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The Brave Babes Battle Bus - In Search Of Sobriety, Sunshine & Survival!

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Mouseface · 01/08/2014 15:59

Hello, I'm Mouse :)

Welcome to the thread, or our mythical Bus called Gerald! Grin

There is room for everyone. Always

There is help for everyone who wants it. Always

There is unconditional support and kindness. Always

We have two sentences that we believe in here -

    • The Vulnerable Need Our Support, Not Our Judgement
    • Alcohol Fosters Inertia

No matter what it is that you drink, how much, how often, we've ALL been in your position at one point or another...... so most of us WILL know exactly what it's like to be YOU

If you'd like to read the last thread, it's below -

THIS IS THE PREVIOUS THREAD

And if you want to read a pretty sobering thread and the history behind these many, the reason why we are all here, fighting to stay/get sober is here -

FIRST EVER BRAVE BABES THREAD

Hope to see you soon :)

Mouse x

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dementedma · 20/08/2014 21:14

OK. I have some weird new format viewing this on my tablet. Wtf? Everything is different....

StepAwayFromTheEcclesCakes · 20/08/2014 21:15

hi ilttlewhite sorry to hear about your Mum, what utter bastards eh. Everyone has gone running mad and are sporting fluorescent garb Shock I will offer to hold the sweat towels for their return Smile
haha welcome, I agree with spanna my weekend sober was a revelation, I woke up refreshed and with energy to do stuff which is a minor miracle. My closet has never been so tidy. I am on a second serious attempt to cut right back and gain control, can't say I will never drink again, much as I want to say it I know I won't achieve it yet and will settle at the moment for being in control of when and how much and not letting it get control of me again. I have no idea if this is possible but I am trying. My first attempt was 11 days, day 9 now and weekend with bank hol is looming. I have no plans to drink friday or saturday but we are going out on sunday and I will have to see how I get on. would like to think I can stay off it, or at least just sip on one or two but I will have to wait and see how I feel. Think this works best for me as if I proclaim I am not going to drink then I succumb I just feel double shit for letting myself down, so for now its 'I have no plans to' I will just keep remembering how good it is waking up with no headache, sick feeling and feeling embarrassed at what i may have said or done Blush

MaryMungoAndMidgies · 20/08/2014 22:13

Evening lovely babes! What's going on with mumsnet? Just walked for half a mile to get a signal and it looks wrooooooooong.... Xx

spanna41 · 20/08/2014 22:28

Little glad you went to Doc (they know we drink a few more units than we admit to, I'm sure) The results should be quick, you'll be fine lovely Smile Awful experience for your Mum, utter twunts. Bless her I hope she's not too shaken up. I hope they catch the bastards Angry

Wry Ma what's going on with your MN formats? Hmm

Eccles Day 9 is fab Babe Grin

MaryMungoAndMidgies · 20/08/2014 22:36

Help, MN as I knew it has run away...

Bring it baaaaaack, I don't know how to work it and my signal is awful and nobody will know that I'm trying to keep in touch, :-(

spanna41 · 20/08/2014 22:40

We're here Wry

MaryMungoAndMidgies · 20/08/2014 22:46

I'm not being guinea pigged by HQ? Am I?

Spanna is your one okay lovey? I am in the hilly McHills of Perthshire settling pals down a bit, and was hoping to catch up... Will try and get hang of it, it's peeing down and I will have to have a go tomorrow, night night lovely spanna

P.s I have very subtle rose gold sparkly nails and they are beyootiful! Smile xx

babyjane1 · 20/08/2014 23:16

Hi my lovely friends, sorry not been around much, dd2 has the cold and being all clingy so I've not had a minute, haha welcome to this fabulous bus, lots of wonderful, lovely gals on here to give you lots of advice and support. If you try and think of not drinking as a self improvement project, lots of candle lit baths, get a new book, save your daily wine money and treat yourself to something new for every day you don't drink, could be a lippy or a new face cream or a new face cream, it really helps. Get a few long walks and look after yourself, your very brave to post and your doing brilliantly braving the shops on day 2. I take thiamin (b1 vitamin) 300mg daily and it's really helped with cravings, I was on 1.5 bottles a night and more on the weekend so I know how scary and wonderful it can be to enjoy being hangover free but facing life without the crutch of wine, it's all very strange but eat well and look after yourself and don't look any further ahead than one day at a time.

