What does this say about a person, how they see their relationship and really feel about DH.

[MyBrothersKeeper]

A GF has been on pill for years with no issues or baby scares. About a year after marriage, the now DW announces she’s pregnant with ‘no idea’ how it happened (starting a family hadn’t been discussed with DH). She wasn’t ill or on other medication. No question here of parentage child is defo his. However, GF cheated with OM when dating BF but denied it to him (but it did happen!!).

So, she got pregnant on purpose to try and cement relationship/trap DH, knowing that the truth about cheating would eventually come out and worried he’d be off???? Thoughts anyone.

None of your business. And a pregnancy scare isn't actually a thing, you're either pregnant or you aren't. If you are then your contraception has failed, if you aren't then it hasn't. A few days of worry thinking you are pregnant and then finding out you aren't doesn't affect the efficacy of your contraception!

Op did you have ideas about you and the DH at some point?

Its her brother.

Gossip mongers and speculators can be very damaging. You don't know the facts, only some of what you've been told (which may be true, or only partially true), and you're speculating on the rest. AKA making it up.

Accidents happen. All the time.

Contraception sometimes doesn't work - even the pill. It's not just the trots/vomiting that can have an effect. Forgetting one, dodgy batch (its a product like anything else), things like St Johns wort can interfere with it etc.

The only form of contraception that is 100% reliable is not having sex.

"No issues or baby scares" is neither here nor there! I can't for the life of me see why you think this would be relevant. You must be a man to say this!!!

If you are neither the DW or the DH it's none of your business. If you are the DH, then you should talk to your wife about it.

I have to say to talk about "trapping" someone who has already taken a voluntary decision to get married and is married is a new one on me!!!

To those saying to keep out of it, none of your business etc etc – how do you know my help or advice hasn’t been asked or even desperately sought. Whether I’m the sister, friend, DH, even DW feeling bad, or just a nosey bastard is irrelevant.
The op asks for thoughts on a certain scenario not comments on getting involved or the medical issues of pill….

My thoughts remain as beak out

Until you proffer more info, natch. We can only work with what we get, non?

Have you always disliked your sister in law?

But your OP is almost gibberish, are you seriously telling me some poor misguided soul is desperate for your advice?

Is it the woman? What can you advise? What's done is done.

Is it the man? Again, what's done is done.

Where is the question?

What's the difference between a thought and an opinion?

People are giving you their thoughts. They're mostly thinking it's really nothing to do with someone who is neither wife nor husband. They are also thinking that it is possible for a pill to fail and they are thinking whether or not anyone ought to get involved in a couple's situation. All of those things are in fact thoughts on the situation you described.

People can only go on what you put in your OP. You mentioned nothing about your opinion being asked for by either involved party.

If you were looking for a particular type of thought or post, then you need to be more specific.

You don't want anyone to give their thoughts on your role?

You just want thoughts on the scenario? But not about pill issues?

If you ask a more specific question, I am sure lots of us will try to answer.

OP...are you that one that's the ex ow of a man with kids and u got dumped but still can't let go?

If your help or advice has been sought surely you can see no good can come of you interfering in any way. Really, you must back off. That is sincere advice.

You asked for our opinion and you're getting it.

Why aren't you interested in the medical issues of the pill, surely that's central to your theory, everyone is telling you that she could easily have got pregnant while taking it properly. I did.

I'll bet,

Op is the one who cheated and got pregnant. Friend or Sis doesn't want to get involved and it's the OP's DH who will leave when this all comes out in the open.

Either that, or it's someone very close, one of the three involved, possibly 4 if the op's OM is married.

The only person who can answer your question is the DW.

Nobody else can tell you the circumstances of conception or the reasons/lack thereof.

Meant to say, if all you are looking for is an answer to the exact question asked in your title "What does this say about a person, how they see their relationship and really feel about DH"

Then the only possible answer is - it is impossible to know.

Because you can't get inside someone's head and you don't know the ins and outs of someone else's relationship and you always get a bias when one party comes to offload.

So if you only want an answer to that question which forms your thread title and that alone, with no other thoughts or opinions on the content of your op

then the answer, for me at least, is

nothing at all. Not enough information.

About a year after marriage, the now DW announces she’s pregnant with ‘no idea’ how it happened

Well that blows your theory that she got pregnant to get him to marry her doesn't it?

Based on your username, I'm guessing DH in this scenario is your brother. Despite what you may think, you're not your brother's keeper, he's an adult capable of making his own life choices. If you had irrefutable evidence that his GF cheated and he was aware of this and still married her, that's his prerogative.

If the child in this scenario is your niece/nephew I assume you would like a relationship with her/him? If so, you need to find a way to get over your resentment of the mother, or at least hide it, and if you do get your "I told you so moment" try to refrain and provide support to your brother instead.

Based on your username, I'm guessing DH in this scenario is your brother. Despite what you may think, you're not your brother's keeper

Don't jump to conclusions - OP could be from Norfolk and might have been 'very involved' in her brothers love life, until he went and married his cousin and spoilt her fun.

pmsl

"from Norfolk"

It's a leading question based on lots of assumptions. The facts, as I can see them, are

*the wife cheated prior to the wedding. Husband found out but she denied it.
*they got married

• she was on the pill
• she is now pregnant

Based on that there are two possible scenarios.

She could have got pregnant deliberately but I'm not sure why anybody would do that other than as a last resort. And since they haven't talked about having babies yet one can assume it isn't a last resort.

Or she could have got pregnant by accident. It happens on the pill (happened to me once).

How do they both feel about it? If they're happy keep your beak out. If they're a bit shocked/frightened they might want to discuss options. If he's suspicious why the FUCK did he go through with the wedding?

Not really sure what the OP is asking.