Just looking for opinions on my partners behaviour. I'm a single mum of two on a low income, he is a professional who has chosen to work part time for the last 5 years because he could afford to but has taken a full time contract for the next 8 months starting this week. We've been seeing each other for 18 months and we spend 3 nights per week together from around tea time to the following morning depending on whether he is working he might stay until early afternoon but often leaves in the morning regardless. Although on Sundays he stays until around 5pm regardless of if he is at work the next day. Yesterday, he said that due to the fact that he is working full time he can now only see me one week night and Saturday night. He tells me I am his soul mate and he wants to spend the rest of his life with me however, I heard my 8 year old ask him if he wanted to marry mummy and he very bluntly said no. He is 50, doesn't have children and has never been married, although he is great with mine. He is much better off than I am but goes to great lengths to make sure he doesn't pay more than half of anything such as meals out and if my children are included he only pays for what he's had, but is quite happy to use my milk, bread, butter etc to make his pack-up for work and breakfast. He is occasionally generous (3 times in 18 months) and takes me out for a meal. Despite not financially supporting me in any way, he feels free to tell me what I should and shouldn't be doing and is very superior that he has never borrowed money (except mortgage). I think he would maintain this attitude even if we lived together or got married. My view is that if your in it for the long haul, he has the ability to pay when I don't that it is basically mean to expect me to always pay half, if not more. When, I raised it with him he called gold me a gold digger and said even if we lived together we should always pay half each. Opinions please!