The polite response to news that my 41yo STBXH has moved in a 19yo?

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I smiled politely and only made 200 sarcastic comments.

But he's introduced her to the DC and I expect I'm going to have to meet her properly and make this situation normal for them.

Its not the age gap that's worrying me too much, but the fact that she is the same age as his first born and our 8 year old has commented on it.

Do I need to say anything or shall I just leave it to them to explain?

Just grin and bear it.

I doubt it will last long when the new GF has to be a 'step mother' to DC similar in age to herself. She will hopefully go out and get herself a younger, less encumbered man.

Leave them to the explaining is my advice.

My own private response would be HA HA HA HAHAAAAAAAAAAAAAA, but I'm childish like that

Leave it to them. It'll last about a year.

Only 200? You where very restrained. Although if my Ex did this I'd be laughing too much to make any comments.

Zucker - My response was similar, he told me about her when I was at his flat but failed to mention that he'd put her in the boiler cupboard for the duration of my visit, she heard the entire thing

Same age as his eldest? No, leave him to do any explaining.

his first born is probably totally freaked out. Is that your child too? How is she doing?

He put her in the boiler cupboard???? People actually do things like that? I would have told him to sling his hook just for that!

As above, let him do the explaining. I might helpfully add that your daughter and the OW will have so much in common.

No she's not my child, she's from his first marriage. I don't think she knows yet.

In laws met her the other day by accident and he was ridiculously embarrassed, told us all she was just casual sex who happened to now live with him... idiot.

Put her in the boiler cupboard?!?! For the love of God why?! Is he quite sane?

Wow! From the sounds of it, you're better of rid. He sounds like a prize prick!

Oh, he sounds lovely. What an earth does a 19 year old see in a 41 year old man who has a daughter the same age and hides her in a boiler cupboard?

and yes he put her in the cupboard! He let her out when it became obvious I wasn't going to stop making stupid remarks. She popped her head around the door and I involuntarily snorted with laughter again.

TBH it was the best day I'd had in weeks.

good god. I'd be wanting to meet her to warn her to raise her standards ..... he put her in the boiler cupboard?!

she might be being very foolish. Wonder if anyone's warned her about red flags, poor girl

But it would be very hard not to laugh out loud :D

Sounds like an all round good healthy relationship….

"oh thats nice' would be my response

with a hefty dose of

Oh dearie, dearie me.

Was she there when he described her as casual sex who had moved in with him?

I think his DD is going to be mortified, and slightly creeped out.

I'd be happy to continue laughing at him forever if I wasn't worried about him fucking up my poor DC and lovely step daughters!

She may or may not have been in the cupboard again for the casual sex comment but I'm pretty sure not even he is THAT stupid.

He put her in a jeffing cupboard?

He sounds like a complete and utter prize wazzock.

I would just stay out of the situation. As long as she is of legal age then it doesn't matter, seeing he is your ex.

I think that this is for your ex to explain as it's his actions causing the problem.

This won't fuck up your DCs as their mum obviously has her feet on the ground. Stay light and airy and let it run it's course.

You wouldn't want your ex making 200 sarcy comments on any new partner you decide to have, that's all.

He put her in a cupboard?!

She stayed in the cupboard until told she was allowed to get out and is chosing to be in a relationship with a man who puts her in cupboards when he has company ?!?! If you see her again, could you point her in our direction, I think she needs us...