Me and my..

[RichPaInes]

She does all thing, like washing and stuff,
But kinda angry, robot like, no emotion.

She has skin cancer, not sure if it has spread yet, so many mess ups.

She is very, well she doesn't speak to me.
She just stares...

I dunno, can someone help?

why don't you try and help her.

your mother? What age are you?

Ok, so let me start this again.

I want to help her. I ask if I can, but she says I can't do it...but I know I can...

How do I help her?

Please

My mother has died. I am 42

She just seems to think all is about her. My sister is about to die of cancer at any moment, and she hasn't said a word about that.

She just pisses me off....

No emotion

Why not

I do love her, we have a child, I look after my little girl most of the time.

But it's like a fucking robot man.

How do I get thru to this woman>

Is this your wife you're talking about?

oh dear. That is very sad.

She is the one dying though. Maybe you have to let her die her way . Can you stand beside her and clean. Put on some music she likes and just stand beside her, literally. Don't argue with her. It'll tire you both out. If she wants to clean, she wants to clean. Maybe let her clean and then suggest going out for a drive.

Looking back at my posts here, sounds like I'm a crazy dude, I'm not.

Actually, completely non-aggressive, and, bit lost. Really lost.

I do offer help and stuff....

Oh dear, I don't understand this at all OP but just bumping for you and sorry you're so desperate

It is my long time partner, MorrisZapp.

Elizabeth, please read properly

Could you explain a bit more?

Your posts are very unclear.

Your partner has cancer. You aren't sure how far spread. She is being "selfish" by making it all about get, despite the fact your sister all had cancer- terminal? Your partner and you are struggling to communicate. Or, your partner refuses to communicate possibly.

Am I close? Very confusing.

All about her...your sister also has

Why don;t you understand?

My partner, she doesn't really speak to me..

She just goes thru the motions of washing and claening and stuff.

She is a blank .....

She has cancer, I try to talk about this,

I dunno

maybe she can't react in any other way right now

when was the last time you gave her a hug?

You're partner has cancer.
You've lost your mother and your sister is gravely ill.
Sorry for loss and your partners illness.
Maybe she can't help you with your sadness as she is in a bad place herself?
Have you got anyone else to support you?

rich take a breath. There's a lot going on for you all.

Do you have family around you, or friends?

Your*

Ok, let me make this clear, my sister is going to dies from cancer, it happens to be a vaginal cancer, if you must know, any moment soon.

My partner also has cancer, skin cancer, carcinoma level 3, quite severe, has a high possibility of spreading to internal organs.

We have two children, one being not mine.

The ramifications of this being that, in the unfortunate extent that it has spead, my daughter will lose not only a mother, but a sister.

In this, I am trying to speak to my partner, who is almost a blank most of the time.

I work at home and look after the kids most of the time

What do you want your partner to say?

What do I want my partner to say?

Something, anything, that she loves me?

I am here for her, no matter what. I will take care, and make sure her children have a wondeful life.

I am me, just me, always here, looking after the kids.

You just need to speak to me

But why can't I speak to her?

Tell me why?

Have you told her that you love her?

She is facing death, she needs you. Even if she isnt expressing it.

You need each other, but right now you have to be the strong one.

Im terribly sorry your all going through this.