The polite response to news that my 41yo STBXH has moved in a 19yo?

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I smiled politely and only made 200 sarcastic comments.

But he's introduced her to the DC and I expect I'm going to have to meet her properly and make this situation normal for them.

Its not the age gap that's worrying me too much, but the fact that she is the same age as his first born and our 8 year old has commented on it.

Do I need to say anything or shall I just leave it to them to explain?

Doesn't he have a bathroom or bedroom to hide her in when you're there?

Can't believe a homeless teenager would be described as anything other than vulnerable.

He hid her in a cupboard?!!

Were they playing hide and seek?

Surely 19 is too old for that

Well I'm 26 and DP is 40.

But we met when I was a proper adult. He didn't hide me away, he always made me feel like he was proud to be with me and I'm proud to be with him.

19 is different. When I was 19 I was mature, in that I had a child and lived alone and worked and went to uni.

But I was not emotionally mature. I was still a child in many ways, including my figure.

If I'd met DP when I was 19 he wouldn't have looked at me twice. It's very icky

We had similar, exp 32 new gf 16, our ds 14

Didnt have to introduce her to him though, they were at school together.

No one patted him on the back , all his friends thought he was mad
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Omg that is so creepy.

Oh ick...that's just creepy. Poor girl. Chickens will come home to roost.

How would he feel If his dd had a 41 year old live in partner?

Casually mention to DC "she didn't have anywhere to live so I think dads just letting her live there, I don't think it will be forever"

At least then when they inevitably break up it won't be a shock to DC.

She's staying there for the free accommodation, obvious.