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What would you think of these texts?

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vidalsasssoon · 06/09/2014 19:06

Prompted by another thread, do you think these messages from a man to a woman are flirty/inappropriate when the man is married:

‘you’re going to get me in trouble one day!’
‘you can boss me about whenever you want’
‘Thanks for the nice view earlier Wink When are we seeing you again?’
‘That's ok but you owe me now, i can think of a good way for you to pay me back Wink ’

They weren't all in one conversation, over a few weeks. I know can’t say for sure without context but what would you assume about the relationship between the sender and receiver?

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AnyFucker · 12/09/2014 06:52

That doesn't sound "necessary" to me. 20 mins about work ? Nah.

EElisavetaofBelsornia · 15/09/2014 16:17

I'm so sorry you're going through this Vidal. He's not even 'limiting' contact which was a pretty meagre promise anyway for unacceptable behaviour. I agree with PPs about him needing to feel some consequences. How would you feel about telling him your trust has been rocked by this, and you would like him to move out while you consider your options?

LadyBrooks · 15/09/2014 16:26

These are totally inappropriate... if this was my partner I would be steaming angry

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vidalsasssoon · 18/09/2014 20:22

He is in very little contact with her now so things are better. I maybe am naive but I've thought about it all for a long time and I don't believe he meant any intent with is messages.

thanks for all your comments before

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lilmishap · 20/09/2014 02:57

If he saw you had sent txts like those would he want an explanation?

peasandlove · 20/09/2014 05:18

yeah nah, he's up to something. I've received things like that from colleagues, he's testing the waters, if he's not already up to something. And there is no such thing as a man who is "not the type" to cheat. I've known plenty of men who their wives/girlfriends would think that of who will still take an opportunity where one has presented itself. Even my dp who is "not the type" recently snogged/text a woman we know when the opportunity was there.
Keep an eye on things

foxinthebox · 20/09/2014 06:03

It often gets reported that nearly 60% of people cheat but 95% aren't the type according to their partners. Hmm

BTW I often have up to an hour conversations with people about my work but that is not really relevant with him as he wants to shag her.

chirpsgg · 20/09/2014 21:16

Sorry but you are being naive to believe that he didn't mean anything with those messages. Flirty banter in public is one think but suggestive private texts are on a different level imo

superstarheartbreaker · 20/09/2014 23:27

Ugggrrr... Was the " nice view" her pussy?

pilates · 21/09/2014 09:28

Sorry Vidal, he sounds like he fancys the arse off her.

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