I have been married for just over a year, I have 2 children from a previous relationship. I love my husband and he treats me and the kids great, we have holidays, have a nice house and mostly everything is good. In the evenings my husband teaches kickboxing to adults and teaches kids at the weekend. A few (about 8) months ago I expressed a curiosity about taking it up, he had been teaching my kids bits and pieces and I wanted to lose weight and thought it would be a good way to start, he was delighted and kept going on about it asking when I was going to start etc. I kept putting it off for various reasons as I do with most things like this but he got more and more angry with me over it and it became his 'mission' to get me to a class. I eventually agreed to go one evening and whilst I enjoyed the class I told him that I probably wouldnt make a habit of going as I found it too tiring and didn't really 'fit in' with the rest of them (nobody talked to me!). He was furious and we had a massive row over it, he wouldnt just let it go and I became angry and confused as to why it really mattered if I went or not, it was HIS hobby, not mine.
I reluctantly agreed to go a few more times to keep the peace and he became obsessive over it, went nuts if I tried to get out of going and started to insist on me going 3/4 nights a week, I was exhausted but he laid the guilt trip on telling me I was showing the kids how to just give up on things. We have had row after row about it, on a couple of occasions he has physically dragged me to the front door and threatened me to get into the car and stop being lazy. I am starting to feel depressed about it, I hate it and spend all day every day trying to think of excuses as to why I can't go, it is made worse by the fact that he forces me to go through routines with him at home too, when the kids are in bed he decides we have to 'practice', this gives him an excuse to hit and kick me before going nuts because I'm not defending myself properly, the kids have walked in on this before and were terrified when they saw him backing me into a corner hitting me in the head and face screaming at me to 'use my defenses'. He never hits me full force so it's not as if he's beating me up but he does hurt. I'm so sick of the whole thing I feel like walking out, he says I'm disrespecting his passion but I don't mean to, I just want it to go back to the way it was where he does it himself and I don't have any part in it, before all this started he was fantastic, now he's aggressive and moody all the time.
I don't know how to handle this anymore, I tried going to keep him happy but he pushed it by bringing the training home too, nothing I do makes him happy.
Sorry for the name change.