I promise I'll check in properly tomorrow, I'm seriously thinking of trying running, loving the tracks mentioned. I need a boost to getting my diet moving, my weight is getting me down.

I spend several hours cleaning today, the house has been a total pig sty and I hate myself for sounding so mumsy but when the house overwhelms me everything else does too so I intend to spend the time the wee one's at nursery getting this place in order, I worry
About how to get everything done for far longer than it would ever actually take which is bloody silly.

Anyway stay strong and brave and I'll be back in the morning, not liking this new format at all, hugs to all xxx

Isindethickofit · 21/08/2014 08:58

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littlewhitebag · 21/08/2014 09:41

Hey isinde I am in Scotland and i have seen no changes at all! Not on the normal website or the mobile one. Maybe it is for special people only!

Isindethickofit · 21/08/2014 10:40

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dementedma · 21/08/2014 13:03

I am well special.
The format is ok on the pc in work but is totally gubbed on my tablet which is a pain.

wry hope the weather picks up for you. its fecking peeing down here in Central Scotland

Anneisnotmyname · 21/08/2014 13:12

I'm in England and have the new format, just tried to post and lost the lot!

babyjane1 · 21/08/2014 14:25

I'm in Scotland on my iPhone and I no likey this format.... Just lost a post also, I'm all at sea, need my babes and the other layout back... Xxxxx

Isindethickofit · 21/08/2014 14:42

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dementedma · 21/08/2014 17:40

Don't like this mobile site at all!

MaryMungoAndMidgies · 21/08/2014 20:21

Hello babes, nae loving the new improved mumsnet... Now if it was proper ma'snet, our wee thistle would have given us a users guide and fair warning. ma'snet.... hmm, kinda for a ring to it!

inde I don't even suit blue eyeshadow, so winna be running to paint me face blue any time soon! Grin

Just back from the first day, my friend kept me busy plaiting which was grand fun, mundane for her, an absolute joy for me Grin I ^reek* of horse so I'm fair delighted with myself!

I couldn't understand why I kept losing my posts last night, but looking at the above, it appears I'm not alone.

I saw him today, I explained my friend had busied me with her horse so was otherwise engaged for a while. He told me I could piss right off. So I did.

The little shites. Stuff like that makes me so mad. I hope she's okay, and that the window has been booby trapped fixed.

little don't worry about your bloods lovey, think more about the positive step you've taken by having them done. Xx

ma had one or two major (showers my arse BBC Hmm ) downpours. As my granny used to say, no such thing as shite weather, just shite choice of clothing. Grin

Stuff your housework lovely lass, horsework that's the way forward! Nowt like a clean, well banked stable to soothe the soul! I used to keep a mean loose box, and hanging up a net of sweet hay today, well if I'd been struck by lightning at that moment, I would have gone with the biggest grin ony face. I am in heaven.

spanna sorry for my whining last night, I was out in peeing rain waving my phone like a fluo stick at a nineties rave trying so hard to get a signal. Losing big posts in quick succession about finished me! I have booked a massage tomorrow morning, so looking forward to a good hard pummelling...

Later, lovely babes, I'm off for a long shower, then a soak, then bed. Candles on and everything, aaaaaaaaah.....

Big Perthshire Bosies to all, (apologies to those allergic to horses and hay) xxx

MaryMungoAndMidgies · 21/08/2014 20:22

Got a ring, nae for a ring... Scared to preview in case it went AWOL Blush

MaryMungoAndMidgies · 21/08/2014 20:23

reek Blush

spanna41 · 21/08/2014 20:53

Hey Wry so glad you had a horsey time Grin Well, sounds like you've seen more of Wankbadger's true colours, how rude he was, you were busy and because he wasn't going to get your attention, he acted like a toddler, idiot Angry
No worries about last night I did visualise you in the pouring rain, holding your phone up, in the middle of nowhere Grin I just wanted you to see that we could see your post Smile
Have a lovely rest, you deserve it Smile What are your plans for the rest of the week? x

dementedma · 21/08/2014 21:27

Hey wry an feared to post in case it disappears. Don't like this new system. Quick thistly hugs to all..

