What is the best relationship advice you have ever been given?

[mameulah]

Am a bit struggling just now. Would appreciate some wisdom.

tia

When you see crazy coming, cross the street.

Dump bad men.

People won;t always tell you how they feel, but they will show you.

If it feels wrong it probably is.

Take note of how he talks about women, his ex-girlfriends and his Mum.

You can tell a lot about someone by the company that they keep.

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That sums up my whole weekend. Totally agree and appreciate your words.

And that thing about how they speak about other women . (Sorry forgot your username).

Mine is 'your relationship is constantly changing.'

Keep them coming...

I also like "marry a man who is how you would want your son to grow up to be".

Kindness is essential. It's not the only thing that's essential but if it isn't there there's no point in looking for anything else.

Don't stay with anyone more than a year who wouldn't marry you.

Don't do anything in the first year of marriage that you wouldn't be happy doing for the rest of your life.

I second 'you can tell a lot about a person, by the company they keep'.

"When deciding to marry someone, if in any doubt - DON'T!"

Said repeatedly when I was growing up by my Mum, who didn't believe in pre-wedding jitters. Bless her.

Ive had the best advice given to me from Mners. Its where i first saw the Maya Angelou quote "When someone tells you who they are please listen"

Its so true.

Being a mostly single, independent sort my biggest fear was becoming someone's "other half". Ugh! Then I met a guy who suits me.
My mother said: you do give away half of yourself, but the trick is to make sure that the half you're getting in return is worth the sacrifice.

Best friend: "Your father is the stupidest fuckwit I have ever met."

Absolutely correct. (He is also a violent twat, as it happens.)

From a very old couple I saw interviewed who had been married many many years, when asked what their "secret" was to a relationship that long they replied "we just never both fell out of love at the same time"

best advice: look for the same qualities in a marriage partner as you would in a business partner.

Great advice: 'a relationship should only ever be the condiment, never the entree' Ie it should enhance you, not be your life's work. If it's taking up a lot of head space, get rid.

Other advice: get married young so you've can get divorced and still have time to meet someone who's actually right for you

Communication. Talk about anything that niggles, big or small before it ends up being a big issue. Your oh should be your best friend as well as your lover it has any chance of going on to last a life time.

Other advice: get married young so you've can get divorced and still have time to meet someone who's actually right for you

Love it

My sister's advice: Don't have a child with your husband until you have lived together for 2 years

It's not supposed to make you feel bad.

You won't be happy in a relationship unless you can also be happy being single: when you like yourself you expect more and offer more.

Communicate, support and respect with each other. If you can't do these things then your with the wrong person.

Marriage and Babies dont fix things, they test things.

If you daughter comes to you years in the future, and tells you what you've just told me about your marriage, what would you want for her?

Don't settle for someone's 'potential'. Take them as they are from day one and have the confidence to move on if you are not happy, early on.

Oh the miserable years I could have saved myself.......

'Always have a bit put by'.... my DM's pragmatic advice meaning keep some financial independence and don't be fully reliant on a partner for money. Saved my bacon