My wife and I of 4 years have two beautiful girls (6 and 3) and house with mortgage. Found out my wife has fallen out of love with me and desires another man at her work. She won't leave me and the girls, but she doesn't want me to leave as either will hurt and upset the girls. I've been trying hard to make it work for weeks and show her how much I love her and care. I can't do any more, but my wife wants time to see if or how her feelings change. This is really hard for me and my heart is broken. Winning her back could take months, but it seems she's only really interested in sleeping with others and not me. She wants a loveless, fake marriage where we appear normal and play happy families and then both see other people. I can't do this though and need to be loved and desired by one person, who I feel the same about. I don't know how long it can go on like this!? I feel trapped and like I can't do anything. I love al my girls and never want to leave or hurt them. I don't feel like I have much choice though. How long would you give your partner in this situation? If we didn't have the girls I would have walked out on day one...