MaryMungoAndMidgies · 21/08/2014 21:54

spanna big big bosies, how are you lovely? Have you had a good day?

Oh, more dressage tomorrow, so elegant...I'm a sack of spuds in comparison. Being a bit plump doesn't help!

Cross country on Saturday, my absolute favourite! Barbecue at horse lorry on Saturday night, top day all round.

Ridden Clydesdales on Sunday, so excited, I love seeing them all gussied up, cantering round so nobly, they are so beautiful. Might bring me chamois to see if someone will let me give one a wee shine, I loved a little clumsy one last year, he was having a whale of a time but didn't necessarily do as he was bid. Bit the joy on his big hairy face - priceless... Xx

ma I know! I'm feart to look back at previous page while writing in case it all goes, bizarre how it's only some of us who have been tormented like this, ain't it. Is it a permanent thing? It's very bright, and shiny new, I can't work out how to use the attachment thing, tried to post a picture of me shiny nails, but no. It sulked. And so did I. Grin xx

I am showered, soaked, clarted in face oil, body cream and foot oil. New linen nighty on, all shiny again, off to dream of horses and men in tight breeches....

Night night, xx

hahayouaresofunny · 21/08/2014 22:07

Just been trying to read through the last few pages of this thread - feel like I've walked into the cinema, in the middle of a fast-paced film with a brilliant ensemble cast, and I'm still trying to work out what's going on!

Thank you thank you thank you to everyone who responded. So much of it resonates with me. In awe of all of you, you're ahead of me but give me a glimmer of hope I can get there. I'm hoping I will have time to read more and reply properly tomorrow, when I'm skiving at work working very hard.

Had another wobble this afternoon, then remembered this place. Felt as though if you all can do this, then so can I. Convinced myself to focus on food - had to go to the bloody shops again, so I gave myself permission to forget the diet. Figured whatever food I buy cannot possibly be worse for me than booze.

Had a scary thing happen in the shop, though. I was feeling a bit like giving in, but was determined to leave without buying booze. Headed down an aisle, not really paying attention. Flavoured water on my right - yep, that's what I want. Glance left and see some familiar labels. Sat on the shelves were Mr Jack Daniels and Mr Jim Beam. And a little further down was the vodka. OK, fine, I can cope with this... Turned my head away and started to walk towards the water and it's like I lost control of my legs. Felt like my feet were literally possessed - they slowed, turned towards the vodka and started walking. Like they weren't under my control. Only lasted a couple of seconds but it freaked me out. Seriously, WTF? Managed to get control of them, charged at the water, nearly ran over some poor guy with the trolley. Grabbed the water and got the hell out of Dodge.

Had a reasonably healthy dinner, then downed a giant bag of Kettle chips. Feeling uncomfortably full and a bit guilty about it, but partly don't give a shit because I am sober. 3rd day of no booze. Tomorrow will be day 4, and as humiliating as it is to admit it, this is the longest stretch of sobriety for me in over a decade. Cannot quite believe I've made it this far. Dreading tomorrow.

hahayouaresofunny · 21/08/2014 22:10

Holy crap, is there a prize for excessive post length? An award for being a world class waffler? Really am sorry.

TLDR: Made it through day 3. Legs and feet have minds of their own in spirits aisle of supermarket. Also am a lazy fat arse and have done nothing more productive than shove crisps in my gob. But had no booze.

venusandmars · 21/08/2014 22:12

My phone version of mn was a bit... sort of different I thought it was because I was in Aberdeen for a couple of days (strange things happen up there.... Shock )

But then look at the buggeration that happened when I tried to post a link - there was certainly some mad gremlin...

I'm trying not to confuse wry with a Jilly Cooper novel... Grin

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