ex just hit me

[4littleducks]

I don't really know what to do.

Ex is the father to my two eldest DDs (19 and 16) We got together when. I was 14 had DD1 at 15 and married at 16. Ex would do nothing with the DCs and became emotionally towards the end. I left him 15 years ago.He refused any contact and maintenance payments were all over the place. He got back in touch when my DDs were young teens I have remarried and I have two other DCs. The eldest two call my DH dad. The DDs arrange to meet ex through Facebook and they refer to him as father. They see him about 4 times a year.

So the DDs had been out with him today. They said they would be back by 6 at 6 DD1 text me to say they were held up and they were going for food. I said fine DH went to work and I put the other DCs to bed.

Ex and the DDs turned up at 8:30 and DD1 looked nervous and DD2 had been crying. Ex was watching us from the top of the garden path. I asked DD2 what was wrong and the DDs told me that ex had asked about DH and DD1 had said that "dad would be in work" ex had shouted at her saying he was their only dad and DD1 had looked upset so DD2 said it wasn't their fault that DH was the only dad they knew for years. Ex had shouted at her saying she was a stupid girl and just for that he wouldn't pay for her to go through college. (Even though he isn't) I told her not to worry as me and DH were paying for college.

Ex started to walk towards us shouting saying that it didn't happen like that and it was my fault for letting the DDs call another man dad. I sent the DDs inside and told him to calm down as he was scaring the DCs. He kept saying that he fucking wasn't. Then my neighbour came out and asked if we were okay. Ex told him to fuck off and neighbour said he would call the police if ex carried on.

Ex punched me in the face and my head hit the corner of the door. Neighbour shouted and ran over to help and ex pushed him away and ran. Neighbour brought me inside and said he would call the police if I wanted I said no,And he left but said he would keep an eye out and when I was ready to go to A&E with DH he would come and watch the DCs. I calmed the DDs enough so that they have fallen asleep.

Now I am just waiting for DH to come home he won't be back for another 20 minutes at best and I am suddenly really worried about being alone and my head hurts and my DDs are scared and it feels like such a mess and I am hoping that typing all this will help calm me down.

They don't come with flashing lights, and they can cope with one disturbed night to get this on record.

Helpful DameEdnasBridesmaid.

OP I second everyone saying call the police, and you have your neighbour as a witness.

Hope your DH is with you soon and you're ok.

Your DD are already upset. They have seen their dad batter their mother.

The best thing they can see now it it dealt properly.

Phone the police.
You've been assaulted in your own home. Who he is is irrelevant.
If a man you didn't know hit you in the head what would you do? Well do that. Right now.

Mean to add. He's a danger to your children.
What if its your DD next time.

Okay yes sorry yes your right I need to call the police I will do it now or maybe go knock next door to do it.

Call the police, don't let him get away with it. Hope you are ok

If you don't call the police your DD's will assume that deep down you agree with your Ex as to who they should call Dad. And so will your DH.

Don't be sorry, you're clearly in shock.
Just stay strong and phone them.
Your DH will be home by the time they arrive.
He needs to face the consequences of his behaviour and know that he can't do this to you or your girls.

Make sure you are sitting down, get a blanket around you if you are shaking and just make the call. The sooner the better.

Call the police, and I hope you are bring looked after. Lock the door and make sure your house is secure.

Ask the police on the phone not to be noisy. They'll be used to having consideration for sleeping children in these circumstances.

Don't let this bully away with this Op.

You have had a horrible shock.
Call the Police and sit tight in the warm until your DH comes home.
Tell the Police you are planning to go to A&E and thy will probably meet you there.

Is your home secure? Is the chain on the door?

Sounds like you are in a bit of shock.. But I do agree the police need to be involved... Ex's violence & attitude towards you & your DH sounds worrying... He should be bloody grateful another man took up the slack & help raise his children.. What a moron!!

Hope you are ok.

You must call the police. You must teach your daughters that it is never acceptable for a man to hit you.

for you OP, I do hope you're ok.

I'm so sorry, he's a massive arse. Police. I doubt dcs will want that in their lives. Hope your ok.

Call the Police! Your daughters are 16 and 19? They already understand. They're adults. Young adults but adults. If they're woken up it's the holidays so at least they don't have school/college in the morning (?).

Call the Police! Your daughters are 16 and 19? They already understand. They're adults. Young adults but adults. If they're woken up it's the holidays so at least they don't have school/college in the morning (?).

Gosh, are you alright? I hope you've called the police as other posters have suggested because you really need to.

I think you are minimising to try and cope with the trauma, which is totally understandable.

You poor thing

Echoing Tintin's post. Hope you're ok.

The op has younger children in the house too.

I'm glad you phoned the police. Your DDs need to see this is not OK.

4littleducks

I hope you are OK?! What a shock that must have been for you all :(

I hope you did ring the police and have gone to the hospital to get checked out - both of those things are important. I'm sure your neighbour will sit with the children while you go.

The one consolation is that your girls are old enough to choose not to see him again if they want to do that - they're not littlies that you would be forced to send.

What an utter bastard :(