Me and my..

[RichPaInes]

She does all thing, like washing and stuff,
But kinda angry, robot like, no emotion.

She has skin cancer, not sure if it has spread yet, so many mess ups.

She is very, well she doesn't speak to me.
She just stares...

I dunno, can someone help?

How new is her news regarding the cancer, op? I guess she will need time to adjust to it, time to process it.

did you have chance to read about help for families for those with cancer?
I found this link:
www.macmillan.org.uk/Cancerinformation/Ifsomeoneelsehascancer/Advancedcancer/Caringathome/Familyfriends.aspx

there are other charities too
www.canceradvice.co.uk/support-groups/

you need help, your daughter needs help - as much as your partner

it must be tough, because you think whatever you say doesn't make any difference

I think it would, I think people who are sick still want to be treated the same way as they were before they were diagnosed

she must be in the survival mode and who knows, maybe on the edge of a break down?

By what you mean, is that I am some 1950's idiot that expects her to be at the sink, no matter what her suffering, then sorry

No, that is not what I meant at all. Not sure how you got that from my posts.

You asked 'why can't I talk to her' and you got lots of responses, some asking for clarification and some offering advice. But you just kept repeating 'why can't I talk to her'.

A really important part of talking to some is listening and responding appropriately and you were not doing this last night. However, it might have been because the responses were coming in so fast that you couldn't keep up with them.

Anyway, keep posting for support, there is a lot of help and advice to be had here on mn if you want it. Best of luck.