technologically under-skilled ...) otherwise MA and GSM.

Scrambled ... I'd say go to both. You just never know what people are like IRL. And also Monday can be practice for Tuesday, takes the pressure off a bit? But as Jesy says, he is using emotional pressure, and people do cancel before if you really can't face it. Maybe saying that is too weird? Or maybe he's just really looking forward it it? Hmmm.

Having said that, even on my most excruciating dates, I've learned something interesting about the world, the city I live in or myself. But I do quite like the American, "dating as a training ground" idea. So much easier when it all goes wrong and I can just tell myself, I've learned something for next time.

More of looking on pof the more I'm convinced there should be a liars, known married engaged in relationship bit on here to warn us idiots or innocent s of them.

In last week I have come across an ex who was merrily shopping for an engagement ring despite a few days before on line

Mr IT suddenly popped up in my city search doesn't say when on line but new pics, and hadn't shown up a few weeks before.

Maybe I'm getting cynical lol

Hi Whoknew Afraid I'm not au fait with OKCupid. It doesn't seem to be much used by my target market

Scrambled I would go to both, I find you don't know until you meet someone... if you don't go Monday, then don't hit it off with the Tuesday guy, you might regret it!

Doc

I think OKC is the best od site for 'women seeking women' - men can't contact you and you can't see straight women.

whoknew
From what I remember you can give people 'stars' if you like their profile, and they get told you like them, or maybe they get told if you've just looked at their profile.

Doesn't mean you've got to chat with them, either way

Dippinmytoe really glad your date went well! He's sounds great. I know it's a numbers game. I've had friends meet their partners online but it's been at least 10 dates until they met.

Tbh, the "I hope you don't cancel" is part of what's putting me off ironically. It's the third time he's said it and during our chats I have given him no reason to think I am going to cancel On the positive side, Mr Tuesday and I are going to have a phone chat tonight when both our boys are in bed. My DS is 11 and his is 9.

dolly I've been on a good few dates over the last year... We just seemed to have clicked!! he was outside my tick boxes... older than what I was looking for .. but looks and acts younger. We met , and it was relief that we actually got on in reality. Other guys I've met I've been clock watching and looking at my phone ! We were both disappointed when it was time to go. By no means am I getting carried away... its great we got on and second date happening, but it could all go pear shaped, so I'm keeping an open mind but hoping it all develops .

"I told him not to be so daft just cause I have a,degree doesn't mean I'm intelligent."

Sadly, this is true in some cases. I've met a few people with multiple degrees coming out of their arses, but alas no common sense.

I'm not suggesting this is you Jesy, I'm sure you're fine.

"He seemed to think we'd have nothing in common as he a builder and I have a degree ."

I don't think it makes much of a difference does it? When Brush Strokes used to be on telly, every woman in the country seemed to have a liking for painter Jacko.

"Tbh, the "I hope you don't cancel" is part of what's putting me off ironically."

He's laying on the needy guilt trip.

Oooh yes. Karl Howman. He was a bit of a sort

Damn you Rioux, I was just coming on here for advice as to what to text him to say I'm not coming. Looks like I've got to go now cos strangers on the internet say so

Have just got home from last night's date

Come on BABES, spill You know you want to!

scrambled I'd go on the date unless it puts you out financially or time wise etc or if you feel uncomfortable. As was said up thread, view it as a practice date for Tues.

Yeah, completely disgraced myself last night. No alcohol involved as I thought I would be driving home after dinner...
plus points - he's lovely, caring, funny, giving , good looking.
But I think he is too young & we are at different stages in this crazy thing called life. He's never been married & doesn't have children. I've done all that, come out the other side & basically Mr Beard is a no go, it's just not gonna happen.

I am hanging my head in shame

I have not only gone against MN instructions by telling Mr Monday that the date is off but I told him via WhatsApp and then immediately blocked him like the coward I am. I have also hidden my profile on POF so he can't talk to me on there. I am actually embarrassed by my actions!! I feel about 13