Do you speak to your DH during the day when he's at work?

[confusedmum2one]

Hi

Sorry for the bizarre question.

DH leaves for work at 7am and usually gets home about 7.30pm. I don't have any contact with him during the day and when he gets in he usually says "I know you want to talk becuase you've just had baby chat all day but I want to relax and not talk because I've been talking all day".
He talks to me, but normally snippets pointing out things on the TV/football etc

He has an office job and mobile and email and I was wondering if you converse with your OH's whilst they're at work?

I'm starting to get a bit jealous/resent when he says "a girl at work did this at the weekend" or similar, makes me want to say "oh so you've got time to talk to her at work but not me". I know that's silly and of course you'll talk to the colleagues, I just think it'd be nice to get the odd phone call when he's at lunch or driving to a meeting?

Thanks

Thanks

Yeah we usually talk twice a day. Usually about shopping etc, maybe about how children are if ill or going somewhere new. He would be cross if he wasn't told iyswim
Occasionally I ring and rant out him if I have pmt and feel like I am going mad. I do sometimes worry that workmates wont' like it, but usually they are very quick calls and think the office is very friendly.

Dh rings me usually a couple of times during the day, then rings at boys bed time if he's not back, but he never speaks to me at this bed time call, just the boys. If he's out drinking he doesn't call, unless he's really really drunk, then his calls get more and more frequent wiith the progression of inebriation

dp works on the roads and we will phone text each other most of the day proberbly 5-7 times a day, we are allways in contact with each other

I call my dh a lot during the day. Sometimes to ask him to bring bits home for me or to see if he's popping in etc. Or just to say "what you doing? ,where are you?"( he's an electrition so all over the place). Or I call him if I'm stressed or lonely/bored etc. He calls me too. He doesn't really txt me much and if I text him its usually a one word reply.
If I'm busy and haven't called him all day, he usually rings and says "why haven't you rang!?" Not in a cross way , but just interested. He knows its cos I'm busy etc.

my DH works similar hours to yours confusedmum and we usually chat by MSN or text (sending photos of DD and keeping him up to date with what she's doing now if it's something big) quite a lot and then call usually 1ce to 2ce per day, usually to check when he's coming home / if he's going to the gym / what he wants for dinner etc...

Having said that there are days when he's busy and I don't hear from him at all. He is also IT geek/genius so can sometimes chat and sometimes not.

He also needs time to relax when he gets home and gets annoyed at me if I talk at him incessantly straight away, or (bizarrely) if I'm doing too much (ie ironing, cleaning etc) as it makes him feel more stressed. We usually chat quite a lot of TV in the evening

I hardly ever phone my dh during the day, at his request, because when I do it's usually bad news (last 3 have been, we've been burgled, can't book holiday we wanted, can't actually remember the other one)- anyway, he works on the basis that no news is good news. He's a senior VP in a huge company so his time (inc. lunchtimes) is booked up weeks in advance, or so he tells me. He does phone home from the car though and we'll chat for a couple of mins, but all I want to know is when he's coming home. We have a proper long chat over dinner & the rest of the evening, which I think is better because we've usually saved up some gossip from the day. I think I'd hate it if he kept phoning me up thru' the day, I'd think he was checking up on me.

I dont speak to my h even when he is home in the evenings (which is rare!) let alone during the day!

Dont mean to be flippant, just telling it as it is

DH rings me when he gets to work and at lunch time.

I ring DH prob 2x during the day for chats and he'll text me a few times to tell me interesting things (he's sahd). He'd be most miffed if I didn't call.

Thanks for sharing your situations with me.

My chat seems to have worked (I have chatted to him about it before but he didn't seem to take action).

Today I've had an MSN AND an email! Also, they seemed genuine and not just because I'd asked him to have a bit more contact!

glad to hear you're getting more contact confusedmum - it can be a bit lonely if there's no-one to talk to. I hope it continues