Does your partner give you sufficient emotional support?

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Does your partner give you sufficient emotional support?

Yes/No will suffice

Yes-ish.

I think it's a male thing, but he wants to fix problems... I don't think he understands when sometimes you just need someone to wail to rather than ideas of howto fix them. But at least he genuinely cares about my problems, and will go out of his way to do these practical things to make me feel better.

Awww, mupperoon, that just made me melt!

Yes, totally.

Yes. As a family we are all hugely supportive of one another.

No. We're now separated.

No.

Yes, I always turn to him first and my best friend very soon after as she is just brilliant at listening and advising. Dh is hugely supportive but not great for thrashing things out with.

Yes. But he's quite something. Most of my friends wouldn't say the same.

Yes. It's great to have someone who is always in your corner.

yes mostly

At the moment no we are both going through hell at the moment but I'm not coping at all and my dp is very detached :(

Yes. It's a very small amount but that's sufficient for me as I'm not really emotional and am rarely in need of support.

Yes. He's the most emotionally intellegent man I know. He's very good at calming me down, comforting me and being in tune with my needs. He's the first person I turn to in any situation and he's a great istener.
A relationship where my partner wasn't emotionally available would be my worst nightmare.

No. He has depression and can't support himself iyswim. I know he loves me and he tells me that, but I don't really have any support. Before that, he was emotionally supportive and i felt calmer just by being with him, it's a very noticeable and big difference.

Yes, but it isn't the same as support from girlfriends. He refuses to give me definite answers, generally he adds more questions to the mix.

Yes, absolutely. He's a wonderful listener and I know if I need a sounding board or someone to talk to, he'll listen and help as best he can.

I feel really sad that a lot of people don't feel supported - surely it's the point of a life partner, to have some kind of emotional support?

It depends. If he is feeling low himself then no, not really. I would say we lean on each other equally emotionally. Its hard as we go in cycles of grief over our son's autism- its when we are both down about it that its v difficult. At the moment is one of those times (since about June). I am taking steps to try and give us space etc but most of the time we both dont have the emotional energy to support the other. He is an excellent husband and dad though.

No

I think he would, but I am out of the habit of asking since his mum's suicide.

I suspect he would be horrified if he knew that, it sounds as though I am still protecting him. But I do recognise it is my fault that I don't let him know as much as I used to.

Having said that, he is currently supporting me in my almost constant moaning about the stress of my job. I have his permission to stick it out, wait for 4 years [semi retirement] or walk tomorrow

And I'll qualify my no with the fact that he'll go to great lengths with the practical support - I've been unwell for the past week and he's taken up a lot of the slack. He simply doesn't do emotional stuff, when it comes to other people. I often have to coach him regarding empathy towards the boys, too.

Yep unlike my exH

Practical support yes- I can just hand "fixable" problems over to him

Emotional support - No
I have learnt to deal with stuff myself, ask my Dad ironic or a good friend in RL. But it is lonely.

No and that is why he is now my exH

Interesting, as while I said how great my my DH was with emotional support, he's not great with practical support at all!

He never notices when anything needs cleaning / replacing / fixing to the extent that I feel I have to micro-manage him. I suppose I tolerate this because he's so fantastic emotional support-wise.

Yes, he does, through pretty much everything. Sometimes I may need to ask for support but that's not very often.