Hair Down There

[Oowhachamacallit]

OK girls, I have a new relationship and will be dtd hopefully! What is the protocol for Hair Down There?? I'm late 40's but trim and fit but haven't got a clue about what to do? Trim, shave, hairy? Whats a girl to do??

Answers on a postcard please!

Lego

We should just accept the only reason we are hair free is because society tells us to and our own comfort and personal preference/ability to think for ourselves has nothing to do with it!

Do you believe social conditioning exists?

Society plays a massive role though - probably more than you would think. When I was growing up in the 70s and 80s shaving just wasn't something anyone did at all. Pubic hair was considered very sexy - I know because I used to steal my brother's magazines - and you never saw a women in a porn mag with shaved bits. Similarly, google Burt Reynolds' Cosmo naked spread. HAIR. EVERYWHERE.

Women might pluck or tidy the edges of an out of control bush if they were going swimming, but a proper full bush was the norm. Certainly NO 11 year olds of my acquaintance in 1973 shaved. Our brand new pubes were our badge of "growing up". Anyone without pubes would have been assumed not yet to have gone through puberty. Anyone shaving them off would have been thought incredibly weird.

So what we think is an individual decision based on nothing but our preferences rarely is that. We are affected by the society we grow up in.

Suppose I don't see it as any different to putting wax on any other part of my body! And in all honestly, its the top part that hurts when I get a wax, the lips, underneath and around the arse don't hurt at all. I got to a point where I wanted something longer lasting than a razor on my legs, underarms, minge and the annoying odd hairs I get on my belly.

I didn't say evolution lead to people waxing their minge. I said times change. There were plenty of things that weren't the norm 50yrs ago, but that isn't really sound reason to not do them now.

And as for societal norms, I've already said I do things because I want to. My DH isn't really arsed one way or the other as long as he isn't going into a jungle. My friends are pretty evenly split between those who like no hair on a woman, those who like some hair but not a forest and those who have no preference one way or the other.

Well sorry to burst your bubble, but I work as an engineer. I'm as happy spending my spare time painting my nails as I am playing with engines. I'm as happy and confident in my work gear (overalls, steelies etc) as I am in a dress and heels. No need to psychoanalyse why I choose to do certain things, I do them because I want to. End of. I couldn't give a fuck how other people choose to style their pubic hair, what they wear, what they choose to do for their job. I think its fantastic that we live in the western world where we all have the choice!!

Like the hair on your head has different styles over time, so will the hair elsewhere. At the mo its in fashion to not have pubic hair. I understand this. What I am refuting is betters claim that the only reason I choose to go hair free is that society deems it necessary.

I have said it is my choice for a number of reasons and she steadfastly refuses to accept this which is insulting. I know my own mind.

I can assure you that I'd never discussed pubes with anyone when I decided to shave mine off! It was a very rash decision that I made after getting some hair trapped when using an applicator tampon!

Granted, I was already shaving my legs and saw plenty of smooth legs in the media. But it was my mum who mentioned shaving them to me and bought me a razor. This was around 1996 and my mum was 44ish then. She's always had smooth legs and my nanna showed her how to sugar them. My nanna used to make her own leg wax when she was a young woman. Not sure where they were supposed to be getting their social conditioning from, but hey ho!

I just don't see it as a big deal. Have hair, don't have hair. I did go through a very short lived phase of trying to grow it back (had already been with my DH for several years then and he gives not one fuck either way) and didn't like the reduced sensitivity or how it felt so off it all went again. Admittedly, I was just as clean with hair as I was without.

All off for me! Lycon waxing is much, much more gentle than strip wax. Been with DH 10yrs when I started waxing and I can honestly say I much prefer hair-free - as does he, but ultimately it's my body and decision. Sometimes I let it grow for a bit before booking another appointment and we both much prefer when I've been waxed. It's really not as sore as you would think if it's your preference. Try a Brazilian first maybe then as bold as you dare!

Brazilian

itsbetter, no my DP wants me to be hairless and this is something we both agree on. I came to this conclusion prior to meeting him.
BALD IS BEST :)

The first nearly all gone bush I encountered was about 1981, when I was dating a dancer. She assured me that due to wearing revealing, high-legged costumes most dancers removed most or all hair.

The trend definitely does seem to have got more common.

As to the social conditioning argument, I remember my mum talking about how in the fifties a lot of her friends started shaving their legs. Apparently it was common in the forties, due to lack of tights and stockings. She reckoned that older women looked at them askance for not being natural, I wonder if those who shaved looked on hairy legs as "dirty"?

Anyfucker Have you tried zucchini loaf - that's really good too :)

Losing - just because it is low maintenance for you doesn't mean it is for all women. I have very fast growing, thick hair. Even having a normal bikini line waxed is pretty unpleasant - it'll start to grow back within a week (none of that 'lasts 6 weeks' bollocks for me), there will be ingrowing hairs a-go-go, it looks and feels really itchy and awful. And the one time I trimmed it, as well as having sharp little hairs jabbing my clitoris (sexy, hey ) it also caught in my knickers all the time and was really itchy.

zucchini..is that courgette ? Sounds interesting...

I've had that too RiverTam. We are soooo nooonooo twins.

Yes courgette - much nicer than it sounds! I like carrot cake too though and chocolate cake with beetroot.

as long as it is moist

But is it hairy?

That's a prickly pear you are thinking of, lois

I've had smooth and ever-so-slightly fuzzy courgettes.

Was that mould on your courgette RT?

Mouldy courgettes .

I had the top inch waxed off before my c-section and it was about as painful as childbirth (and a lot more painful than a c-section). As she was torturing me, I was wondering how on earth people go the whole hog on a frequent basis (yes, I'd need to do it weekly or fortnightly at most). Maybe it is to do with hair-type then - being sparser and less dense.

Just had a Brazilian.
Anyone want to see?

You may well get plenty requests Mrs, from lots of new members they are all signing up as we speak

I once had an Italian, don't beleive the hype.